for the agoraphobics

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   Posted 9/6/2007 12:16 PM (GMT -6)   

I have a question for people who suffer from agoraphobia. I have severe agoraphobia myself and I am so tired of being a prisoner of my own house that I think that even what I fear outside is not worst than the loneliness and boredom I experience at home. So my question is WHAT IS YOUR WORST FEAR? What could happen "there" that you fear. In my case I fear that I am going to choke to death or faint and be smashed by a truck or something... and I also fear I will panic so hard that I will be far from home and unable to speak, call anybody, I will just go crazy and stay all night on the street because I will just be frozen with fear.
When I write it down it seems stupid but agoraphobia is not rationnal is it? eyes

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   Posted 9/6/2007 12:51 PM (GMT -6)   


My worse fear when I did not want to leave home was breaking down in public with an anxiety attack and start to cry. I felt safe at home and protected by my husband and my sweet dobermans.

Looking back now I can see how bad I was and how far I have come.

Take care

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   Posted 9/6/2007 3:08 PM (GMT -6)   
I guess my fear was freezing up, sweating panicking falling over - it was vague actually, i just had an image of 'losing it' so badly i would lose my mind..get locked up, i dont know...
Just wondering - have you read Dr Claire Weekes - 'self help for your nerves'? It was only thorugh reading and practising her 'acceptance' method (my words not really hers) that i recovered from agorophobia an dpanic disorder maybe as severe as yours. Its quite a funny old fashioned book but her style is so comforting and reassuring its like being taken by the hand by a friend and led gently into feeling better.
Wierdly, i also found i could ride a bike outside but not walk! If i walked i got dizzy, panicked, the pavements heaved. But not on a bike! My point is its ok to use any kind of prop for a while at least - be it dark glasses, a dog, something heavy (I know it sounds mental). You never know what might help a little bit even to go to the end of the road or garden path!
I want you to know - i am ABSOLUTELY better now. Im 35, and i suffered from the age of 24 to about 30. Dont ever think that this is forever. One day you'll look back and feel so proud at what youve acheived. I really think also that this whole experience can make us stronger, more empathetic, spiritual (in whatever sense that may apply!) people.
Im an old member who's back to get involved again - i used to be just plain 'haze', but lost all my login details!

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   Posted 9/6/2007 5:02 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey. I am not agoraphobic, but I do have a fear. My worst fears are people, talking, failure, and hurting myself. I know that sounds bad. I will explain.
I fear people because I don't like to be around people, groups, assembles, anything like that. I hate going to school because I can't stand the classroom with so many people. Or the hallways, or lunchroom, or gym, or games, anything like that. When I am around people like that I feel very scared. Shakey. Nervous. Hot. Racing thoughts. My heart pounds.
I fear talking like in front of groups. I can't stand up in front of anyone. I also have a very very hard time talking about my feelings or thoughts. I am seeing my counselor now and I have a very hard time opening up to her and being totally honest about my feelings.
I fear failure at just about anything. I freak out over a test at school. I fear failing the test. Which happens from time to time. Then, I beat myself over it. I also fear failing at life. I am pretty sure this won't happen(at least I hope), but I feel like it is something I can't control.
I fear hurting myself, obviously, because I don't want to hurt myself. I am pushed to the edge sometimes where I want to explode and make everything come to an end. I get so fed up with people and things and, honestly, life in general. BUT, I have self-control so..but I fear hurting myself because I fear getting worse. Like, what will happen if one day I am worse and snap and can't control myself? What if I am not thinking like 'myself'? That's why I fear hurting myself.
I feel like these are pathological fears. Because I have tried to control them, but I can't seem to. So, these are my fears! Thanks.  

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   Posted 9/7/2007 7:32 AM (GMT -6)   
When I was agoraphobia, my biggest fear was of fainting. Why, because I fainted 3 times during a PA. I was in my late teens/early 20's at the time.
I'm now 41 and am not house bound anymore (haven't been for 20 yrs), but still fear fainting.
It's funny what we fear never happens.....maybe I fear winning the lottery b/c that never seems to happen either ;-)

And Jen what you say about "I am so tired of being a prisoner of my own house that I think that even what I fear outside is not worst than the loneliness and boredom I experience at home"

That is the EXACT reasoning I used to get over my agoraphobia. All my friends were doing great stuff and I was at home.
There was a time when I met some ppl from NYC and they were in a band. They were always asking me to drive to NY to go see them and I was like "Are you nuts, I cannot even drive to the corner"
Well one yr later, I thought to myself "hmm, the fear of driving over the border (I'm in Canada) and driving 500 miles is SO less fearful than being in this house. So I went! I was terrified, but had so much fun.
That was a huge turning point for me. I then went down about 15 more times after that.
I also drove to Philly (8hr for me) alone 2 yrs ago to meet friends I met on line. Oh I was scared, but what a great therapy session that was.
Everything is practice, but the reasoning you gave here will cure you, I promise. Just keep thinking that way.....b/c this thinking and not being hit by a truck, is reality.
Keep strong

Jen (also) ;-)
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