FAMILY MEMBER CAUSING MUCH ANXIETY

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anastasia01
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Date Joined Jul 2007
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   Posted 7/8/2007 9:47 PM (GMT -6)   
BACK IN 2003 I GOT PREGNANT AND MY GRANDMOTHER PRESSURED ME INTO HAVING AN ABORTION.  SHE EVEN LIED TO ME AND TOLD ME THAT THE HEARTBEAT OF MY BABY WAS NOT REAL THAT THE DOCTOR JUST SAID THAT.  SHE WOULD CALL ME EVERYDAY AND EVEN PAID FOR ME TO HAVE IT DONE.  AFTER I HAD IT DONE SHE DIDNT EVEN TALK WITH ME.  I WOULD CALL CRYING AND SHE WOULD SAY SHE COULDNT TALK about THAT THEN.  WELL YEARS PASSED AND THINGS GOT BETTER.  BUT SHE HAD ALWAYS BEEN THE CONTROLING TYPE AND ALWAYS BROUGHT UP THE NEGATIVE WITH EVERYTHING.  LAST YEAR WHEN I GOT PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST CHILD I CALLED TO TELL HER AND SHE SAID TO ME AND MY HUSBAND THAT SHE WAS NOT THE HAPPIEST GRANDMA.  HER WORDS REALLY HURT.  I DID NOT HAVE TO TELL HER BUT I FELT IT WAS GOOD THAT I TOLD HER AND THAT SHE DIDNOT HAVE TO HEAR IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE AND HAVE HER FEELINGS HURT.  WELL I AM 24 WEEKS PREGNANT NOW AND MY DAUGHTER IS 7 MONTHS OLD.  THIS PREGNANCY WAS UNEXPECTED.  U KNEW SHE WOULD NOT LIKE IT BUT IT WOULD BUG ME SO MUCH THAT I JUST WENT AHEAD AND CALLED TO TELL HER TO GET IT OUT OF MY WAY.  HER REMARK WAS, "AH HELL".  THEN I  CUSSED HER OUT.  I KNOW THAT I DID NOT EVEN HAVE TO INVOLVE HER IN ANYTHING BUT I WAS TRYING TO DO THE RIGHT THING.  JUST FROM ALL THE PAST AND RECENT THINGS THAT HAVE HEPPENED BETWEEN US I DONT EVEN WANT  TO BE CLOSE WITH HER.  I HAVE TOOK SO MUCH FROM HER AND I HAVE BEEN HURT SO BADLY AND SHE DON'T EVEN CARE.  SHE KNOWS THAT I DONT PUT UP WITH ANYTHING NEGATIVE AND I TOLD HER HOW I FELT about HER NEGATIVITY.  I DONT EVEN CARE TO VISIT HER BECAUSE IT BRINGS UP ALL THE PAST.  EVEN IF SHE CALLS IT BRINGS IT UP.  I AM TO THE POINT TO TELLING HER THAT I IM NOT GOING TO HAVE MY CHILDREN BROUGHT UP AROUND A NEGATIVE PERSON AS HER.  I CAN FORGIVE BUT I JUST DONT WANT HER IN MY LIFE.  IT BRINGS BACK THINGS THAT IM TRYING TO MOVE ON FROM.  I HAVE ALREADY TOLD HER THAT I DO NOT WANT HER AT THE HOSPITAL WHEN I GO TO HAVE MY BABY.  SOMEONE WHO HAS TREATED ME THIS WAY FOR YEARS AND EACH TIME I HAVE BEEN PREGNANT SHE WAS HURTFUL.  I WANT SOMEONE TO HELP ME FIND A WAY TO TELL HER THAT I DONT WANT TO HEAR FROM HER OR SEE HER BECAUSE SHE BRINGS BACK THIS PAIN AND IT CAUSES MAJOR ANXIETY FOR ME.  I HAVE STAYED THINKING about HOW SHE HAS DONE ME AND THE THINGS SHE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS PREGNANT.  SOME ADVICE ANYONE?
ANASTASIA


anastasia01
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Date Joined Jul 2007
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   Posted 7/8/2007 9:58 PM (GMT -6)   
I KNOW AS SOON AS I TELL HER AND DONT HAVE TO WRRY about HER THAT THINGS WILL BE M,UCH BETTER.
ANASTASIA


debaser
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   Posted 7/8/2007 11:11 PM (GMT -6)   
I know your under some kind of pressure, but I'm not reading that until you change it to use a few lower case letters and break some paragraphs.
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gmaA
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Date Joined May 2007
Total Posts : 117
   Posted 7/9/2007 1:29 AM (GMT -6)   
anastasia, i am sorry u are going thru this. I haven't been in this type of situation before, but i do have anxiety and it is obvious you are very upset. This cannot be good for your pregnancy either. Hopefully, you will get some good advise from others on here though. Good luck and take care.

Ibs, fibro, migraines, depression, anxiety, PTSD, GERD, past endometriosis; C-section, Choley, Liver resection, Total Hysterectomy; Cymbalta, Fentanly patch, Mobic, and Vivelle patch + PRN = Oxycodone, Phenergan, Mobic, Xanax and others.

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