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debaser
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   Posted 5/22/2007 8:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Most of you are probably older and wiser than I am, and I need some advice.

As some of you no doubt know (esp. if you read my blog), I'm on .5 mg Clonazepam two times per day. I've been at that for a couple months or more (I forget) and I've made significant progress.

However, I'm going through some pretty dramatic life changes. Yesterday I submitted my resignation to my current employer. It's a job I like, but it's nearing the end of the project I could get out of my contract with no financial penalty. My dad had a stroke not long ago and I'm going to go into business with him. I feel it's a terrific opportunity, but it's going to require a one-month relocation to one city and then a permanent relocation to Dallas, which is where I wanted to end up no matter what job I would be doing.

So even though all these changes are positive, they're pretty daunting and I've been feeling quite a bit of anxiety rebound lately. They're not panic attacks, thankfully. Most of the time I feel alright, but I have a pretty persistent "moderate" anxiety that sometimes peaks into something just short of a panic attack. It's not the worst thing in the world but I'd like to get rid of it.

As far as the logistics of all this moving, there's only so much I can do right now and I've done all that. I've sublet my apartment, turned in my notice, and have arranged to stay at my dad's place for a month while I "train". Things I can't do yet or are out of my control: insurance coverage gap, place to live in Dallas. And there's a lot I just don't know. When I was a photographer I never paid income taxes, haha. But now I'm going to have to as an "independent contractor" and I've never done that before.

There's not a lot of uncertainty right now like there was last week, but it's still getting to me. Right now as I write this my chest is tight and my arm hurts. These are panic symptoms, right? I've had them before but normally I have those modified panic attacks that twist up my stomach. Had a little of that earlier. The bad part is that I took my Klonopin a little over two hours ago...I hate to think about where I'd be without that.

Anyway, so how many of you have dealt with major life changes while you were recovering from really, really bad anxiety and panic problems? I imagine lots of you have. How did it shake out? Did you have to increase your meds (I really hope I don't have to do that)? Did things start going well again after you were settled into your new routine? Any advice? I don't expect to collapse under all this, but something tells me I may have some rough times ahead of me if I'm not careful.
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harry4
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   Posted 5/22/2007 11:46 PM (GMT -7)   

anxiety sufferers generally fear any change to their routine and dread having to do anything new for the first time

try to learn some calming and relaxing methods, your K dose isnt all that high and more would help but on the bad days only please

try a long soak in a hot bath for the pains

we anxiety sufferers always manage to do what has to be done.....


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   Posted 5/23/2007 5:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Debaser,
 
You sure have alot on your plate right now, and I'm sorry that it is causing you anxiety.  I'm the same way though, change is difficult for me, especially big changes like you are dealing with.  I've been in therapy a very long time...in and out for 17+ years, and have learned a few things about dealing with change and the anxiety it brings.  One of the best pieces of advice I received was to just allow things to happen, there is so much in life that we don't have control over, which sounds like where you are now with not being able to "do" anything else to prepare for these changes.  I've been learning to give up the feelings of needing to control a situation that just can't be controlled, it has made such a huge difference for me.  If I'm in a situation that I feel I should or need to control and can't, I basically just keep telling myself that this is something that is out of my control and let it go.  It isn't always easy, and it takes a while to actually accept the letting go part, but it does lessen anxiety for me.  I have come to realize that things tend to work themselves out whether we worry over them or not, so try not to worry much and just let time work things out.  I do hope that all will work out for you and that you will be very happy with the changes, once you are settled.  Best of luck to you!!!

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   Posted 5/23/2007 7:39 AM (GMT -7)   
I am facing life changes right now too. I am thinking of moving from North Carolina to Colorado. I have never moved so far away by myself. My son is graduating from high school next month and starting college in August. He'll be living at school and I'll be leaving him behind. His father and step-mother and grandparents will all still be here for him but I worry about leaving him and only seeing him once or twice a year.

I have lived in the same house for 13 years and have accumulated a LOT of stuff. It seems overwhelming to have to go through my stuff and throw out or sell things. But I am taking the next two days off of work and getting started on it.

As you know from the other post I am most likely going to be laid off soon. Even though I am planning on moving in September this is still stressful. So how am I coping? I am trying to think about all the good things about moving and not the bad. I have also started taking my Xanax again at a low dose to help when I get too wound up. Talking to my two good friends helps too, as well as writing it down here and getting support on Healingwell.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/23/2007 8:38 AM (GMT -7)   
D
I have faced many MAJOR life changes with housing and Health and yes it got my ansgt up just as yours is
I did ask the doc for a short term uppage on meds to get me thru this was prior to my learning new techniques though
In my honest opinion I have seen your GREAT progress have followed it day by day as you know .....I dont get to you blog often enough but will once feeling better
Hun I truly believe that if you feel you CANNOT do this without an increase in your meds even just for a month or two then please dont be embarrassed or feel that you have failed
IF anything you are one of the persons here that have truly shown your total vulnerability fears progress and all for us to see and that in my books is fantastic ...we need more like you to lay it all out and prove IT can be done IMHO

You have total support here and I for one and hoping you will do the right thing( i know you will) instead of letting self go backwards thats JUST NOT you at all ..........

Email me if ya need to talk my friend
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   Posted 5/23/2007 8:39 AM (GMT -7)   
THanks all for your support and input on this post I am thankful to have ppl like you's to offer the support as needed

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debaser
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   Posted 5/23/2007 10:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all for writing back to me. Most of it is stuff I know. I "know" how to deal with it, but sometimes things get a bit irrational.

I don't want to go up on my meds, Lyn. It's not that I'd be embarrassed or anything like that. It's just a practical thing. I don't want to go up and stay up unless I absolutely must do it. It will be a long time before I'm settled. Next week will be my last week here, and I'll begin the moving out process/putting things into storage. Then I immediately go to my dad's. Then, I have to find a place in Dallas, pronto, move into it, and get to work. And then it'll be a totally new job for me, and I'm going to be on my own doing it. So I might not be "settled" for two months. If I go up on the Klonopin for that long I'm going to have a hard time going back down, and will probably remain at that dose forever. The more Klonopin you take, the more likely you are to develop tolerance, which means a year from now I might be taking 2.5 mg/day or something. I feel if I can stay at 1 mg a day that would be best. I'm going to give it my best shot.

Plus, there's the insurance question. The worst-case scenario is that I'll be without insurance for 3 months. The meds, the doctor visits...all paid for out of my pocket. Even when I get on my dad's company's insurance, it may be that I have to travel 160 miles just to see my primary doctor. They're looking into it, but with his stroke and everything they only have so much time to deal with it.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/23/2007 12:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I put that out as a suggesstion already knowing your answer......I am proud of you .....you have come so bloody far .....thanks for sharing it all with us

I am going to keep you in heart thoughts and prayers to give ya a boost k and hey I just might be that little one on your shoulder nattering in yer ear .lol

Great thinking in my opinion

Good luck and all the best my friend ...YOU DESERVE IT........
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debaser
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   Posted 5/23/2007 2:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks.

Right now I feel like I went far and then stopped. I'm not going to type it all out again, but read the entry I just put up in my blog. It's like my progress has gone slightly backwards and has stalled out a lot of the time. I don't know what to pin it on. The impending changes I was talking about in this post? Is this just a natural thing to happen, regardless of all that? Am I not doing the right things? Since I got stressed out so badly a couple weeks ago with work, I've sort of receded back into my apartment. Not to the extent that I used to, but it's not like I'm out doing a bunch of stuff every night.

I don't know. It's a frustrating day. I took the day off wanting to burn up some of my PTO and just enjoy a day, but I can't quite get there.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/23/2007 4:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Sometimes we do go back a step or two it is only natural with all you are coming up against now and all the changes
It will not last my friend you will be just fine
Go back and read
WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED............

In my heart,thoughts and prayers

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   Posted 5/23/2007 8:30 PM (GMT -7)   
 
 
yeah  If you were not feeling anxious about all the changes you have coming up, moving,starting a new job, having a parent who is ill, then I would be worried!!!  I promised myself I would not post unless and untill I had something positive to say.  When I read your post I realized I had something to say.  You are not alone my friend, anyone in there "right" mind would be anxious.  The fact that you see you are falling back and can recognize that it is only temporary, and that you will move forward is VERY positive.  It gives voice to all of us who are going through changes in our lives and think that if we are a little sad or anxious that some how we have failed.  Setbacks are inevitable, if you believe you will again be able to move forward, then you will.  Only my best positive thoughts go out to you!!!
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debaser
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   Posted 5/23/2007 9:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks.

I've left out a lot of details about what's coming up. It's a little more complicated than a normal career change and relocation, and even the normal ones are complicated. And it wouldn't bother me if I were simply worried about it. It's that "anxiety" feeling. I didn't feel this type of situation just a few years ago. I had anxiety from time to time just like anyone else, but it didn't feel the same. I imagine all of you know what I'm talking about.

I hope it's temporary! I want to go back to where I was! If I don't while all this is happening I can understand that, but if it doesn't go away after I'm settled then I'm not sure what I'll do. Eh...I shouldn't be thinking like this right now. It should be a "cross the bridge when you come to it thing", I guess, but I'm worried that I won't only stay anxious but will actually start having panic attacks again. There have been some foreboding signs (although not today or yesterday as far as I can remember).

Well, I'm going to go to sleep. Thanks again for the replies.
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/24/2007 10:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Know I and otheres are here for you D

Be well
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   Posted 5/24/2007 2:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you. I have a more positive outlook today.

If everything goes wrong with my dad's business, today I actually had another job offer up in Dallas. No interview. They want to see a resume and I'd be in. And the best part is that they don't even need me for three or four months, and by then I'd KNOW whether or not it was working out with my dad. The timing couldn't be better.

That's three job offers I've had recently, and I don't even know how these people know me because I haven't been in the business all that long, really. And for a lot of that time I was sick. How does this happen? Does my industry have a secret intelligence network or something? Are they working with the FBI? I have never heard of the two people who've offered me jobs sight unseen. The other I've heard of but have never met. I know the companies they all work for, but have only worked with one directly and, ironically, they're the ones who would require an interview.

And here's the thing: I'm good at what I do, but I'm sorry, I'm not THAT good at what I do. It's just a niche job, I guess, and I'm one of the only ones who know anything about it.

Career Advice: Learn how to do something that nobody else knows how to do. Apparently you'll be set. If you learn how to do brain surgery on trees, for example, somebody somewhere will pay you to do it. I am not a tree brain surgeon, by the way.
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   Posted 5/24/2007 3:16 PM (GMT -7)   
D
I am glad to hear it!! What the heck kind of work do you do?? I have not yet got a response to my transfer request and might soon be looking for a new line of work!!! LOL On a positive note, I have not had a cigarette in three days, I still have some fingernails left and I am am feeling confident I will have an answer one way or the other to my transfer request in the next few days!! The only negative is the weather for Sunday's walk, they are still forcasting a 90% chance of rain here. Can y'all help me out and pray the rain will go to a drought sticken area where it is needed!!! LOL
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debaser
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   Posted 5/24/2007 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Since it's apparently such a rarefied profession, I can't tell you or else I'd be giving my anonymity away! E-mail me and I'll tell you.

Those big companies can take forever with stuff like that, so don't hold your breath. But they'll eventually get to it.

Sunday's a long way away, and weathermen rarely know what they're talking about. There are worse things than walking in the rain, though, right? haha
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/24/2007 5:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Email me too please ..........

I love walking in the rain smells so fresh and clean out there
Love thunderstorms all of it


D....you will make it
you have the Cahoonas and frtitude to get wherever you want need to be
WE all have seen that with you my friend
I am so glad you became part of HW a/p family
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   Posted 5/24/2007 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   
debaser,
Two weeks after I graduated from college in 1986 I moved to Dallas to start my career - and I stayed there for 10 years. Dallas will always hold a special place in my heart - two of my kids were born there.
There are some fantastic hospitals and doctors in Dallas! The MD that first recognized my anxiety disorder was from Garland (a suburb of Dallas). My psychiatrist always said he'd like to meet him, because at least at that time there were so few MD's who would correctly diagnose and treat mental illnesses.
One of my mentors (and my wifes OB/GYN) practiced out of Baylor. He's moderately famous in the medical community and I'm sure if I asked he could recommend some of the best.
My only advice to you is to review the things that you KNOW have PROVEN to be good for you to DO. And even if you feel good on a given day, and don't feel the need to practice them, do them ANYWAY! Because it seems like when you relax, and allow yourself to fall back into your old, natural patterns, that the anxiety bites you. For instance I know that isolating myself inside the house for long periods is bad. So even if I feel fine, I make myself get up and out.
GREAT food in Dallas btw...enjoy it!

debaser
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   Posted 5/24/2007 10:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks to both of you.

CWH, I'm from Dallas and know all about it. FATTENING food! But it's tasty, no doubt. It's looking like I might be on the Baylor Medical insurance plan, but I don't know yet. They do have some great hospitals there, that's for sure.

I think you're right. Back in the day, I used to enjoy doing nothing. I guess I want to go back to that but just can't do it. It's probably not good to enjoy doing nothing anyway, right? haha
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 5/25/2007 4:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Good to see you mystruggle

I am pleased you have offered this to D free of charge I know it works for many but I am still working on it myself .....not with this particular person though other techniques

Brainlock has done me the best

Hoping to see you post more often


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debaser
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   Posted 5/25/2007 5:11 AM (GMT -7)   
mystruggle said...
Long time no posts for me!

Debaser, i gotta say some things to you, i been reading your blog and keeping up and seen your posts on some other sites. I think the klonopin has done wonders for you man BUT.........

from how you talk and what you are up against right now, don't you think all that stuff we talked about 5 weeks ago would be VERY beneficial now? i'm talking about the relaxation, the CBT and the exercise and some real therapy with a pdoc?

I can tell you are a nice guy and the med has changed your life big time towards the positive. I would never say this to anyone, but hope this post sorty "freaks" you into doing the things i mentioned. They are NOTHING but helpful. all the negative thinking that causes most of our panic can be stopped. by doing relaxation you actually reteach your brain to relax, it is scientifically proven just like the effects of klonopin!!!! which allows less break though anxiety while on the K. the exersise burns up that anxious energy and releases endorphins which actually fights anxiety and panic also. listen man WISE UP! you do NOT want to be where i am right now! i went from doing great to pretty much agoraphobic for a month! i can't drive! can't goto work! it is horrible!

My question"
i just started taking klonopin and it worked today but i took a nap and woke up pissed off and very agitated for like 5-10 minutes. anyone know if this is a adverse effect or paradoxical effect or just a normal human emotion? please let me know. i don't wanna continue K and end up getting in trouble for fighting or hurting someone or be mean to my family or something worse. anyone else have this problem? i talked to an ER nuse and she said "just come in" duh... like i'm gonna goto the ER for being mad! i talked to a few pharmacists and they said, it probably has not bearing at all. i just have anger cuz i can't really do the things i want to right now. took the K at 11:30am...was fine...relaxed...little sedated etc... now i'm at 3pm and took a nap until 6 pm, woke up pissed as hell...this was for like 5 mintues or so.... ate and had some nicotine and been fine ever since. i would think that a paradoxical effect wouldn't calm me down and let me get mad and then calm me down again. probably just worried for no reason. but anyone reading i'd LOVE your input!

sorry for mucking up your post debaser.....please listen....please please please listen....what if..........you could go down on your K use instead of up, because you do the things that actually substancially curb or eliminate anxiety and panic! You have to want it my man and you can do it. lucinda bassets attacking anxiety program and the first 4 weeks of that program would change your dosage to as needed probably within 6 weeks and change your life forever! if you don't want to buy it i'll send you those 4 tapes and the relaxation ones.. that means less addiction, less tolerance and maybe no withdrawls down the line, plus it would all be beneficial for your stomach problems!!! believe it! Peace to all.


I will not buy anything like her program. If I pay that much for something, it will be real visits with real doctors. I see her and others like her as profiteers, even if her program works. If there's one thing I can't stand, it's people who make money from the misfortune of others. I'd take them for free but unfortunately I don't have a tape player.

I've decided to do the therapy thing once I'm moved and have insurance. I do get more exercise than I used to, but still not enough. I'll work on that.

And this is where I ask tough questions. Please don't take personal offense. If that program works so well, then why are you doing so poorly right now? Do you think it's because you just started Klonopin? From what I've read, paradoxical reactions like that are rare with Klonopin. It could be coincidental, but you may want to speak to your doctor. I've never experienced anything like that.

I don't plan to go down on my dose anytime soon, and I'm certainly not going to go up. I might consider taking an extra .5 mg a day, but that's only if things get really, really bad.
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   Posted 5/25/2007 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Debaser.  Moving is very stressful.  I did it 2 years ago.  It can definately bring on much anxiety.  I am sure once you settle in you will feel much more calm.  Just think of how relieved you will feel once it is done!   In the meantime, take things one at a time. 
 
I have read your blogs, and they are very inspiring.  You are also a very talented photographer.  Good luck to you!  :-)
 
 
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   Posted 5/25/2007 2:37 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm pretty sure a lot of therapists are profiteers, but they're covered by insurance. You didn't make me angry at all. For some reason people around here always think I'm angry, but I very, very rarely am. I'm just really matter-of-fact sometimes.

But, yeah, I'm very aware of the fact that Klonopin is only a kick start. I've written an entire blog about how medication is only the tip of the iceberg, and that real recovery has to come from within. I feel like I've done a pretty good (not perfect) job with that, but when I wrote this post a lot of things were overwhelming me.
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   Posted 5/25/2007 10:49 PM (GMT -7)   
 
  Hello debaser, and others too :-)
 
  Someone wrote you something very simple and very true:  Moving is stressful.  One good thing is that once the move is done, the stress of that will also be gone.  In the meantime, the very fact that you are reaching for ways to stay grounded tells me you are made of the stuff you need in order to overcome. 
 
  Before I offer my first suggestion, let me just say I understand moving stress a little.  :0)  My husband and I just spent 7 weeks trying to find a house to rent for June 1.  We have to be out of here for June 1.  We only found a place we could afford etc. about 2 days ago.  Today things were finalized.  Looking in the paper every day for like 50 days and not finding the answer was rather stressful!  HEre's my point:  Today, having found a place to live,  I realized my whole body felt like a weight had lifted.  It seems that there is just this general anxiety when one is living in a state of 'unfinished business.'  So a lot of what you are feeling really is normal.  That said, something practical I was thinking might help is an herbal product.  I just bought it myself, but havn't tried it yet.  However, I used to be friends with a holistic nutritionist and she recommended it.  Also a few people (on another forum I used to post on) have tried it and seem to think it was a good product.
 
 So, it's called "Rescue Remedy" by Bach.  IT's an herbal tincture.  The box says "To comfort and reassure."  Apparently it is for use when the anxiety starts getting bad and it helps to calm things down inside.  It's not something you would need to take on a regular basis therefore, but could be great to have on hand to help through especially tough days.  Some health stores carry it.  I found it in the natural/organic section of a local grocery store.
 
  Also, a lot of the battle is really a mental one isn't it.  Personally, after moving to this city last year, and being homeless for a month at that time because the house rentals for so few and went so fast...I was quite stressed that we might be homeless again before finding a new residence.  What helped me was to constantly go back to thoughts that centred me - things I knew were true and unchanging in the midst of this upheaval of a time.  In my case, my faith was central.  I don't know if you believe in God or anything like that, but in a general sense, as someone else has said here "Things always have a way of working themselves out."  That's a good thing to remember.
 
  So I would say, do simple things like Remind yourself you are going to be okay.  Say it out loud until you really feel it and believe it.  Hearing yourself say it can be a really powerful way to re-enforce the truthfulness and impact of the words.  Also, Remind yourself of all the amazing progress you've made in the last year.  Write it out.  Think about it.  Say it out loud.  When there is chaos or instability around us, then is the time to dig in and find stability all the more within.  And you seem like you are on just such a journey.  I'm certain you have what it takes to come through this all very well.
 
  In the end, some things we can't avoid.  We just need to walk through them.  And you have the courage, (obviously!), the creativity and the strength to do just that.  I know it's hard, but try not to think too far ahead.  And if you do, remind yourself that there will be a solution that's there right when you need it.  Just like nature - it makes no plans for tomorrow and yet every day it has what it needs.  Things are just provided.  So soak in some nice time in teh creation around you, adn think about the birds and let them remind you to trust the journey you are on.  YOu don't know what tomorrow holds, but I believe that whatever you need to be there will in fact be there when you need it.  Including the strength of your own person.
 
  Okay.  that was a long post!
 
  1.  Moving is the second highest stressor after losing a loved one.  Fighting off anxiety is normal.
  2.  Try Bach's rescue remedy
  3.  Centre your thoughts by meditating upon and saying positive things outloud (And if you believe in God, think about His love and faithfulness regularly)
  4.  Get in nature and soak in the perfection of how everything finds its place
  5.  Remember, that this time period is temporary, and has a finish.  And when it's done, you will have your new job in the very city you love.  Remind yourself of this too
  6.  "Way to go!"  in advance!
 
  Anxiety is like pain.  When one nerve gets activated, it sends a pain response to another, and then another and another.  Pain is a chain reaction.  That's why if a person takes tylenol BEFORE the pain gets bad, it is more likely to stop it, but once the chain reaction starts it's a lot harder.  So sometimes with anxiety, fears pile up and we don't even realize it.  By saying truthful and reassuring things out loud, I find it unravels those 'fear receptors' one by one until I am calm again.  :-)
  blessings, manyembers

manyembers
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Date Joined Dec 2006
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   Posted 5/25/2007 10:51 PM (GMT -7)   
P.S. - Someone suggested exercise. Excellent suggestion. That was one of my primary ways to push back panic before I knew how to centre myself in my mind. It really does wonders.  And I find not just in the moment I do it, but it seems to have an overall effect for the whole day - it affects the body chemistry in a GOOD way.  And it's free! 
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