Feeling anxious/depressed...relationship over

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   Posted 4/7/2007 2:19 PM (GMT -6)   
I just thought I would come here because I am feeling very depressed and crying at the moment, and feel as though a panic attack will come on any min. I had been in a relationship for about 4 years, and I fear it might have come to an end and i am not sure why. He has known about my anxiety from day one and has been with me and supporting me these many years. I am pretty sure there is someone else in the picture now and I know I cant compete with her. I just feel lonely, scared and a failure. My ex spouse left me because of someone else as well. Maybe I am just not a loveable person?? I dont know......anyways..I didnt know wherelse to turn and people here are so nice and understandingI thought posting might make me feel alittle better. I am trying to breathe deeply and not let myself get all worked-up, but as you all know..sometimes that is easier said than done. It is just sooo hard when you believe someone...they tell you they love you, wont EVER leave you, tell you to TRUST them and then just....throw it all away. I havent done anything that I am aware of,.....we havent fought about anything. I just know this other girl has her sights set on him. She is 34 years old but behaving like a teenager. She doesnt seem very mature at all and is bascially trying to come between us. I guess if he truly loves me, things will be ok. I hope I will. I feel really dizzy and ligthheaded right now. Thank you all for listening. I hope you all are having a good day! Take care and God bless!

In His Grip,


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   Posted 4/7/2007 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi 1ofhissheep.  I am sorry to have read that you are feeling depressed, crying, and your emotions are probably going every which way over this.  First and foremost, if you have any thoughts of harming yourself, please go to the hospital as soon as possible.

Relationships really do a number on us when there is a break up.  Just remember that there are a ton of other singles out there for you.  Do yourself a favor and don't listen to any slow songs.  Trust me on that one.  Have a really good cry, it's totally normal.  You might feel this way for a few days or even longer, that's normal as well given the circumstance.  But it will go away.

I have been "dumped" many times just because I take meds for depression and anxiety.

Take some nice warm baths and do some deep breathing and control your breathing and thoughts.

I hope this helps a bit.



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   Posted 4/7/2007 8:15 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello 10fhissheep, i am so sorry to hear of your situation.try to keep calm because you will bring on a attack on yourself. i know when i get upset i do it to my self. I just hope that your boyfriend relizes what he is doing. ifit is meant to be you will be together no matter what.Ask the lord to give you peace and strength thru this storm you are going through. He will grant you peace. I will pray for you darling. You know the lord, he knows what is best for you. Does your boyfriend know the lord like you do? You what the lord says about being equally yoked.I hope things work out for you.You seem to be an awsome and loving person by reading your posts. God will get you thru this. he takes care of his children.Take this time that you are not with your boyfreind and examine everything. maybe or maybe not he is the person for you. Its better to find out now.4 years gone by, imagine being withsome longer and that time wasted. give yourselfs some time and space talk things out and ask the lord to show you what would be best for you both. i know your pain. love hurts......try to stay calm, dont worry your self sick...im here to talk. take care and God bless you and give you peace and wisdom.....

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   Posted 4/7/2007 9:25 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you to everyone who replied! I always feel better coming to these forums and getting feedback from such loving, caring and understanding individuals. :-) .
We talked about 2 hours tonight and he tells me that this gal already has a bf and that she is not interested in him. He also says that I would be better off not worrying about every little thing too much, and that I read wayyy to much into situations. I do seem to blow things out of proportion at times, but I usually tend to do that when someone acts differently toward me than they normally do. This guy always used to tell me he loved me quite a few times during our conversations and now he says it maybe once, and that is right when we are about to hang up( we talk on the phone every night because he doesnt live by me..it is a long distance relationship). He just has been acting differently lately, but when I ask him about it..he says I am just reading too much into things, that he still loves me and enjoys talking to me. confused It is just so hard at times to really BELIEVE what someone is saying to you...you know? Hard to know if someone truly means what they say, but I guess that is the risk you take when you love.
I ended up doing ok with my anxiety. I did some deep breathing and just tried to talk myself into calmness. I never did go into a full blow panic, so that is good.
Are any of you the same way as me? Do you tend to blow situations out of proportion?? Or always think the worst??? I HATE that I am that way. I tend to be VERY hard on myself and always have a tendancy to think that I am at fault if something does manage to go wrong.
Anyways, just wanted to say thank you to all who replied and to wish everyone a very HAPPY AND BLESSED Easter!
God bless!
In His Grip,

'I do not ask the wounded person how he feels, I myself become the wounded person.' ....Walt Witman
"Bear one another's burdens, and thus fulfill the law of Christ.".....Galatians 6:2
Diagnosis: Generalized Anxiety/Panic Disorder with underlying Depression. Not currently on any medication. Perfer to try and use natural healing as a way to control these disorders. Do have prescriptions for Zoloft and Klonopin( just in case I become brave enough to try them). :)

Post Edited (1ofhissheep) : 4/7/2007 8:27:41 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 4/7/2007 9:58 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey there,

I am the exact way that you are but I let it get such a grip on me that I ended up losing my girlfriend of 3 1/2 years over it just recently. I was constantly worried that there was someone else in the picture in our relationship and I could never just relax and not think about it. On one hand, I wasn't completely off base worrying about it because she had admitted to cheating on me before when we had first gotten together, but she had stopped that as soon as it started because she realized she loved me and I had forgiven her. On the other, it was a case where once a seed has been planted, it's hard to just forget about it so I brought the subject up way too often despite the fact that I'd forgiven her. Every little argument we had, I would somehow or another link to the fact that she didn't want me anymore and that she was with someone else, and this wasn't the case. It got to a point where we were both miserable and I like to think we did the mature thing and ended everything on good terms. Just recently she has tried to get back together with me but I can't do it because I can't promise her that in another year or two we wont be right back where we started. My inability to relax and not read into things too much cost me my relationship, but actually getting out of it was somewhat of a relief anxiety-wise and also because I realized that we had grown into two entirely different people than we were when we first got together. I am way more of an intelectual person than she is and she is way more of a free spirit than I could ever hope to be....We just weren't meant to be.

Don't let something that should be beautiful get consumed by your panic and anxiety any more than it has to be. You said that your guy knows about your condition and that he understands it for the most part so that right there should feel like a little bit of a safety blanket for you. There are a lot of people out there that wouldn't be so understanding unfortunatelly.... I know not letting the anxiety take over this facet of your life is alot easier said than done, but I'd tend to agree with the above posters. Just cry if you feel like crying, and then when you feel a little better cry some more if it helps. Sometimes it feels like you might never stop crying I know, but trust me, you will. My advice to you is to search your heart and evaluate your feelings for this guy. I made my relationship last for three and a half years all the while worrying. But I knew deep down that she did love me and that I was just overreacting for feeling like I was. I let that be what broke the camels back, but it turned out that it was probably for the best for other reasons...Don't worry any more than you have to. You are alive and you are beautiful and you are the captain of your soul. Thanks for sharing.

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   Posted 6/20/2010 11:02 PM (GMT -6)   
im praying for u..  ive been sabotaged by the closes people to me.. and i take the info ur giving as a  warning sign i wish i had listened to before everything hit the fan in my life...  hopefully the people ur dealing with arent as evil as the people in my situation... but use caution and dont let this ruin u.. continue to be the good mature person u are, and dont let how they do u change u.. i have and i dont like the person i have become...  ive been single now for 3 years... and im so not trusting of others, now, that i dont think anyone will ever be as close to me as before....
i recently went down south to visit a friend.. and i found myself to be this bitter women from the things i have gone thru in the past. so i want u to take from this ur pride.. ur self respect, and ur self worth... these people dont make u..  if someone is in ur life they should compliment u.. not hurt u..  so expect the worst.. and hope for the best..  but never let how people do u change u... they dont determine ur worth.. u do...
i dont know u.. but i love u... and so does GOD....
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Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 6/21/2010 7:29:28 AM (GMT-6)

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