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Georgiak
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   Posted 2/26/2007 12:14 PM (GMT -6)   
The last few days i'm again back to worrying but it's seem really bad this time. They are logical things to worry about but I can't seem to make myself stop worrying about them to the point where I get sick to my stomach. It's as if I can't seem to just let the worries go. They play over and over in my mind. This is so frustrating that my mind won't stop with the what if worst case scenrios.

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andwes
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   Posted 2/26/2007 1:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I have had many, many times in my life when worry got the best of me and I just couldn't shake it - it goes along with Anxiety/panic but sometimes seems worse than others.  As my mother used to say, however, "Worry is like a rocking chair - it keeps you busy but it doesn't get you anywhere."  Try to focus your mind on something where it requires alot of concentration - in that way you might be able to shake the worry for awhile (even if it's briefly) and the more you train yourself,the more the obsessive worry thoughts will subside. I've been a worrier all my life and seem to get worse the older I get but sometimes it's bearable - other times it just takes over your brain and you can't seem to let go of it - it WILL pass however and the more you try to re-train your brain, the easier it will get.  Good luck. 

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   Posted 2/26/2007 3:30 PM (GMT -6)   
I used to be like this and got to the point where I was going out of my mind. I found distraction really helped me and as soon as I felt any worry/anxiety coming on, I would quickly distract myself. This doesnt work for everyone I know. Also, try and question your thoughts. When it comes to thinking about worse case scenarios - think 'what evidence do I have that this is going to happen' - you will probably find that you don't have hat much evidence that your worse case scenario will come true.

I know its easier said than done, but give it a try.

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   Posted 2/26/2007 4:00 PM (GMT -6)   

there are several good self help books on how to stop worrying and if you follow the advice you wont worry anymore

this is how i stopped my worrying years ago


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   Posted 2/26/2007 7:53 PM (GMT -6)   
I worry about worrying too! It can drive yoa nuts. I think reality checks are important. Relax(easy to say I know)
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bigbear
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   Posted 2/26/2007 8:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi georgiak and welcome. I tend to agree with harry. For me distraction was just a bandaid but learning how to counter my thoughts and worries in a TEA form changed all that. I have been feeling good for over a year and off meds but just in the last six months the new ways of thinking have taken hold in me and I am feeling great now. I think author sam obitz said learning to use the cbt exercises like the TEA form to retrain your brain will turn you from being a worrier into a warrior :)

bigbear
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   Posted 5/26/2007 4:59 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Georgiak it's been a few months since I last heard from you and I am wondering how you are doing? I hope you have gotten control over your worries now and are feeling much better.

bigbear
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   Posted 8/16/2007 5:06 PM (GMT -6)   
I still have not heard back I hope you are okay?

dorigen
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   Posted 8/16/2007 9:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Try stating your worries out loud and working through the "worst case scenario". I guarantee you will start laughing, and realize that the liklihood of these things happening is pretty low.

I also recommend "The Worry Cure" (book). Different approach to worrying. Helped me a lot.
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CBTgirl
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   Posted 8/20/2007 4:23 PM (GMT -6)   
dorigen said...
Try stating your worries out loud and working through the "worst case scenario". I guarantee you will start laughing, and realize that the liklihood of these things happening is pretty low.

I also recommend "The Worry Cure" (book). Different approach to worrying. Helped me a lot.


EXCELLENT advice in that first sentence above yeah
I am not familiar with that book you mentioned, is it CBT based? I love the TEA forms from the book by Sam Obitz and also recommend the books by David Burns and Claire Weekes. All are CBT based books tongue

bigbear
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   Posted 9/16/2007 11:54 AM (GMT -6)   
CBTgirl said...
dorigen said...
Try stating your worries out loud and working through the "worst case scenario". I guarantee you will start laughing, and realize that the liklihood of these things happening is pretty low.

I also recommend "The Worry Cure" (book). Different approach to worrying. Helped me a lot.


EXCELLENT advice in that first sentence above yeah
I am not familiar with that book you mentioned, is it CBT based? I love the TEA forms from the book by Sam Obitz and also recommend the books by David Burns and Claire Weekes. All are CBT based books tongue
I agree about that first line also, attacking anxiety directly has helped me a great deal. We used the book by Sam Obitz in my group and the TEA forms are excellent!

CBTgirl
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   Posted 9/21/2007 2:23 PM (GMT -6)   
Bear, I love hearing from other CBT fans and think we owe it to others here to encourage them to give CBT a try and work hard on the TEA forms etc. This way once they begin to have a little success they will begin to work even harder and try more of the CBT exercises. I think it is important that they start slowly and build up so they do not get overwhelmed initially or they will give up too soon. Keep in touch :-)

bigbear
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   Posted 10/27/2007 9:25 PM (GMT -6)   
I do too CBT girl. I really believe in the value of sharing what works for you because even if it just helps one other person you have done a good deed. Keep up the good work and you also keep in touch :-)

hopeisreal
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   Posted 10/28/2007 9:11 AM (GMT -6)   
Can you tell me what TEA forms are? I got a book out from the library--Anxiety and PHobia workbook (forget the author) and it is good-----but, am looking for others to consider too! Thanks!
Laurel

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   Posted 11/9/2007 1:45 PM (GMT -6)   
bigbear said...
I do too CBT girl. I really believe in the value of sharing what works for you because even if it just helps one other person you have done a good deed. Keep up the good work and you also keep in touch [img]/community/emoticons/smile.gif[/img]


So cool to hear we share the desire to try and help inspire others. I agree if we help just one person it is all worth it. Definitely keep in touch and maybe we can help more than one person tongue

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   Posted 11/9/2007 2:08 PM (GMT -6)   
hopeisreal said...
Can you tell me what TEA forms are? I got a book out from the library--Anxiety and PHobia workbook (forget the author) and it is good-----but, am looking for others to consider too! Thanks!
Laurel


See if your library has the book Been There, Done That? DO THIS! by Sam Obitz. It is the book that introduced me to TEA forms and really got me excited about CBT. The guy who wrote it had bad anxiety most of his life before he learned how to help himself get better through CBT. I found it very inspiring to hear his story of overcoming his problems with CBT. TEA forms are a thought countering exercise that help you put things back into perspective which alleviates anxiety and build new pathways in your brain that prevent anxiety from overwhelming you. I hope that answers your questions? :-)

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   Posted 11/9/2007 3:18 PM (GMT -6)   
Great to see the support here .....

This is why HW is what it is ,...........IMHO

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CBTgirl
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   Posted 11/16/2007 4:03 PM (GMT -6)   
Howlyncat said...
Great to see the support here .....

This is why HW is what it is ,...........IMHO

Caring and sharing

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So true! yeah

caring
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   Posted 11/16/2007 6:02 PM (GMT -6)   

If this worrying happens in the middle of night, as it frequently does with me...I get up, fix myself cocoa and crackers, sometimes take a hot bath because this relaxes me, take an Aspirin , go back to bed and listen to my little battery radio.  Sometimes this works and I get back to sleep for awhile.  If your worrying grabs you during the day, it helps me to take a walk or do something like clean the house, etc.  Hope this helps.  What's so frustrating about worrying is:  what we worry about usually never happens, but I know...sometimes it's impossible to stop.  Take care,   Nan


rolltide
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   Posted 11/21/2007 6:45 PM (GMT -6)   

Sometimes that discomfort you feel is your consicence trying to communicate something to you.  The worse thing to do is indulge in eating or drinking to drown out the message.

In that Obitz book they have those TEA forms, and those are helpful in getting thoughts straightened out.

 

 


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   Posted 11/30/2007 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   
caring said...

What's so frustrating about worrying is:  what we worry about usually never happens, but I know...sometimes it's impossible to stop.  Take care,   Nan

  This is where countering your thoughts in a Tea form can really help. CBT gives you the tools to retrain your mind so you can stop all the irrational thoughts and stop all the suffering nono

bigbear
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   Posted 1/27/2008 4:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey everyone I'm behind in responding as the holidays took their toll on me, physically more than mentally at least though :) and I am just trying to catch up now. So Happy New Year everyone and I'm gonna try and reply to everyone soon!

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Happy New Year to you Big Bear.............and may 2008 be a good year for you.
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bigbear
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   Posted 1/31/2008 8:41 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks and you too yeah

rolltide
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   Posted 2/2/2008 12:26 AM (GMT -6)   
Happy New Year everyone! I'm feeling like this is gonna be a great year. I stopped doing my TEA forms over the summer and noticed my anxiety coming back, but I started doing them again and I'm feeling good and positive again :)
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