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andwes
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   Posted 4/4/2007 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I post here all the time and find it extremely helpful (at least temporarily) with my severe health anxiety.  The only difference I notice between myself and most of you other sufferers though, is that you all go to docs all the time to get checked out - I, on the other hand, avoid doctors at ALL costs - I am absolutely terrified at the thought of even going to a doctor - I'm the one who went last year out of shear desperation (and a need to get some meds)but was so terrified that my BP was 230/70.  I was put on Toprol which I've said in the past also seems to help with anxiety but now I have to have the employment physical in order to get this new job I've been offered and the closer the appt. gets the more panicky and anxious I become.  It's almost as if I will just subconsciously force my BP to go through the roof and I won't have any control over it resulting in my being refused the job.....it's an absolutely ridiculous fear I know but all I can compare it to is something like agrophobia where you don't want to leave the house - well I feel the same about going into the doctor.  I can rationalize and rationalize and for moments realize how crazy this behavior is, but without fail it comes back on me and takes over.  You would think I would want to KNOW if anything is seriously wrong with me like most people feel - but I'm like the ostrich who just sticks their head in the sand, not being able to face it.  Like I've also said before many times, I've had to endure many VERY difficult situations in my life and have done it - most of my friends think I'm extremely strong - but when it comes to this issue I'm the weakest creature on the planet.  As a matter of fact, I truly believe fear is the root of all our anxiety, at least for me.  I've always been a very fearful worry-wort......thinking the worst will happen in any given situation.  I have to admit I have had ALOT of disappointments in my life which may have led to this feeling but I really hate myself for not being stronger and more optomistic about things.  I do believe that attitude is half the battle and I'd give my right arm for a dose of good attitude.  Someone once told me that they think I don't go to the doc because deep down I don't want to find out that I have nothing wrong, because then I won't have anything to stress over and I must believe I deserve to have something wrong with me....sound feasible?  Oh these Freudian hidden meanings....don't know if they hold any weight but I guess it's a possibility.  Anyway, anyone have any thoughts for this forlorn, anxious, mixed up wacko?

1ofhissheep
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   Posted 4/4/2007 6:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Wow, you sound like me. I am the same way when it comes to Drs. And the weird thing about it is...I used to be the EXACT OPPOSITE! I used to run to the drs at least 2-3 times a week. Now, I go MAYBE about once a year, and usually only then if I have a sinus infection or something like that and I need antibiotics. I am like you, if there is something really the matter with me( like a threatening illness..ex: heart disease..etc.) I would rather NOT know, but yet, I want to know. Sounds mixed up and crazy, I know. It is like...I want to know in case I could take medicine and feel better, but I dont want to know, because I dont like to take medicine and wouldnt probably take what was prescribed anyway. PLus the fact, I have yet to meet a dr. who really knows what he is doing. Most of the ones I have had contact with are not very knowledgable and patient with me. I hate to use to the word idiot, but sometimes it is the only word that fits. May drs arent very knowledgeable about phsychiatric meds. OR, that is the problem, they want to chalk everything up to "nerves" or "stress". Especially if you are a woman, they see you coming with symptoms/complaints, and often times automatically think you are just "crazy"...GRRR mad . Anyways, I just think that for me, at this point, I will just stick with my CoQ10, Fish oils, vitamins and minerals and see how that goes.
 
I am like you, a very pessimisstic( sp?) person. Always expecting the worst, thinking I make wrong decisions all the time and always making situations out to be worse than what they really are. It is very hard to turn that way of thinking around. I have been praying a lot more, and just asking God to guide me....in my actions..etc.
 
Take care and God bless!
 
Dawn
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andwes
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   Posted 4/4/2007 7:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks, Dawn - your words help alot.  I've been doing the same thing too - asking God to just let me relax and accept whatever comes - because I KNOW that I make things 1000 times worse just by the way I anticipate them - and I always anticipate them being bad.  As far as drs. are concerned - I feel the same way too - they really have little patience for those of us with anxiety, etc. and especially health anxiety - they just push pills at us and hopefully we'll go away...the dr. I have now (only went to him that once with the high BP) is a very nice guy - I actually like him very much - and he makes a sincere "attempt" to be concerned - but I know it's all superficial because I wrote him a lengthy letter about a family issue I'm dealing with two weeks ago and he's never even responded....probably just thinks "oh that crazy neurotic, always making a big deal out of nothing."  So my faith in docs is about as high as yours.  Also, since you're very into natural meds, vitamins, etc., do you know of anything that's "supposed" to help lower BP or calm your nerves?  I am a VERY jittery, nervous type and even drinking one cup of caffeinated coffee can send me into a high-anxiety tailspin.  And I don't like taking meds either - I do take the BP med, Toprol, that he prescribed last year and I must admit it seems to help - but for the most part I'm also med-phobic so it would be nice to try some natural cures for once.  I'm so sick and tired of being such a "wimp" about everything - if I could ask God for just one gift - it would be the gift of courage.  I admire courageous people so much and would love to have a little of it myself - docs especially hate wimpy people I think because, justifiably, they see so many people with life-threatening diseases that they probably have little patience with hypo's like me.

1ofhissheep
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   Posted 4/4/2007 8:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I am so glad that something I said has helped you alittle! I know that there are natural foods that you can eat that I have read decreases bp...bananas, v8 Low Sodium tomato juice, celery, and
oily types of fish( sardines, salmon ), DARK chocolate, and foods containing Folates(spinach, romain lettuce), beans(pinto, navy and kidney beans), and LOTS of grains.  A great website for more info on vitamins, minerals, natural healing is www.drweil.com
 
Here is a website that seems to have lots of info about high blood pressure as well. http://www.annecollins.com/diet-for-high-blood-pressure.htm
 
 
Here is a site that seems to have GREAT info on what to take and eat to help control anxiety! http://www.anxietysecrets.com/nutrition-3.htm
 
I really hope those sites help you! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers! God bless!
 
In His Grip,
Dawn
 
 
'I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.' ....Walt Witman
 
 
 
"Bear one another's burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.".....Galatians 6:2


Howlyncat
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   Posted 4/4/2007 9:59 AM (GMT -7)   
andwes.......
When you go for the physical EXPLAIN you have anxiety and that your blood pressure will go up because of your fear of doctors
Truth will help you in the longrun IMO

I gues I am very lucky to have the doc I do he is for my couselling and daughters and he really does listen and empahise with us .....
He has researched all about the PG and more on crohns for me and gives me more input than my GI does

There are many others on the forum with the fear you and Dawn have and sure they will post
You stay strong and be well
LYN
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   Posted 4/4/2007 10:06 AM (GMT -7)   
I do not have an answer for you as I am petrified of docs myself...just ask lyn...she can attest to it...
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   Posted 4/4/2007 10:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Yes I sure can /you were the one I was thinking of when I put in post about others having the fear as well

This yr Michelle visited here and I wound up broke out with the PG sores prior to her arriving well only a day I think or 2 after she had come we had to go to emerg and have the IV put in many times they missed and once blood flew everywhere
She was so scared thought she was gonna faint ..yet she took me back every day for meds and put her fear aside for me ......
I will always love her for showing me that love and for putting aside her absolute terror of docs ( plenty came in and had a look) and hospitals ......
I can attest to the fact she did it but I still have no idea how she did it ...........
am forever indebted to her for doing so and being at my side during so many IV attempts /misses and blood
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