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ken217
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Date Joined Aug 2006
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   Posted 6/29/2007 2:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I have been on here before.  Its about 2 years plus I havent left the house.   Thank god for the computer.  I cut the thearpy to once a month and saw a difference.  It got worse.  I am facing the wrst period as my pldest with her good heart wants to go involved.  I wish it make me feel good but she dont understanding the condition.  She believes if i wanted to i could.
 
Even my friends think the same i really dont know if i would leave if a fire started.  I am sure some point i would.  I have been thru it all but i cant get anybody to understand that it the pre anxiety that causes.  When I must go out i cant anticipate the trip but at some point the light hits and i go.  People use it against me saying i went  Its the spare  of the moment thing.
 
I know if i am comfortable and dont have antispatory anxiety i think i can conquer this with support.  How do i make my kids understand the antispotoy anxiety plus the comfort thing.  I also need for them to understand becausee the force approch works for a short time.  So now i feel when my daughter gets involvedi be back in hospital.  Since heard about her plans all the phyical things have come back bad stomach pinched nerve, sleep and other things.
 
Any body with some thoughts i really appreciate it You folks have been great in the past and i appericate any suggestions otr thoughts.
 
Thank You

Howlyncat
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   Posted 6/29/2007 3:53 AM (GMT -7)   
MY Ken
I am so sorry and kinda wondering why you didnt tell me this yesterday
I know you try to go at this alone hun BUT as yoiu know it is NOT easy

Anticipatory Anxiety is IMHO one of the worst to deal with
All the what if's and what for's and you know the spiel

YIOU have to sit down and tell your daughter JUST exactly what is going on tell her to please NOT interrupt you until you are done and have patience til you get it all out sweetie

Tell her she is more than able to ask questions later

Hospital right now would put you back and we know that dont we
This is bringing on all the anxiety right now and you dont need it
Would she perhaps talk to a second party about this??

I could not call last night but Cait said she talked to you
I was wiped 9 times to find a vein for IV......am so sick of it

Anyways am calling you tonight k my sweet man

Luvs ya so

LYN
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TammyGrl0528
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   Posted 6/29/2007 7:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ken. I don't have any advice for you, but I just wanted to pop in and say HELLO! I have heard about you and read your previous posts, and was wanting to meet you. Therefore, I am glad to see you are back around, only I am sorry to hear that things are not great for you right now.

Nice to meet you! :)
Dealing with panic and anxiety for 8 years off and on...right now more on than off.  Major health anxiety as well!
 
New found issues with agoraphobia...working on that too.
 
I am NOT weak, I am just down right now.  I am doing what it takes to get my life back!!!
 
Best Wishes to all...Tammy


stkitt
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   Posted 6/29/2007 8:28 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Ken,

I am Kitt and I don't believe we have met but I am so glad your back here and please stay with us. Let us help.

I have 2 grown adult children who are at opposite ends of the spectrum as far as understanding mental illnes.

I brought both of them to the therapist with me early in treatment so they could ask question and they got all their questions out. 

The next week when I went back alone to therapy, my therapist said, what did I think about how my children's discussion with her had gone?

I said well my son got it but my daughter did not.  My therapist said Bingo......your right on.

My daughter wanted the therapist to tell her how to help me with a "quick cure".  What could she do to get me out of the house and back in the mainstream?  You know as I do, there is no quick cure.  It takes tons of work and babysteps.  Some days are good and than like a boomerang you get struck with anticipatory anxiety.  The what ifs?

My son understood and accepted the therapist explanations.  Miles apart they were and both my children.

So I would see if your daughter could come with you to the therapist and let her have time to ask questions, and then if she doesn't get it, you keep on working with your therapist and accept that she just can't be the person you need to count on.

Use us, use your firends, use your therapist.

Please stay with us.................we are family.

 


Respectfully
Kitt
 
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ken217
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   Posted 6/29/2007 12:45 PM (GMT -7)   
thank you very much.  The story is so close.  These are kids in their 30s with strong convictions with when things go yheir way the results are good.
 
 
Thanks
Ken

Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/1/2007 5:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Ken
So sorry I have not been in contact I had to go to taker Moms ashes to a place yesterday and am still very ill with sores

Lost the IV yesterday ..............VON nurse came tried 3 times and refused to try anymore ......off to the hospital I went and the male nurse also tried 3 times on last one looked good came home started meds and they just went inot tissue
Hurt like HADES

At this point I am ready to give up as I have NO veins left at all
I really dont want to chance not having the meds but the other is worse ya know ( picc line)
So I think I will leave it til I see doc on tuesday

I am severly anxious and depressed over all of this as you can imagine


Ken
I have not been at my best will explain when I call
I am severly depressed and very anxious last few days

Am going to call just not sure exactly when

Luvs
LYN


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 7/3/2007 10:38:26 AM (GMT-6)


stkitt
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   Posted 7/1/2007 8:10 AM (GMT -7)   

Ken,

My children were 33 and 39 at the time..............so they are adults too. Coindence.................

Stay well and keep posting.

Kitt


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Kitt
 
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Dx: Anxiety/Panic, Depression 
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   Posted 7/1/2007 8:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Big Sis
 
I am here for you.  I am praying for you and hopefully someone is listening.
I hope you got my card I mailed to you. eyes I sent it to Michelle to mail on to  you.
 
Stay safe my friend. my mentor...................let us take care of you for awhile, please.
 
You Lil Sis.
Respectfully
Kitt
 
Moderator Anxiety ~ Panic Disorders

Dx: Anxiety/Panic, Depression 
______________________________________________________
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 7/3/2007 9:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks
I am not one that is for being taken care of but at this point I am at a loss anymore
The whole disease is changing and the sores worse
I cannot stay awake for more than a couple of hours due to poison going thru system

I am kicking my own ASsket really bad and I will get thru this

I WILL ......always do
Luvs
Big sis
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