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Newmother
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   Posted 9/4/2007 4:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello Everyone!
 
 
 I just recently had a baby girl, she's now 4 1/2 weeks young. about a week and a half later I had little pains in my left abdomen area. Then shortly after I had a muscle spasm. I freaked out a bit, and asked all my friends that had babies before if this has happened to them, because I thought maybe it happens after you have a kid.. my body may be getting back to normal and these are things that can happen that I wasn't told about. Then one night I started feeling sharp pains here and there, just all over. On my upper ab area on the right side, on my back right side, upper area.. and then I started feeling short of breath to the point where I had my fiance rush me to the Emergency walk in clinic here. The doctor I seen wasn't very good at all. He checked my breathing and said "this is not an emergency, come back tomorrow as walk in" I insisted something was wrong because I couldn't even sleep, there had to be something physically wrong going on inside. He said you probably have anxiety, just come back as walk in tomorrow. What a great doctor right? Anyway I go in the next day and fortunetly get a good doctor. He took some chest x-rays and saw that there wasn't anything wrong with me that he could see from the X-rays. He said I may have some swelling because my body is trying to get back to normal so he prescribed me Naproxen for that, and he also gave me Valium 5mg. I looked at him like ? Valium? Why Valium? I seriously couldn't get over the fact that what I was going through was ANXIETY. I physically felt sharp pains, I was short of breath,  and I'm not depressed or anything.. I get stressed here and there, but doesn't every new mother? I notice that everytime I feel any pain, sharp pain inside, ab pain, bubbly feeling in my stomach.. I think oh my gosh.. what's wrong inside me? and that's when the paniking starts and my breathing gets harder. I dont know what triggers the pains though? I can be happy, watching a movie than I'll feel those uncomfortable sharp pains, in different places each time. Mainly on the left and right side of my upper ab area. It's so frustrating. I just want to start this new topic to see if any new mom's have gone through this before? PLEASE tell me I'm not alone in this.. it can be very scary and frustrating not knowing if something can be really wrong inside me, or if this is just all in my head.?
-NewMother

chowch
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   Posted 9/4/2007 5:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi New Mother. Firstly congratulations on your little bundle of joy, secondly, yes we all worry about our kids and especially new borns - I know I did when my son was first born, he starts school next week! You seem to have just become aware of your heart beat and are worrying about it. I also do this, the key for me is to count ones breathing in to 7 and exhale to 11, and this should slow your heart rate automatically, if this does not work, I find that doing something to take my mind off it works well. Good luck and try not to worry - your body has just been through an immense ordeal.
Smile and the world will smile with you


stkitt
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   Posted 9/4/2007 7:55 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning New Mother and again Welcome to our wonderful forum.

I hope you are become more relaxed with these feelings and your anxiety has decreased some with the Valium. 

All new mothers are somewhat anxious. Being a mother is a new role, a new job, with a new person in your life and new, responsibilities. Anxiety in response to this situation is very common. Pediatricians, obstetricians, and nurses are used to worries, concerns, and questions like yours.

I went through some of these same symptoms years ago when I had my first. I cried, thought my life was over as I had now done everything and I had this colicky baby that cried all the time.
 
Please talk with your physician...........you are going to be ok, so let us help you through this new experience in your life called change.
 
Gentle Hugs
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/4/2007 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
New Mother
A beautiful Baby .....congrats to you and your fiance........it is so much joy as they grow BUT right now and down the line as Kitt said there will those anxiety times

Being a Parent is a Hard but rewarding role in your life one that you will now be for the rest of your life
Unlike other jobs or situations you can not call in sick lol or say nope I dont want to do this today do it tomorrow
IT dont work that way ......and you will be sooooo rewarded believe me

I just sat on the couch this am and watched my lil baby girl off to High school with alligator tears running down my face and my heart clenched in a vise like no other ....I cannot be there to protect her ya know I have to let her be on her own deal with all the new changes in HER life and she will have anxiety today has had for last few days but we have come closer together and we have talked about things like when I went to school ( dinosaurs (sp) still roamed lol) and all I went thru the changes ect .....it has been a long but very warm and beautiful road her and I have shared since she was born and I was so like you
I had pains and I was on Valium ...Cait was also colicky and believe me that is Hades to deal with eh Kitt .......
You are going to be okay hun you really are we are here to talk to and you betcha each new mom had or has gone thru this some more than others but still..........

As long as the valium help then take them does the pains stop when you do take the valium?

You are not "Drugged" with this so that you are not capable of looking after your beautiful lil angel but you are being helped to relax and try not to be anxious around her

They do sense it I am sure most will agree with me here about that
I know my Cait sensed every mood and how I was when she was tiny and growing up still does
She can walk in and have one look at me and know if I am sick or if there is something wrong thats the BOND you have the beautiful bond that will take you to places you will never want to leave at times and other times can hurt you like nothing else can ...........MOM ......it is a word so full of titles and meanings and so full of JUST EVERYTHING.........It is the best word to hear IMHO
I may be a bit more emotional today lol can you tell .........

I honestly think you are going to be a great Mom and you will be fine as long as you are able to come and get some support when YOU feel you need it or help those out that might need it ......

NO worries you definitely are not alone in this one sweetie ...........
A gentle hugg for that sweet lil babe plz........LYN


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Newmother
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   Posted 9/5/2007 1:29 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Everyone for the replies. I feel better having people to talk with about this. I have friends that I talk with, but they have no idea what I'm talking about when I explain the things I'm feeling. I have an appointment on the 12th, so I'm going to talk with the doctor a bit more, and see if I can get bloodwork and maybe even an ultrasound done just to make sure there's nothing wrong with me. I keep getting told "its just your body going back to normal" which makes sense, and it's most likely what it is.... but alot of people i know that have had kids look at me like, "huh? I've never felt that" and "maybe somethings wrong with you" So... anyway.. I'm just waiting for this appointment. If everything comes back clear, then I know i'll be able to calm down a whole lot more just to know I'm okay. It's just right now, I've only been to this walk-in clinic where it was a quick check up like Kitt says.. they dont really give you a lot of time during those visits. Thanks again everyone, I almost cried the last reply I got, lol. I can get emotional as well. I love being a mother. When my fiance see's me getting anxious or panicky he'll take her in the other room, because he said the same thing, "you can't be panicky in front of her, even though she's a baby she's going to get a bad vibe from that" So, he helps me out alot. I feel like I wouldn't be getting anxiety if I didn't feel these pains, or get the muscle spasm's.. I dont know, I just want to be normal again. Thanks again you all.. I'll definatly write again after my appointment. Hopefully everything comes back "NORMAL" :)

stkitt
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   Posted 9/5/2007 6:50 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Mom

I understand your fears and concerns, when you feel something is not quite right, you go with your intution and get a good physical.  Be very frank with your physician and remember you have patients rights.  Ask for what you feel you need and don't be blown off with getting some reason for what your experiencing.

Remember each person is different and others experiences will be very different from yours.

Gentle Hugs


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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/6/2007 6:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Definitely AGREE with ya here and everything you said Lil sis

EVERYONE goes thru different things after giving birth
I would not listen ....not being rude hun but try not to to let those that say " it didnt happen to them " get to you ..........

I am sooooo happy your man and her daddy is taking her and doing the right thing .......he is 110% correct IMHO about the " vibes" that come off the parents they will also come off of him to so if you are stressed and Dad is not and mellow it is so much better for her ............I am so glad you are taking and loving being a MOM
Like I did say it is not easy no handbook............... no notes on how too
Alot of well wishiful thinking ppl giving advice take it with a grain of salt
YOUR instincts will be the ticket here in all honesty
YES you may have to go to outside ppl for some pointers but not many hun ........just go with the Blessing you have as a Mom and that Beautiful Baby Girl
I had 3 boys and then my Cait ..........
Like Kitts daughter she cried and fussed badly ALL night long due to colick and alot during the day but it was worse at night
I slept with her tightly on my chest bundle her up to try and help her poor belly .........
Cait is the Light in my life ............yes I love my children all of them equally BUT she is last one at home and then I face the " empty nest syndrome"
That is where I will have to turn to Lil sis for help I am sure .........

Please let us know how you make out and glad we were of some help

LUVS
LYN
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/6/2007 6:54 AM (GMT -7)   
Definitely AGREE with ya here and everything you said Lil sis

EVERYONE goes thru different things after giving birth
I would not listen ....not being rude hun but try not to to let those that say " it didnt happen to them " get to you ..........

I am sooooo happy your man and her daddy is taking her and doing the right thing .......he is 110% correct IMHO about the " vibes" that come off the parents they will also come off of him to so if you are stressed and Dad is not and mellow it is so much better for her ............I am so glad you are taking and loving being a MOM
Like I did say it is not easy no handbook............... no notes on how too
Alot of well wishiful thinking ppl giving advice take it with a grain of salt
YOUR instincts will be the ticket here in all honesty
YES you may have to go to outside ppl for some pointers but not many hun ........just go with the Blessing you have as a Mom and that Beautiful Baby Girl
I had 3 boys and then my Cait ..........
Like Kitts daughter she cried and fussed badly ALL night long due to colick and alot during the day but it was worse at night
I slept with her tightly on my chest bundled her up to try and help her poor belly .........
Cait is the Light in my life ............yes I love my children all of them equally BUT she is last one at home and then I face the " empty nest syndrome"
That is where I will have to turn to Lil sis for help I am sure .........

Please let us know how you make out and glad we were of some help

LUVS
LYN
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Newmother
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   Posted 9/7/2007 7:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Ok, so Im crying as I type this. I'm so sick of this pain. It's mild i guess pain but I'm constantly waiting for the next feeling of pain to happen, and it interferes with me trying to have a good time. I'm not feeling anything right now, just a bit short of breath. but ever since this morning I've been getting sharp pains then it leads to my right back side and is constant for a while then it goes away. Then just as I'm typing this I feel sore-ish sharp pain in my stomach on the lower right side. It's also on the left but I haven't felt pain there in a few hours. I'm SICK of feeling this way. I just want to be normal again. I live in a small village so we only have a walk-in clinic from 12-5 after that it HAS to be emergency. I'm just thinking if I go in to the hospital they'll give me the same bs... "this is not an emergency, your just going through anxiety" I'm not depressed, I dont "feel" stressed.. I love being a mom and I just want to enjoy it!! It's kind of hard when I try to pick her up and I have to take a second to breath just so the pain will go away. My appt isn't for another few days/week..When I go in though I'm def. telling them to run every kind of test there is, I feel like something is seriously wrong inside.. than again I try to convince myself "i just had a baby..callm down..everythings ok" I dont know how to cope...I go for walks when I can... but I just hate feelingg that theres something wrong with me. My sister said maybe it could be ulcers? I read up on the symptoms and I dont see anything about sharp pains all over so I dont know what I could have? I just had to vent... sorry if I sound like I'm loosing control, I just need answers.

Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/8/2007 12:19 PM (GMT -7)   
I am so sorry this is getting as bad as it is

When you go to your appointment MENTION everything that is happening to you and demand answers

YOU have a right to enjoy being a new mommy sweetie

Please let us know how it go okay
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PanicAttacker27m
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   Posted 9/9/2007 5:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi newmother... thanks so much for replying to my message... but about your pain issue, I had the same problem, but im a guy ( i was never pregnant, i think ) Shortly after my first panic attack in march, I developed like a stabbing sharp pain under my lowest rib...it felt like it was about 2inches inside... it was a pulsating pain... not a big deal, but worrisome. A few days later it moved a few inches to my side... then later to my back. I was tired of wondering what this was so I went into the ER. An Xray and CT scan later and they could not find anything. Not knowing what this was and worrying about it lead to more panic attacks... but in about 2 weeks time it went away and never came back.

They said it might be a Pleurisy ( an inflammation in the lining surrounding your lungs ) but I never really belived that after researching that further.

Im sure this didnt help you at all... but go see your doctor, if you have good insurance, go the ER for a fater answer... hopefully its just nothing as it was for me.

Good luck =)
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