Why is believing in yourself so hard?

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Danxiety
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   Posted 9/30/2007 8:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Good morning friends.

I know that sounds like a odd question, but i was just thinking about two things that are making me anxious and I wondered " Why is it so hard to just belief in myself"? Meaning this. My rational mind tells me that I will be fine when my dog passes. I will grieve and maybe have some panic and anxiety, but i will get through it. The other i discussed at length in another thread, but lets just call it a relationship trigger. I know that I will get through this situation as well. And rationally it shouldn't be affecting me as much as it is...

So why cant i feel better? Why do i feel fearful? It's a question i know i can simply answer with " I got panic and anxiety disorder and that is what happens". I dunno, i wish i could just believe in myself more and listen to my rational mind more than my irrational mind. My irrational mind is causing me to not sleep well, and making me feel crappy. So " go away irrational thoughts! GO!" heh...

Anyways, I'm not sure if others here have some self doubt. I'm sure some do. But these past few days have been hard on me, and i feel like I've been down this road many times and at the end is panic. I'm going to try and break this today and do things that make me feel good. Hopefully i will have the strength to do that. I'm a bit sleep deprived and that tends to make everything seem a bit more dramatic than it really is...

I hope everyone is having a good sunday.
Dan
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els
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   Posted 9/30/2007 8:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Good Morning Dan, I just have to say you put up some very well written, interesting topics/posts here.
 
I have had anxiety/panic disorder for a few years.  I also have major depression, PTSD and a bit of OCD all of which I have had for as long as I can remember.
 
I have always doubted myself, had those second guesses and questions.  It became even worse when the A/P hit.  I would think these feelings were because of my depression or PTSD or even the anxiety but then I had to examine the cause of my disorders....which was something I had always refused to do.
 
Even if there isnt a cause or reason for them because sometimes there isnt, we do have to do what we can to support our mental health and do those little things that make us feel better.  Just like you plan on doing today.
 
Perhaps dont try to separate your "rational mind" and this anxiety/panic side.  They are actually one and the same.  Your dog is sick (I am so sorry for that) and you know what to expect, that is rational.  Yes, eventually you will get through it but just live for today and dont look for tomorrow as this only will cause you more anxiety.  My dog (who was very much like my child) passed away 2 years ago and it took me months and months to resolve it.  It was very difficult and something I couldnt fully prepare for mentally.
 
The self doubts are still there but not as much as before.  I hope I have got a handle on my a/p for now.  I keep busy and really try not to think too much about it.  I have never been one to self analyze I guess that is why therapy never really helped me. eyes

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Howlyncat
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   Posted 9/30/2007 12:09 PM (GMT -7)   
I truly think Els has got it right on the spot there Dan............

I know my dad is going and it wont be long ............I am scared worried and saddened BUT I do know he will be in a better place and with Mom where he wants to be ...........


Rationally I know this

In my heart I dont ...........

YOU have done some great threads last few days and I am so glad

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Danxiety
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   Posted 9/30/2007 12:39 PM (GMT -7)   
thanks Elisha and lynn both for the great advice and replies
lynn I just sent you and email

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   Posted 10/1/2007 6:18 AM (GMT -7)   
THanks Dan ........Have answered early this am ........
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   Posted 10/1/2007 8:14 AM (GMT -7)   

Developing  the ability to believe in yourself may be one of your biggest hurdles in life.I know I personally have learned how to believe in myself but can easily fall back to the old doubting and insecure feelings that were just a part of who I was before therapy.

Some of us will struggle with it each day of our lives. Others of us will never have a problem with it.  We believe "right out of the box."
 
Learn to  never speak badly of yourself, even in jest. Some of us will have problems with this as  we have what is called a "self-deprecating" style of humor. We cut ourselves down in order to make people like us. I know I will do this myself. Each time we use that style of humor, we cut ourselves down in our own eyes  and sometimes, we weaken others' view of us as well. Choose to speak well of yourself; or if you're too modest to try that, at least don't cut yourself down.
 
Believe in yourself -- in the power you have to control your own life, day by day.

Gentle Hugs to you Dan

 

 



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