Hi all, thankyou for your replies
I'm sorry to say that this is far from the first time it's happened, or we've discussed it. I try to understand why she feels the need to do it. If it was a small white lie, or something she forgot to tell me, no big deal. But this was something she made a deliberate effort to keep from me for months, something so unnecessary, and something I would have been happy to support her in - so I just don't get it.
Yes she has been a wonderful friend over the last 8-9 years, and I don't know what I would have done without her, but I have also been a good friend to her thru her affairs and separation, work issues, mum's illness, and her own anxiety attacks.
I thought we really understood each other after what we'd been thru, and yes, I thought it was better out than in.
Lyn I'm sorry that you went thru this with your friend also, it is very painful losing someone you love.