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Junebug05
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   Posted 3/5/2007 3:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I got a phone call from my daughter (she's 17) at school this morning, she was crying and terrified.  She'd been reading in class when she started to shake, get lightheaded, her heart was racing and she got really hot.  She was just so scared, as was I.  I called her dad and he went to get her right away and took her straight over to the doctor's.  The doctor was amazing with her, and told her that what had happened was a hypoglycemic attack that frightened her and then led her to get anxious about it.  I'm somewhat relieved that this is all it was as, of course, my mind went directly to my baby girl ending up like me.  She seems to be okay, handling it well and pretty calm about it, a bit nervous about school tomorrow, but she's a strong girl.  I on the other hand am totally losing it.  I've not been able to relax or let this go all day.  My stomach is in knots, I'm anxious, near panicking and don't know how to handle this.  I'm so scared to put her on the bus tomorrow.  I can handle my own symptoms pretty well, but when it comes to my daughter, it's a whole different thing.  I worry about her on a normal day, but to have this hanging over us, well it's just too much for me right now.  Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated!

greyhound
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   Posted 3/5/2007 5:01 PM (GMT -7)   
She will be in my prayers. God bless.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/5/2007 6:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hun Cait is the same way I always carry a chocolate bar with me she started this at about 10 yrs old she is Hypoglycemic ........
I make Cait always have a good breakfast with something like waffles and syrup or sugary cereal and glass of juice
have some sweet things in lunch to keep her going in case like a brownie ..... Just relax it is not good for you both to get upset and yes Cait went into Anxiety with it ans she was scared and dizzy
I remember Caits first time went pale as a ghost got her home and gave her juice with a spoonful of sugar she was okay in a bit ...........
Email me and I will explain more if you want
Try to keep calm and explain to her it is important to eat properly
Talk to you later
You can add me to msn or yahoo all under name .......Please try to calm down and explain to your daughter bout healthy breakfast........
Take care please .
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 3/5/2007 6:57:38 PM (GMT-7)


Junebug05
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   Posted 3/6/2007 4:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for your replies.  I'm still feeling miserable, very high anxiety, though I've managed to keep the panic attacks away.  I only got about 3 hours of sleep as I was so upset.  My daughter on the other hand fell right to sleep, thank God for that.  She was scared yesterday and talked about not wanting to die.  I'm reassuring her the best I can and telling her that she is completely healthy, but I know how she feels right now.  She was not diagnosed with hypoglycemia, the doctor called it a teenage girl phenomenon in that teen girls hormones can cause blood sugar levels to spike and drop quickly, also she had a cup of tea with sugar in the morning, but nothing else, so three hours later her level just bottomed out and that's what created the way she felt.  We are keeping her home today and possibly tomorrow to let her have a chance to recover, which helps me as well since I'm terrified to let her out of my sight right now. 
 
I don't know why this is scaring me so badly, I know I'm worried for her, but it feels like more than that.  Maybe I see myself in her, and that reminds me off all I've been through and I don't want her to go through, maybe I'm scared that I can barely take care of myself at this point and to have to support her through this is overwhelming...who knows.  I just know that I'm feeling terrible and have to put it aside to be there for her and not let her see that I'm upset, which is really hard.  I can't seem to find any relief at all.  Thanks for your support lyn, and the prayers are always welcome greyhound.  Hoping today will be better.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/6/2007 5:30 AM (GMT -7)   
It is like I wrote your post myself hun
My Cait is so much like me I see the A type personality the ocd and the stress as well she gets A/P attacks in shopping stores now
Just continue being the great mom u are and you's will geet thru this
I asked Cait last night how this made her feel and she said scary and somewhat like a panic attack but instead of seeing the darn shaking on outside she says it feels like whole body is shaking inside and she gets weak and vision is blurry
Yes this scares me with her too
I feel your worry and totally understand it
Take care
LUVS
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andwes
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   Posted 3/6/2007 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   
My 15 year-old son has had on and off anxiety/panic since he was quite little but every time he has a "spell", I completely lose it inside.....I stay calm for his benefit but internally I'm yelling "HELP" as I can't bear for him to have to go through this same debilitating disease as I've suffered with for years.  We all feel for our children and wish we could take away any kind of pain and suffering they have, whether it be physical or mental.  But at times I've found that helping HIM through these attacks has, in fact, helped me.....anxiety is a very personal and sometimes self-centered disease because it's all in our mind and consumes our every thought and activity....so getting out of ourselves and our own crazy thoughts by helping someone else can often be therapeutic.  I think it's real important to stress to your child that this anxiety does NOT make them crazy, that they're not alone, that millions of people suffer with the same thing and that there IS help.  When I started to go through this during my teens my mother was the absolute best therapist I ever could have had.  No matter what I was feeling or how crazy acted she just kept reassuring me that I was NOT going to go crazy, that I WAS going to get better eventually, that it WOULD pass, and that many other people suffer from the same thing....even though I'm sure inside she was going crazy with worry herself, she NEVER let that show on the outside and never reacted no matter how panicky I was.  The reason she had all these answers was because SHE was also an anxiety sufferer all her life.  The problem is that when you're a teen you desperately want to "fit in" and think even more than usual that you're the only one going through this when in acutality many teens do.  So rather than being fearful for your kids (which they can pick up on), stay strong and keep assuring them that they're normal, their feelings don't make them crazy and that they WILL get better.  I know in my heart that my mother saved my life....I went on to have many years of being anxiety free and even though I'm in my 50's now and have had many years of on and off anxiety/panic, I swear that those words of my mother so long ago and all the support she gave me helped to get me through the bad times today. No one wants to feel "different", especially teens so I think it's all that much more important to stress to them that they're NOT abnormal, just going through hormonal changes and stresses that most everyone does.  I can vividly remember how calming those words were to me when I was a teenager.   

wannabbetter
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   Posted 3/6/2007 11:41 AM (GMT -7)   
good day junebug05. sorry to hear of your daughters episode. try not to panic, i know its easier said than done.we all worry about our children. She is in the lords hands. just continue to pray that he will be with her and protect her. in the meantime make sure she has a healthy breakfast that includes protein and fiber, like eggs, cup of juice and some oatmeal. keep the caffeine away from her that will only make her have a sugar low.also too much sugar will give you a sugar low.you need to have a balanced meal with protein and fiber to keep the sugar from rushing into the blood stream quickly. i know about this i too suffer from hypoglycemia and my husband is a diabetic. oh yes, and make sure that she eats small meals every 2-3 hrs. hope she is feeling better and you too.

Junebug05
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   Posted 3/17/2007 7:50 PM (GMT -7)   
I've wanted to thank all of you who replied to this all week, but since I made myself so crazy last week I've been paying for it this week.  I'm so exhausted I can barely get things done around the house and just want to sleep all day.  I know it's a temporary thing though, just really worked my nerves over again and now need time to heal.  Anyway, quick update...My daughter is doing fine, completely over the episode from two weeks ago.  She went back to school with slight nervousness, but handled it all just beautifully, and is now right back to her normal routine.  I am making her breakfast every day, and she says she feels great...huge sigh of relief!!
 
I'm doing better, like I said, paying for what I did to myself last week.  But, some positives did come out of this, kind of some big positives.  As I was going through hell last week, it suddenly dawned on me that my daughter does not have panic disorder, and her fear is of normal intensity, unlike mine.  I realized that I'd been picturing her at school reacting with the same fear I have, which is not realistic.  That her fear is manageable, it doesn't turn to panic.  I tried to think back to high school and remember what I felt like on days that I had to give a speech, which scared me and although I had feelings of fear, I still went to school, still went about my day and gave that speech...so I've been retraining myself to see things in a realistic light when it comes to my daughter and her fears...she just doesn't react the way I would...make sense?
 
The other thing I realized is that I have spent alot of my life and way to much energy, feeling like I need to control things that are completely out of my control...like her having another hypoglycemic attack.  So, I make myself crazy trying to make sure it doesn't happen, to make sure she's okay, to try and fix her every problem and then worry constantly over it...like that will help, when all I can realistically do is make her breakfast and remind her to eat during the day and be there to support her.  I have to step back and allow her to deal with her bumps and bruises herself, with support of course, so she will grow and mature and become self-reliant.  I honestly had a huge weight lifted off of me when I decided to release my need to try and control things.  Now, I'm not saying that I won't slip back into my old habits and have to keep working at this, but this entire week has been so different for me.  It is amazing what a change in thinking can do.  No wonder I'm so darn tired...way to much thinking going on here!!!  tongue
 
So, thank you all for the comforting replies, you really did help me! 
 
 

Howlyncat
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   Posted 3/18/2007 12:53 PM (GMT -7)   
Junebug
You vvery well can chalk up another good thing coming out of this I too did a real mental search of myself and Cait and she is having the normals as well I have been worried bout nothing I have talked to her about it
'See Mom I told you I was normal" lol
I sure am glad we have been blessed with great kids
THanks for helping me see what I too was doing
Geeshhhh u bet no wonder your tired
Take care
LYN
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Junebug05
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   Posted 3/18/2007 5:42 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn,
 
I'm so glad that something positive came out of this for you too!  How great is that!!!  I guess it's true that you learn the most through your pain.  Hopefully, we can both hang on to this new perspective and let go of some of the worry and anxiety attached to it.  Thank you for letting me know about this... :-)
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