hi anxietyridden and welcome to the forum,
My best advice to you, as i myself find it very hard to talk about certain things face to face, is to write you boyfriend a letter explaining about your anxiety and phobias, but be completely honest with him, i find that i can open up on paper but not face to face, And it seems that you have a good relationship with him, so im sure he will understand and appreciate what your going through. Thats the way ive explained certain things to people in the past and it has been ok for me.. hope that helps you...
Hello and welcome to Healing Well and the A & P forum. I am Kitt.
I agree with the letter writing, it is more personal than the email and I would suggest you give it to him in person and just explain that you want to share some things about yourself with him but it is something that is hard for you to talk about and therefore you sat down and wrote out your words in a letter.
I wish you peace and happiness but most of all I wish you love.
Remember when reading we are only sharing our own opinions and what you choose to do as far as telling your BF is what works best for you. :) We will support your decision.
On to sleeping, you may want to read this thread, especially the hot milk trick.
Take care and keep posting.