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1ofhissheep
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   Posted 2/15/2007 6:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone! There is an issue that has been on my mind lately,and I thought I would share it with all of you and see what you guys think. I dont know whether or not I should pursue relationships while I am suffering from an Anxiety disorder. I have been diagnosed with GAD and underlying depression. I have panic attacks from time to time but not every day. I just dont know if it would be fair to anyone to expect them to 'put up' with my disorder. So for those of you who have a boyfriend, did you have your bf before you suffered from Anxiety or did your condition come about after you had already been in a relationship?? Just because I am stuggling with this condition, I dont feel that is any reason why someone couldnt love me or want to date me, but that is my thinking and I dont know if I am being unrealistic or not. sad . Thanks for your input.
 
God bless!!
In His Grip,
Dawn
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MsKittie
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   Posted 2/15/2007 6:19 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Dawn

Every one deserves to be loved no matter what. I personally feel if you feel comfortable enough with the person your going to go out with there would be no reason not to go. After you do see the relationship might be going somewhere then I would set him down and tell him about your anxiety. Live life while you can hun and go find someone to love you. Were all here for you to lean on if you need us. 


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1ofhissheep
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   Posted 2/15/2007 6:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much for your reply! :-) . The thing is...I didnt know if I should be upfront with this person right off the bat about my anxiety, because I am thinking, I will be nervous about dating and could possibly have a panic attack or something while we are talking, and it might take him offguard and freak him out, if he isnt aware that I suffer from that disorder.
 
 I just want someone to do things with( see a movie, walk in the park, watch sports, encourage me in my Christian walk..etc.). Sometimes it is just so hard to know what to do.
 
Thanks again.
God bless!
 
Dawn
'I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.' ....Walt Witman


MsKittie
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   Posted 2/15/2007 6:59 AM (GMT -7)   

Dawn

Everyone is nervus when they start dateing someone new. I feel you will have such a good time you won't even be thinking about your anxiety or panic. You will do great and please let me know how it goes. I have dated in 16 years but I found my soul mate. yeah


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Howlyncat
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   Posted 2/15/2007 10:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Dawn I think being upfront is the ONLY way to go this way the relationship is not started by lies and hidden facts ya know
It gives more of a chance IMO and like said if he cares he wil stand by you no matter what as long as you are honest with him and have him check into what exactky this disorder consists of what goes on within you what you haave done to help self goals dreams and future plans .......
True everyone deserves to be loved
Please do let us know how things go
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1ofhissheep
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   Posted 2/15/2007 10:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Howlyncat said...
Dawn I think being upfront is the ONLY way to go this way the relationship is not started by lies and hidden facts ya know
It gives more of a chance IMO and like said if he cares he wil stand by you no matter what as long as you are honest with him and have him check into what exactky this disorder consists of what goes on within you what you haave done to help self goals dreams and future plans .......
True everyone deserves to be loved
Please do let us know how things go
Lyn

I will let everyone know what happens. See, I was considering dating someone from one of those online matchup thingys. I have my profile on one and I just wondered if I should put in the profile that I suffer from Anxiety, or could that wait untill I find someone I might be interested in, have talked a while and gotten to know the person, and then tell him about my problem. I dont want to 'scare anyone away', but at the same time , I want to be FAIR and HONEST. I dont want to mislead anyone. So I think you are right, I will just mention the fact that I am coping with an Anxiety disorder and that I am looking for someone who is compassionate, PATIENT, and understanding in that area. Hows that? lol Gosh, I feel like I am a teenager yeah
 
 
Thanks again for your help!
God bless
 
Dawn
'I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.' ....Walt Witman


GFK
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   Posted 2/15/2007 7:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I tend to feel like you do Dawn. If it were me, I'd wait to see if it looked like the relationship may go beyond the acquaintance stage before I would feel comfortable "exposing" myself. Of course if you waited til after an awaited marriage proposal, I'd say that was too long LOL!

Play it by ear - I'm sure you'll know when the time is right.

Good luck,
Karen

libbyf
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   Posted 2/15/2007 7:34 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm not sure I would put the anxiety disorder into your profile.  You might get someone who likes to push peoples buttons and that would be horrible for you.  I would keep my profile general and wait until you've met and talked to the person awhile.  Going out once or twice does not make a relationship.  You'll know when things are going down a more personnel level and thats when you should share your condition.  This is just my opinion and I wish you all the best in the dating area.

freezinginAK
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   Posted 2/16/2007 12:21 AM (GMT -7)   

  I would have to agree with these fine lady's here, I know that when I was dating I allway's liked to get to know the girl first and then tell her the way that I am and I don't wan't change the way that I live but for some reason I still think that they teach you gals in school on how to brake a man down to the way that ya'll think lol as I got one tough old gal for 21 years now that still puts up with me.

  But I really think that you sould go for it as everyone needs to be loved

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MsKittie
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   Posted 2/16/2007 5:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Goodmorning Dawn I just wanted to stop by and let you know I'm here thinking about you. I wouldn't put it in your profile this would be something you would need to talk to them about once you get to know that person eather online or off.

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   MsKittie
 
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I have an illness, My illness don't have me.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*                                      
 
Being happy doesnt mean everything's perfect.It means you've decided to see beyound the imperfrctions!God didn't promise days without pain, laughter without sorrow, sun without rain, but HE did promise strength for the day, comfort for the tears & light for the way                                        

 

 


1ofhissheep
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   Posted 2/16/2007 9:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone! Ever so much. I apprecite all the support and encouragement. I will keep you posted on what goes on. Hopefully it will be good! :-) God bless you all!
 
Dawn
'I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.' ....Walt Witman

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