hurtful advice from female docs

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harry4
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   Posted 6/29/2007 1:58 PM (GMT -7)   
some of the most hurtful and bad advice Ive ever heard of re agoraphobia has been given by women doctors to women patients
some say sexual frustration is the cause and advise the sufferer to have an affair or find a new boyfriend
others say to just ignore it and it will go away ( it wont)
 
some blame it all on hormonal problems, despite the fact that men get exactly the same panic attacks and other anxiety problems
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   Posted 6/29/2007 2:12 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Harry

Interesting, where do you get this info?

My experience with male and female therapists have not been like that.

I believe whenever you are in therapy, your personal relationships come up as often that is the cause of  the problems.

I have only had one male physician ever suggest that maybe I should think about leaving my husband.........................I blew it off as a bit of advice but not what I was interested in.

Thanks for sharing.


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   Posted 6/29/2007 2:39 PM (GMT -7)   
I haven't had a female or male therapist say that to me either. But if one did, I would certainly start looking for a new therapist.
 
Advising someone to have affair is horrible, that would cause more problems.
 
 
 
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jerseycherries
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   Posted 6/30/2007 4:28 PM (GMT -7)   
i have been to serveral different female docs and therapists through the years and never once was it mentioned that i leave my husband or that i have an affair. and again i'm agoraphobic if you dont remember. where are you getting these "facts"?
I am bipolar, have social anxiety, panic attacks w/agoraphobia , diabetes, asthma and high blood pressure. Life is short but i am not.


harry4
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   Posted 6/30/2007 5:56 PM (GMT -7)   

I spent many years talking with hunbdreds of agoraphobia sufferers, often by phone when I didnt kniow who they were

unbder those conditions people will often say much more


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   Posted 7/1/2007 8:30 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey harry, I object, "Hearsay"...............you can tell I spent to long on jury duty?

Have a good day yeah


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harry4
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   Posted 7/6/2007 2:23 PM (GMT -7)   

are we here to help the sufferers or to protect and glorify the medical profession?

BTW most psychiatrists, even those who specialise in anxiety, have never had a panic attack, even though they can be induced with several chemicals

some professionals bully and work off their own frustrations on their anxiety patients


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CBTgirl
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   Posted 7/6/2007 2:49 PM (GMT -7)   
harry4 said...
are we here to help the sufferers or to protect and glorify the medical profession?

BTW most psychiatrists, even those who specialise in anxiety, have never had a panic attack, even though they can be induced with several chemicals

some professionals bully and work off their own frustrations on their anxiety patients


Although I have never had anyone suggest I have an affair I have been to some sketchy therapists so I think I see what you are saying and would agree with what you are trying to do here. That's why I like CBT therapists so much because instead of telling you what to do, they teach you how to help yourself. My CBT practitioners were great and even though none of them had ever had panic attacks some had previous problems with anxiety and they did have us read the book by sam obitz because he had them and got better through the use of CBT. I think you really have to be careful when picking a therapist.

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   Posted 7/6/2007 2:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont think anyone is glorifying medical professionals here
just posting their experiences

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   Posted 7/6/2007 4:04 PM (GMT -7)   

There is always the bad apple whether it be Doctor, Lawyer, teacher or truckdriver, but to make comments about the medical profession being bullies etc is misleading.

I think it is safer to say everyone should stay street wise and if it looks like a bad deal then get out............report the incident to the proper authority and work with whatever program suits you best.

A Doctor that takes advantage of a patient has broken all his/her oaths and this person has a mental health problem, IMHO.

Gentle hugs to all.

 


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   Posted 7/8/2007 1:45 AM (GMT -7)   
Great response

I totally agree with what has been said and we do need to find the " right Doc" for us

JUst my half penny worth

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   Posted 7/12/2007 1:19 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree bad apples everywhere so we need to be careful in all aspects of professional relationships whether it is with a doctor lawyer or whatever. After seeing the movie Sicko I am not sure a lot of American doctors are taking their oaths too seriously these days :(
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