Welcome! Iam so sorry that you are in this situation and I think if you are able to get your parents to sit down with just you and talk this thru calmly that you both might get a better understanding of how each feels.
I believe that your parents should be more respectful of your decision and support you but that is my opinion. You are scared and they are scared.
Once you get moved, they will still have a relationship with your children if they choose too. I hope for your sake and theirs that they do maintain their relationship or they are going to be hurting themselves needlessly.
I can read your pain in your post and you have my support and hugs. You are attempting to be all things to all people, not an easy job.
Remember we cannot change others, only ourselves.
Sending you gentlle hugs and prayers.
Please stay with us and keep posting.
HI, I am sorry it has come down to this as in the end everyone gets hurt and hard feelings don't go away easy.
I hope you make peace and that your parents will accept the fact that you are an adult and doing what you feel is best for your family now.
Many Hugs and keep posting. We are here for you.
Emotional blackmail is never pleasant, is it? That's exactly what your parents are doing to you now, and I'd about bet money that's how they've always operated with you. They know when they say, "Jump!" you will respond with, 'How high?"
Your first priority is you and your husband. Your own family. Time to stand on your own feet and make the decisions that are right for you and your marriage. Holding on to the expectation that your parents are going to suddenly support you in defying their wishes is a useless exercise. Something tells me the pressure will get worse before it gets better.
You have done everything right, and nothing wrong. You made the decision to move and respect your husband's and your own wishes instead of your parents. Stick to your guns! You are an adult. Give yourself permission to act like one and live the life YOU want to live. I can understand how tempting it must be to succumb to the manipulations, but you can't fall for it.
Let's run this thing out to the end. What's the worst thing that could possibly happen by defying your parents? Will they not speak to you again? Will the pressure get worse and worse? Will you allow them to spin you up again and possibly wreck your marriage? Start thinking now about how to deal with some of the things that might happen. Lean on your husband for support and make a plan. You have nothing to lose but your own freedom. Don't let someone else, even your parents, steal your joy in life.
I am sorry to here your Dad was very withdrawn at your get together. Perhaps he is just afraid also of you being so far away and wondering how he can deal with it.
Remember you can only control your own feelings no other peoples.
You would normally be anxious about a move and having your folks upset makes this more of a challenge for you. You are doing the right thing for the right reasons. Please try to put a positive spin on it for yourself and your husband and children. Your going on an adventure.
You can do this, just stay in the moment and don't dwell on what happened yesterday or last week. Happy Moving. ((((HUGS))))
I am sure you are feeling more anxious as the time approaches but once your headed off and get to your new home you will be busy unpacking and getting your new life organized that you may not feel so anxious.
Don't think of it as saying good bye to your family, just see you later. Your husband is very supportive and to have each other is grand. You are both giving something to make your life together happy.
Bless you, you will make it. I am proud of you. :)