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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/10/2007 3:39 PM (GMT -7)   
 YES I know this is the a/p forum and yes I am not putting down a/p depression stress or anything to do with any illness or disorder we all have
 
Please do not look at me right now as a moderator ( I am just like you only volunteer)
 
I use to jump outta bed to get on here and read the posts yes there were questions answered and all that BUT we also had a " family " atmosphere happening here and we also made upp some threads to make ppls days a lil easier ....
For instance ....the Happy THread has gone on forever and could not keep up with it but lately it is back on pages in way way back
 
There were / are many good threads to jump in on and they dont always have to be NEGATIVE.....
I feel we have had a change in the air here and I dont think I am the only one ......members alike..........
 
I come here now same retoric I ask to look for existing threads no one does .okay thats cool I AM NOT your boss and trying not to be believe me..YOU ( I ) have a/p IT doesnt have you nor me I refuse to let it win all the time a small step makes a big difference IMHO 
 
I have followed Porridge .....And Shortstops journeys thru this and there fight to better selves with ir w/o meds .......they have done it with Baby steps
 
Megs HAS QUIT drinking ......Kudos .......
Vic has gone and got a new job and is making the fight daily BUT fighting non the less
Shy is doing lots better
Lil One is at least trying ....all you can do ........TRY ...Have Faith in whatever YOU believe in I do and I get thru it all I dont bring half my crud to the boards I have to deal with it and I do
It took m many yrs to see that life n laughter really does help so does having
 "That Lil Fam" feeling we had here............ oh not so long ago 
Dave has come back from back surgury and he is tryigng to help as well
I see debaser trying to help and support ppl as well as JD.....
THATS WHAT WE ARE
Supposed to do
BUT we are or should be able to come here and feel that family feeling the comaderie the laughs quips and sometimes weird n funny things we do .........
 
We cannot ( me included) stay standing still it wont help you one Dang bit ........
Laughter is a good wa to help the a/p even if you are laughing at self ya know
Self help tech's are mentioned over and over and yet are they being used?? For the most part yes I see some ppl use them
 
I am not trying to cause a big argument ................debate ......or whatever
NOT putting ANYONE down ...................NO ONE AT ALL!!!!!  
 
 
nono
 
I just hope that the feeling that has been missing for some while now does come back sad
 
I miss having myself get a chuckle in the am and YET I still answer the posts and so do all others ......I do take this illness very serious as I do the FIGHT to regain some semblance in your lives
 
I have made self more aware of techniques to help me out as well as I post and see if they will help anyone else .....as do others and I hope thy help
Please for you ole timers let get it back ........and from my heart the newbies too
We lost a lot here in a short time IMHO
 
nono
I KNOW I am not the only one thinking and feeling  this way
 
Will let them that wish to speak for self
 
Take care and PLEASE dont read anything that IS NOT there into my post please.......
 
God Bless and I hope you get what I am trying to say .......

** Controlled and not flaming debates on this more than welcomed .......

I am sorry I just could not really post w/o puting this first and foremost ......


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/10/2007 4:47:13 PM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 5/10/2007 4:01 PM (GMT -7)   
I understand what you're saying Lyn. I had lunch yesterday with my 'crazy 'friends. We have a good laugh and talk about our illnesses and call ourselves and each other crazy. It's like an in joke, we're not offened because we're all going through it and find the support and laughter we get from being together important in our getting better.

We all met in hospital and have decided now to have regular fortnightly lunches together for the support and laughter.

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   Posted 5/10/2007 4:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Lyn I agree...
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   Posted 5/10/2007 4:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, maybe we should start a thread that re-introduces everyone? You know...what TV or Movie character are you most like in real life? What are your guilty pleasures? What's the worst or craziest thing you've ever done? What kind of music do you like? What era did you come of age in? That sort of thing.

There hasn't been a lot of off-topic discussion around here since I've been around. Maybe it would help break the ice?
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   Posted 5/10/2007 5:03 PM (GMT -7)   

   Yes I to had a lot of fun here, but thing's have changed the family that we had going on here.

 We should laugh at are self's and have the fun back with each other and get to know everyone better THAT"S what life is about.

 And if we can't have fun what's the point of trying to get over this anxiety/panic

 Please tell us all about what you did even if it is just a small step as a small step can go along ways just by showing others here that IT can be done and it will be done.

 No one asked for this crud but yet we now must deal with it and having fun and laughing about it really helps the mind set that this is just a passing thing that we will win and have are live's back again as this is not the end of the world as we all know it.

 And help those that are new and just learning and get to know them better not just throw out facts, but try to let them open up and feel like family right from the start and tell them about you as well.

 Just think back when you first came on scared to death to really open up and really feel apart of something, anything again.

 So please help us all with this part as a family and that as a family we all will be there when you fall and when your up and moving on with life for the better and you to will find that you are truly moving forward.

  I'm going to kick back up a thread on (getting to know everyone better) and I hope you can share a part of you and some of the fun thing's you have done in your live's.

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/10/2007 5:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Dave and all others that posted I would love to have " that same feeling Back"

We had good times and yes we GOT thru all the bad still it was a great place to come to for a person that needed to see how a/p affects us but also what we can do to help and that includes silly..off the wall posts as well ......
Am starting some tomorrow
Had sunstroke and cracked head on cement wall ....dont ask lol I am a bumble Muck

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   Posted 5/10/2007 11:44 PM (GMT -7)   

  Best thing I feel that happening around here, and I want it back too.

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   Posted 5/11/2007 3:20 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah           yeah          yeah           yeah           yeah               yeah                   yeah                    yeah
 
ME TOO ME TOO
I am sooooo Happy that we are getting that "feeling back "
 
Yes the anxiety sucks for all of us but we need to move forward .......
And try to work on it TOGETHER......... yeah and we would .......
 
Support care and empathy is the same as always we just have to  get some good things going on as well ............
 
Laughter ..........IS one of the best medicines in my opinion ,.as well as feeling like " our Lil family is back"
 
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   Posted 5/11/2007 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
I have been around here for a LONG time so I can honestly say I agree also. A family feeling is so important on this forum especially with all we go through with this illness. People should feel comfortable sharing. This is a wonderful group and I enjoy meeting all of the newbies who eventually become regulars. Keep sharing and be kind to each other. :-)

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   Posted 5/11/2007 3:01 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been a member of healing well for a year and a half and things aren't the same as they used to be and me and lyn have talked about this lately. I have been through a horrendous time but .... through sheer determination .... am coming through the other side and I find it frustrating, upsetting and exhausting when people here won't even try a little bit to help themselves. I'm not saying it's easy as I know from experience that it's not but day after day, I find myself getting bogged down by the number of negative posts here and it really is hard. I know people are all going through such hard tomes but there never used to be this much negativity.
I think the main thing to concentrate on in the forum is getting better and recovering - because it can be done. If we focus on the negatives all of the time, it gets us nowhere - and I for one have learnt that.
I find that sometimes people can thrive from their illness and it is very unhealthy to live that way. I was in hospital last year with depression and anxiety but now, I want out of the system and to get back on with my life. I do still have hard times but I have learnt god coping mechanisms and skills to know how to deal with that and I am a much stronger person for recovering from this.

I really do thing HW has changed and I want to be able to come on here and volunteer the way I used to and feel as though I was helping someone but these days, any advice almost goes unnoticed and people are happy to ignore what is said to them. I almost feel as though I'm talking to a brick wall some days.

I am busy in my new job but do come online when I can to volunteer but I am finding it harder and harder to cope with the negativity. People should want to get better and not think of how bad they are feeling all of the time. I was pretty bad last year and saw no way out, but now I am much stronger, have my own business and am so glad that I am here and living.

I am sorry to go on but this has been on my mind now for a while and I have almost been thinking of stepping down as a moderator and just becoming a member instead. I havent made my mind up yet but I really do hope that things go back to how they were and we all regain some of that closeness and positivity that we used to have.

Take care all - I do care about the members and other mods here and just want everyone to be able to have some happiness and positivity in their lives.

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   Posted 5/11/2007 3:22 PM (GMT -7)   
Well Said SIS

I am in total agreement with the negativity and the way things HAVE to change........We did talk alot about our feelings and we are not only ones but I do know this I come for support and to try to help like you IF I cannot see nor feel a change
Things will be different for me as well
Luvs ya

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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/11/2007 4:28:01 PM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 5/12/2007 4:23 AM (GMT -7)   
yeah  I am back now Lyn so maybe that good old feeling will come back too LOL tongue

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   Posted 5/14/2007 9:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I really thought that things HAD changed that ppl were going to start to show they could would and did fight the fight
No matter if its baby steps or whatever
We have been here all along worrying helping and supporting all that need it

I am getting to the point where I truly believe that BUT for a FEW it is okay to be caught up in this A/P
Thats my opinion
YOU n your support network CAN and WILL help IF you want it too

Glad to see ya Chuckle

Stick around.......I am seeing whats gtg on in my future..........


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/15/2007 7:07:40 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 5/14/2007 12:13 PM (GMT -7)   
hello,

well, i hope you are not talking about ME, since i have only been here since Sept. And actually, i only visit once in a while.

i have noticed some posts on here that seemed pretty desperate, and then it looks like the people didn't check back in to see how others responded. which seems pretty rude.

And one time I felt flamed by a guy, like he was making fun of people. then i didn't come back for several weeks

i get really sensitive that people are judging me, don't like me. i used to go to a 12-step group, and one time i heard one of the longtime people say she just doesn't want to get to know new people, that she doesn't trust them, etc. I felt very crushed because i liked her, and i just never went back to that particular group because i felt the people were very clique-ish at that point.

so i hope you don't mind new people. i just feel strange about some of the "how was your day" type stuff because I don't feel i have as bad a case of a/p as other people. so i can't always related to what is posted here. i have never been hospitalized, etc. i am more in lifelong mild depression mode, but it is the anxiety which is kind of new and scares the h out of me and annoys me.

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   Posted 5/14/2007 8:21 PM (GMT -7)   
yeah
Hi All,
I know what you mean about the forum changing. I don't like to talk about my problems all of the time. I have not been on here because of computer and surver problems. Let's get something possitive going here. I will think of something and get back tomorrow. Thanks Lyn for drawing this to our attention.
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   Posted 5/14/2007 10:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I wasn't really sure what Lyn meant for a long time, but I think I've noticed some positive change around here. I think I may have been the source of some of the negativity, and for that I'm sorry.

I just hope people who are having "crisis moments" or whatever don't feel frozen out. Sometimes people come on and they are pretty desperate. I was one of them for quite a while. I always felt like I should respond to what people had written to me, though. I think that's important. But sometimes A/P causes people to get a little more self-centered than they usually are and we should try to be patient with them.

edit:

daisysmom,

I forgot to say that I think you should post in whatever forum you want to. Don't hold back. The people here are friendly and suffer from widely varying degrees of anxiety/panic. Plus, I'd venture to guess most of them have gone through some depression, too (I know I have). They seem to go hand in hand at times.
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Post Edited (debaser) : 5/15/2007 12:00:00 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 5/15/2007 1:32 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Lyn and All!

I haven't been coming here lately, so I haven't noticed what you're talking about, although I don't doubt it!

Thankfully, my GAD has subsided and I'm trying to keep a good thing going! When I start to feel that twinge of anxiety, I immediately start talking to myself and try and distract myself as well. I do feel kinda guilty for not being here and supporting the forum like I know I should, but it's like i need a break from it. I'm afraid that if I come on here too much, I'll start dwelling on my GAD and regress...does that make any sense? Sigh...I need to help others and be encouraging, I realize, but nonetheless, I can't help anyone if I don't get myself in order first.

I hope no one thinks too badly of me for this! I honestly do care about you all. Maybe I'll be able to become a bit more regular soon!

In the meantime, I love and thank you guys for being so very nice!

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   Posted 5/15/2007 6:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all
Daisymom
No hun it is not you and I am truly SORRY if you felt flamed or hurt by anyone here
Thats not what the foum is about

Debaser ....NO you are NOTTTTT the  cause okay..YOU have made giant steps and progress 

My point was this

You keep trying to help ppl out and there are many you included debaser that HAVE made steps and started to win this war ...there are many others as well

Yet I find that there are some that just dont want to get out of the "comfy" place they are in NO matter how bad it may be ya know .....
I was just making a observation from a few months back til recently and I felt I had to say something to all .....

I had IV put in again yesterday debaser so I will go to blog later today after meds get put in I am broke out in sores all over once again lol
Jeshhhh Never a dull moment

Take care al and please DO bring your concerns HERE about the forum and we shall see what can be done
Again DM I am so sorry
Please post more and stay with us

Janet sweetie
Good to see you and nope not you either ...lol
PPL that are fighting and tryig are doing the best for themselves as you know

All my love
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/21/2007 9:27:41 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 5/16/2007 4:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Doing alot of soull searching here and I dont like what I am feeling ...............
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   Posted 5/21/2007 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   
I have brought this up for ppl to re read or read for the first time ..........
Not seeing much going on and I only wish I did

It is a sad day when I think what I am thinking ........


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   Posted 5/22/2007 12:57 PM (GMT -7)   
devil
OKAY
What is going on here no one is coming forth with ideas on some positive ways to heal or help to fight this bleeding fight ........
 
I feel like I am talking to no one but self all the time anymore and it is disheartening to say the least .....
 
I KNOW what a/p can do to you n your body mind and spirit
I also know there are GREAT ideas out there very intelligent ppl on this forum that could share some positivity or coping skills .......join i the "Inspiration " thread ......"Happy Thread" or any of the threads that TRY to put a smile on yer face n hope in your heart
 
Is there nothing that makes you smile nothing you laugh about ...silly things you have done n want to share
If you are afraid of JUDGEMENT dont be please there is NONE of that here at all ......
ONLY understanding and the need to support one another in ALL ways ....thru tears ,sorrow.pain.suffering and fear as well as thru a bit of Laughter..........
 
LAUGHTER can make you feel lighter and have a few moments or even hours where you forget about this not totally but it is at the back of your mind if only for awhile .......
 
HOW about the Get to Know one Another thread.......
Goals and all threads
I just wish it was the same as before
NO one is to blame it is all just so befuddling to me what has become of this forum and the love care support and laughter we had as a "FAMILY"
 
PLEASE can we try to get that back .........
PPL have asked me the same as I am asking I cant answer and be truthful as I dont know what is going on myself ...if it is ME let me know I will step down.........
 
Some may think I am being pushy thats not my intent all I would love to see is the " Family" we use to be .........
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   Posted 5/24/2007 5:17 PM (GMT -7)   
    FINALLY I seem to feel a change in the air and some of that "good ole family feeling" is making its way back
 
I am so happy for this truly yeah
 
WE are here to listen support and help when we can where we can but please dont forget to show yourself some steps and dont be afraid to put down your PROGRESS
 
There are soo Many things we can do as an extended family most of all BE GOOD to one another as you"s always are
 
Keep supporting ppl all the way
 
REMEMBER to LAUGH....it helps it really does
 
Dont be afraid to post a thread on silly things we do ( cuz I know I do some doozies )LOL
 
IT is great to feel this good feeling again ya know
 
Post a response if you like
 
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