Is Dee sick or is she just old? (I know you said she was 12 in your post). Is she still eating, drinking, urinating and going number 2? Those are the big things to look for.
I have a doberman too, and 12 is old for that breed of dog...Sasha, my dobe is 7. They are wonderful dogs and truly best friends.
You know your dog better than anyone else - does the decision have to come down to deciding whether or not to put her down? Or is that what people want you to believe? I don't mean to make your decision any rougher, because this is a rough one...I have had to do it in the past. But please listen to your heart and to your friend, Dee...she will let you know...God bless you and Dee. Hugs to you both!
Thank you for your loving answers. She still has all her bodily functions but has severe arthritis, has lost control of her legs and has lost over 7 lbs. She does eat. She has tumors on the edge of each eye and the Vet would not remove them as he said she could not survive the anesthesia.
She has a nasty infected paw which she will knaw at without her loose muzzle. I keep her bandage changed daily. If she gets the chance she will pull it off and eat the dressing and open up the wound. Her front foot curls under so she stumbles alot and walks into walls and falls down.
But she is so wonderful and loving. I know I have to decide and she will be in my heart forever, but I can't stop the tears.
I am so sorry. I am such a huge animal lover. I am so sorry you are facing this. I have put two dogs down and it is not a lot of fun but I was grateful to be able to end their suffering. I also held them in my arms as this was done. I was able to talk them to their end. The worst part of doing this is losing them, not the actual passing. It is that they are gone. It is a lonely time when you have lost your canine best friend. Grieve and give yourself that time to be sad. Your relationship with this dog warrants some real devotion to that. You may in time want another dog. I did and it so helped me. Good luck with this decision and I am so thinking of you.
Love and prayers,
Thank you so much each of you for your kindness, understanding and prayers.
I am expecting my husband home from up North today and I will sit down with him and tell him it is ok, I can do this for my loving Dee. I know I will crash bad but I am prepared for that. I have never had to decide to put a pet to sleep.
I know it is kind and the best for her as she bumps into walls and tries so hard to keep going. I have to do this and I will. I guess it may have to be a day this week.
I have spent a long weekend alone with her and crying for her. So now I must act. I need strength so I will have to reach down deep inside and your support means so very much to me.
Hugs to all
It sounds as though you may be making the right decision. Dee is lucky to have had you as a mommy for 12 long years! And you were lucky to have such a devoted best friend for 12 years as well! (Remember that!) Death is always hard, whether it is a family member, or a pet. You are in my thoughts and prayers and know that we are all sorry you are having to go through this tough time right now...God will help you through!
I know she will be better off and I need to not be selfish here as I know she is in pain. I just dressed the sore on her poor paw and the bone is deformed. She is sad, but the love in her eyes melts my heart.
I will have my hubby call the Vet and I will be with her. I am praying for strength. To think I never used to understand the big deal when people mourned for the pets, well I now know why they mourn.
Gentle Hugs and the suport is so needed and acccepted with gratitude.
Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 7/31/2008 2:40:54 PM (GMT-6)
Thank you all, the poem was so lovely and I believe that is what Dee would say to me.
My hubby is home. I could use a giant jar of super glue to hold me together..................the appointment is made for Wednesday at 3 PM. I cannot believe we know exactly when she will leave us forever. She looks at me with the trusting brown eyes, this wonderful, warm, furry, devoted Dee Dog and I am plotting her death. I cannot bear this...............why does God not let her die in her sleep peacefully. She deserves to just die without being hauled into the Jeep and carried into the vets..............I cannot stand this.I want to run and hide, I want to scream.............but I must pretend that I am ok, go to work tonight and be nice to people, not let on how bad I am feeling.Am I a whimp, why am I not tough as nails and just quit making a fuss about this?Someone tell me why?
Thank you everyone. Dan I know exactly what you mean. I have been dealing with her going down hill since January. We have had her to the Vet and he has given her Cortisone shots and she rebounded. Each time she went to the Vet I would be afraid of the outcome and prepare myself but she always came home.
Now that the decision is made I am able to talk to her and remind her how she used to race around the yard and play with our cat Marty. They were good buddies. Dee would race out to the big pole shed to eat Marty's cat food. She would show in the show ring with my granddaughter 7 years ago and was an angel, never got out of hand. My Granddaughter was 10 years old at the time.
Carla, Your emails and words of love and wisdom have been salve to my soul, you sensed how sad I was and there you were extending a hand to hold. I know I have learned through you about letting go.
To the Other Mary, You are indeed sunshine in my life, your always there with a caring word and encouragement, you are so appreciated for your kindness.
To My Big Sis, You are my soul sister for sure. We have shared so much in a short time and you have taught me all about bravery. You always have time for me know matter what is going on in your life and your so wise beyond your years. For truly I am the older sister but you are the wiser. Thank you for being there and for your unconditional love.
I hope everyone who has posted here will think of Dee tomorrow around 3 PM as I kiss her good bye for the last time. I will stay with her and make sure she has her favorite blanket with her as she leaves the pain behind.
It is said the ones left behind suffer the most, how well I have learned that loosing a son and now a best friend, my Dee.
Thank you Mary
That is a good idea. I will do that. Eventually she will be brought home to rest under a tree where the sunshines as she is a Kentucky girl originally and never has learned to like cold weather.