Well, I'm not going to visit this forum anymore. I'm not angry but I cannot tolerate these insane rules. She asked a question that was obviously very important to her, and now the answer gets deleted because certain words were used? Certain things are fact of life. Those words can be read in the newspaper, heard at church, or anywhere.
What if someone with a drug problem came here for help? Their whole post would be deleted, I would guess.
Earlier I posted a link to another forum where someone could get help. That type of forum wasn't available here at HealingWell. I don't have any idea why that rule exists.
This is the last advice I can give: "Tough love" sounds like a great idea but you need to be careful about
that. If he's driven away he'll only get in deeper. I know because I've been there.
I wish everyone the very best of luck.
edit: I was extremely irritable when I wrote this post. I still don't like the fact that I was censored because in this case I think it serves no purpose, but I'm not going to get all emotional about
it. Nobody was advocating drug abuse, and in fact, quite the opposite was going on here so I just don't get it. I've put my email in my profile if someone would like to explain it to me.
the topic, I'd like to relate a short story that illustrates my point. When I was 17 and 18, I was in much the same situation. I was basically focused on girls, playing music, and having a good time. A friend of mine was exactly the same the way. Neither of us were bad kids...we were just very unproductive. My parents gave me space. They complained, sure, but they didn't come down hard. His did in a very big way. As soon as he graduated high school they threw him out. I won't (and apparently can't) go into details, but when he got out on his own his life took some very disturbing turns. I don't know what happened to him, but last I knew he was already in deep enough that I wonder if he was ever able to pull himself out.
So it really depends on exactly what your kid's doing. There are degrees of bad behavior. Doing a little of this may be illegal but not really all that bad; Doing a little of that is not only illegal, it's really bad and he may need help whether he wants it or not. It can be a balancing act.
Post Edited (debaser) : 3/15/2007 7:58:54 AM (GMT-6)