Oh, boxcastle, you don't know how much your post helped me!! Ironically, since I could not sleep last night, and was in a major state of anxiety, I went into my daughter (who seemed to be having trouble sleeping too) and told her that she is just going to have to bear with me as I walk this road of acceptance. I wanted her to know that I am working on it, but it will take time. I did say that it is hard for me with her having a relationship with a neighbor, as it is in my face all the time, but that doesn't mean I don't want her to have this relationship if it makes her happy. I also told her that I will always love her- as long as she makes wise decisions in her life (and I guess even when she doesn't)- I know this is not something that she had a choice about- (by wise decisions, I meant things like driving drunk, etc.). We had a very good conversation, but I woke up this morning with that gut-wrenching feeling in my stomach- hopefully time will help...
I do have one question for you though- but it is a rather personal one- so if you don't feel comfortable answering, that's ok (or if you'd rather e-mail me, that's ok too)- I have heard people say that there is really no such thing as bisexual- in fact, one friend felt that by saying she is bisexual, my daughter is just easing me into the fact that she is a ***- but my daughter seems confused by what she really wants, and still says she is bisexual, and feels she could go either way with a mate. Sorry- but this is all so new to me- am just wondering about this...
Again, thank you, boxcastle!
Good Morning, I am Kitt and I think this is the first time we have met.
I am so sorry that you are having a tough time. I think your restarting the Zoloft is a extrememly wise choice. Please remember it is ok to use meds as I have been on antidepressant for 24 years.
Sexual orientation falls along a continuum and individuals who are attracted to both men and women are said to be bisexual. From different articles I have read no one knows what causes heterosexuality, homosexuality, or bisexuality.
I believe that it is not uncommon for college students to experiment with their sexual orientation.
Learning that your daughter is bisexual can be a difficult discovery. It can send you on an emotional roller coaster ride. You may feel like you have lost her. Remember that she is the same daughter that you loved before she came out to you – she has just shared another part of herself with you. Feelings of grief, guilt, disappointment and denial are natural given some of our society's attitudes towards gender variance. However, you owe it to your daughter – and yourself – to move towards acceptance and understanding. Whatever your reaction, reassure the person that they still have your love.
It is very obvious that you love her or you would not be concerned at all.
Post Edited (stkitt) : 6/26/2007 7:57:21 AM (GMT-6)