Lost job - I'm so upset

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wen4003
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   Posted 9/24/2007 11:31 AM (GMT -7)   
Since my hospitalization, I have been out of work and on short-term disability.  I received an email from my supervisor today asking me if I was ready to return to work yet.  She also stated that on the hospital's discharge paperwork, the doctor wrote that I should be ready to return to work by the end of this month.  She stated that she needs to get things settled with my position and cannot continue with a temp much longer.  I understand all of this, I really do - I'm not reliable, I can't even think about going into work right now.  I can hardly leave my house - and that's only with my husband.  So I've had to resign.
 
Now we're going to have to carry the COBRA for insurance, because I was the carrier and my husband's work doesn't offer insurance.  All four of us need insurance but both my son and I absolutely need insurance - there is just no doubt about it.  We both have scripts, doctors and I have a therapist.
 
I feel like I should never have gone to the hospital in the first place, then we wouldn't be in this mess.  I feel like such a failure.
 
I'm just not even close to return to work.  I'm going to see if I can find something to do at home for income. 
 

sad  

Wen


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eveie
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   Posted 9/24/2007 3:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Wen....
Sending BIG HUGS to you! I am sorry this happened but you did the right thing. You are not a failure...if you were, you wouldn't be trying to get well. Going into the Hospital was not a mistake...you were taking care of you and that is so important. Have you thought of applying for disability? You might check into it.
You need to remember that you are more important than your job. Keep fighting the good fight and try not to beat yourself up over this...it doesn't help.
Hang tough.
xoxoxox
Eveie
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machelle
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   Posted 9/24/2007 3:54 PM (GMT -7)   
you can't blame yourself it was nothing you can do, until you can find something that helps, i know when this all started for me i was scared to go out but i made myself, i think my meds helped too. alot of people make good incomes working at home, it might be whats perfect for you in the long run. i know i would like a at home job too.


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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/24/2007 4:41 PM (GMT -7)   
nono  WEN
 
YOU are not a failure.........these things happen and I am sure it was for the best in the longrun to resign hun...........
 
Please do not be so hard on yourself you have come to far and
YOU needed to go to the hospital so thats not even an issue  IMHO.......you did what YOU had to do
 
 DO not let this get you down more than it will /has already ......there are drug companies out there that may be able to help for now
 
 You will get thru this too ......you have all your HW family for support and we do CARE
PLEASE dont call yourself a Failure ...take that word right out of language
 
 I am sure there will be something you can do at home for now but do be careful of the scams too k ..........
 
Keep us posted and
I will have you and your family in my heart thoughts and Prayers............LUVS......LYN
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   Posted 9/24/2007 7:46 PM (GMT -7)   

Wen

I am so sorry that this has happened, but you are not a loser and you will never be a loser.

You cannot work when your sick and it is not your fault that you have this illness.

Please keep posting here and we will support you and give you help to the best of our ability.

You are family here so gentle hugs to you. ((((((((HUGS))))))))

 


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Aussieangel
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   Posted 9/24/2007 8:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Wen, know that we're all thinking of you. ((((hugs))))

chowch
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   Posted 9/25/2007 2:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Wen, my heart goes out to you. I had to resign from my job back in June because of my attacks but I have since started working part time as a telesales person and also do makeup parties for people in their homes in the evenings. My meds have properly kicked in now and I do feel like a new person however for yourself, you need to find something that you enjoy doing that you can get paid for - ie. collecting peoples children for school, setting up a breakfast club for kids before school - I don't know what you feel comfortable doing at the moment but you will be fine, financially and mentally. I didn't think we'd cope with me leaving my highly paid job (I was chief income earner) but we manage better on less money than we did on lots and mentally and physically I am a lot happier. Things happen for a reason, sometimes it just takes a while to work out what that reason is. I am on email if you need me. Am at work til 2.30pm GMT. All the best, J xx
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TammyGrl0528
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   Posted 9/25/2007 6:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Wen, I am soooo sorry you are going through this. This happened to me in April, as well. Man, this disease can really tear up a persons life, eh? I too had become unreliable at work, since I was at that time, agoraphobic, and my boss, who had been understanding through my Mom's illness, with me taking time off, had no choice but to eventually fire me. I haven't got back to work yet. Although I am no longer agoraphobic, I am still "scared" to go to work. I didn't realize how many of us on this board alone, are losing jobs because of this, it is sad, really.

Now, onto you...you are NOT a loser. You are sick right now, and you need to focus on getting better. Thinking badly about yourself will only make things worse, so PLEASE, don't do it.

How is your husband handling this? If you don't mind me asking...

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. Things WILL get better...with time. YOu will see!

Sending (((((HUGS))))) to you!!!
Dealing with panic and anxiety for 8 years off and on...right now more on than off.  Major health anxiety as well!
 
New found issues with agoraphobia...working on that too.
 
I am NOT weak, I am just down right now.  I am doing what it takes to get my life back!!!
 
Best Wishes to all...Tammy


wen4003
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   Posted 9/28/2007 11:42 AM (GMT -7)   
You all are so great, thank you for lifting me up and making sure to inform me that I am not a failure or loser in any way shape or form.
 
My husband keeps reassuring me that my only job/concern right now is to get better and to stop worrying about everything else - he'll take care of it.  He really is a good man, I just worry sometimes that all of this will could be too much for him.  But I will take him at his word for now.
 
Again, logically I do know that going to the hospital was the smartest thing that I could have done, but it sure has made a mess of my life by doing so.  But I can't regret it, because now I know what's wrong with me and it can be treated.
 
I did get notification that the short-term disability will continue for awhile longer - either until the therapist says i'm ready to work again or until the disability runs out which will be another 4 or 5 months or so.  So that's a bit of financial relief for me.  And as I said before we will continue with the insurance through the COBRA - it's horribly expensive, but we can't be without insurance, that's for sure!
 
Thanks again for helping me and continuing to let me be in your family - this is a great family and I am so happy that I found you all.  (((((HUGS))))))) to all of you.
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liquid
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   Posted 9/28/2007 5:34 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Wen, sorry to hear you lost your job,but just remember its not your fault. I too had a great job before depression got the better of me, and i was hospitalised 5 times, and therefore lost my job. Its not easy especially with trying to find money, but there is light at the end of the tunnel, the most important thing is not to balme yourself, and remember your family loves you and so do all of us here.. keep your chin up... :-)

Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/30/2007 11:10 AM (GMT -7)   
 WEN..............YOU will never be out of this family .........
 
You have given much to many ppl as well as been there for me and so many others
It is now your turn to get supoort and caring from your family..........
nono
WE dont let you get away form this family that easy especially when you are truly cared about
LUVS
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