I had to read your post twice hun. Wow. You need to lose this person from your life now. Please consider being assertive and telling her you no longer can have her in your life. You are not responsible for her and she cannot make you do anything.
No one can make you do anything unless you choose to. This is a good time for you to consider some CBT therapy and retrain your thinking.
Just be sure to tell the people at the store that you are in no way responsible for this woman and to not approach you about her bills.
IMHO she is an unsafe person for you.
You and your children have to come first.
Good luck and take care.
We all want to be liked and respected. Most of us have an inborn trait to be kind and we do our best to help others in need. We are not dumb, we are kind to a fault sometimes.
The problem is that in our kindness and sharing we sometimes leave ourselves vulnerable to the nasty, selfish people who are only pretending to like us to satisfy their own agendas.
Take a good, hard look at this neighbor. Does she genuinely need your help, or is she using you due to an ulterior motive?
I know it is hard to believe that people can be nasty on purpose but I feel like you are certainly being taken advantage of. I agree with the suggestion to set boundaries and then comes the hard part.............maintaining these boundaries.
Stay with us and know we care.
i really belive you do need to tell your neighbour you wont help her anymore, and her threatening you is just plain WRONG. She dosent have the right to boss you around, when you are helping her out in good faith.
I myself cant go to the local shops or even to my daughters school in the next street, but i dont force anyone to do things for me.
I cant beleive the gawl of this woman, i dont want to sound nasty, but she does need to be put back in her place.
But most importantly, you have to make sure you dont feel bad or any guilt for yourself because you wont help her anymore, she has treated you unfairly, and you have helped this woman no end so dont blame yourself for anything.
hope you get this sorted out soon, it must'nt be a good feeling.
A slip of the foot you may soon recover,
but a slip of the tongue you may never get over.
Well said Wen,
You must have read my thoughts.lol, Thats what i was trying to say but didnt know the words that i wanted to use...