I'm sorry that you are going through such a rough time. You went through a pretty traumatic experience with getting your teeth pulled while you were awake, so I imagine that is why you are feeling a bit more anxious right now. I have the same issues with pain meds too, so I understand that. Did the doc tell you to use heat or cold to relieve pain? As for the anxiety, do you know cbt? Try and relax the best you can, deep breathing always helps me. You will get through this, your nerves are probably sensititzed from what you went through and will calm down. I do hope you will feel better very soon!
Ice to that jaw will help with the swelling and one of the OTC Motrins or Aleve should give you some pain relieve if you can take those NSAIDS.
Take care of you. You are an important member of our family. Hugs to you.