My son has had severe panic attacks for a few years now. Last year, we found a school that is a good fit for him (about 100 students / 5 or 6 per class). Teachers love him, he got along with everyone, made friends, etc. and he was doing his work and making A’s and B’s,
Despite all that, the Panic Attacks came back around December. He always has some anxiety (like most PA suffers do, I think) and tries to function normally.
I can’t seem to get people to understand the difference; the physical things that happen that, at that moment, you can’t control (the heart pounding, throat closing, sever back pain or stomach pain, nausea, etc.). All those symptoms that have caused so many people to end up in the emergency room thinking they were having a heart attack and going to die.
I hate the things that teachers and counselors say in an attempt to (be helpful?). For example, I just received his (Individual Education Plan) in the mail that I need to sign and return, it states, in part: “Johnny needs to find a way to face and overcome his fears if he is to function successfully in society”. NO ****!!
That just made me think he’s going to get a bunch of lectures when he goes back.
“You know it’s really important for you to be here everyday”, etc.
I’m trying to think of a what to say that would cause a light bulb to go off in there heads so they will stop thinking he’s just not trying hard enough or he’s lazy and doesn’t want to go.
(I read something that did it for me but I can’t remember what).
Please don’t misunderstand; I’m not saying there’s nothing that can be done to help.
We’re doing everything possible. He’s on medication (the 4th or 5th attempt at finding what will work for him) and has had 5 or 6 biofeedback sessions.
I just hate the attitude people have about Panic Disorder and him.
He first tried Paxil and Zanax which did absolutely nothing. When I told the truancy officer this, her response was, “Well, he should be back in school then. Lots of kids are taking Zanax and now they’re fine”.
Hi NoVaMom and wecome to HW
It sounds like you are doing the best you can with your son and they are the one's that need to be ed. on this problem as this is a medical condistion, I know that my doc asked me if he could come down to the shop I worked at and see what I was dealing with when I frist came down with A/P. I know it's just a thought but maybe your son's doctor maybe willing to do this and sit down with the teachers and counselors to help them understand what A/P is really like for him.
This is Kitt and Welcome to Healing Well and the A & P forum. Sarita has offered the same advice I was thinking. She is wise. I would suggest that meeting with these people would help both the counselers and you to have a chance to understand each other. IMO you are a wonderful Mother and advocating for your child is admirable.
We are here to support and and listen to you, so please keep posting.
I am so proud of you for going off to school. That takes a lot of guts and by golly I think you will make it. Just remember to try not to anticipate the what ifs?
Your in college now and your right you don't go to the nurses office and wait for your parent. You can simply leave the area for a bit, take a walk on campus and regroup. Remember you are a good and kind person. You care about others and no one is better than you.
Your more anonymous in college as each class is full of strangers and it will switch continously. The instructor will not be your keeper and you will be responsible to take care of your self. So learn to be a bit more assertive in your rights as well as your responsibility for you. :)
I wish you peace and happiness in all that you do. Gentle Hugs.