Just found out today that cancer is in his bones......have never had good relations with him but that's no excuse. It is hard because I really have no none except my partner to lean on. I can't afford to fly home and do what I should....but I'm putting my faith out there that I can help him somehow soon. I Know this is OT but I trust you all to much to not say anything..xxx NM
Thankyou all for support and care and all the rest...I called my dad and we are "having dialogue" so I think that's the best way to go about it. He is very judgmental and I dissapointed him big time a few years ago by following my dreams and becoming a writer instead of going to law school. I don't think he will ever let me off for that.
Unfortunatley I've fallen down the bottom of a bottle on the way and I'm trying to get back up. Big bad. Once again thankyou all....I would not know what to do without you all. (((((hugs tight)))
I will make the best of what time I have with him despite the lack of interest on his part.
Big ((((((Hugs)))))) hun. I know how hard the road is that you are traveling right now. You taking the first step and calling your dad took strength on your part and I'm very proud of you. You really do need to do this so you don't have to live with it for the rest of your life. Closer so you know in your heart you did what you could do. Keep the phone ringing hun. Bless you and your family.
"The measure of a man's real character is what he would do if he knew he would never be found out." Thomas B. Macaulay
Meg I'm glad that you are the one who is steping up to the plate and making pease with him and closer as I'm having to do the samething with my Dad as he is dying from his Diabetes but I have allway's been close to him, just wish you the best and thinking about you.
I'm so happy you have found the funds to go visit with your dad. I really think this will do you both a lot of good. We may not always agree with what out children do but we never stop loving them. Have a safe trip and please post when you can were all here for you hun.
Hi, I am new to this post and I don't know the background to your situation with your father, but I just wanted to offer some support. My father died exactly one year ago today. We had a great relationship, I can't imagine losing him otherwise. I'm sure I would have had so many regrets. That is the one thing that I am thankful for and it gives me peace - is that he knew how much I loved him and I knew he loved me. If you feel like reaching out for your father, now is the time to do it, for the both of you. You never know the inner peace that comes with it, while they are here and after they're gone. I think the worst thing you can have in life is regret. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this very difficult time in your life.
God Bless you and your family...