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Red_34
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   Posted 12/2/2007 11:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello everyone :) I normally don't post on here but I was wondering if someone can help me?  I never gave much thought about whether or not I have any anxiety or panic issues until probably the last 6 months or so.  I am real hesitant about posting this but it's got to a point where I think I have a real issue and yes I am going to approach my doctor with it soon.  But in the meantime, some advice would be great!
 
A little background info - for as long as I can remember, I've always had an issue with being in public especially working in the front yard garden for some reason.  I am a highly social person and have many friends, but I have to usually work myself up to leave the house some days.  Other days, it doesn't seem to bother me.  So I think I've always had mild social anxiety.  Anyway, my grandmother moved in with me about 3 1/2 years ago after the death of my grandfather.  Things were good for a while but then my gma's health started declining and it left me as being her primary care giver.  I have brothers but they're alcoholics and unreliable - no other family on my side.  I do get help from my kids and my husband but I don't work so the main responsibility is left up to me.  I have my own health issues to deal with so it makes it difficult to care for my gma too.  Since this started, I started getting mildly depressed.  I have been diagnosed with SAD and use light therapy to help me cope on our gray days.
 
So then, I have some personal issues at home that has left me quite anxious lately.  I feel as if I'm coping ok with it.  Or so I thought.  I've never had a panic attack in my life (well not until about 6 months ago) but I think I had one yesterday.  I was at the  mall in a closed, dark, heavily aromatic store when all of a sudden I started sweating, got dizzy and felt the uncontrollable urge to run out of there.  This totally freaked me out since this has never happened to me this bad before.
 
But what I don't understand is that these anxiety or panic attacks don't come every day - just sporadically and I never know when they are going to strike.  I can be perfectly fine then all of a sudden start having a hot flash and feel like I have to move or go somewhere.  And heaven forbid is someone is close to me when this happens because I feel even more "flighty". 
 
Sorry for the long post but it feels good to actually get this off my chest for a change. I've been hiding this for quite some time and feel like I can't anymore.  So any recommendations or advice?


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Post Edited (Red_34) : 12/2/2007 11:17:09 AM (GMT-7)


Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/2/2007 1:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey there and glad you posted

I do believe you are having panic and anxiety issues ....with all that is going on it is no wonder ........
Many with chronic illness have a/p and rightly so .we have quite a number of UC'ers on here and Crohns as well ........

I had for the longest time could go out my door ......literally .....and run into ppl I knew or go to malls or shopping or basically be around anyone out there .... Social anxiety/ and if it progresses to where you cannot go out of house at all for any reason and for long long periods of time it is called Agoraphobia

You are really doing alot for so many others in your home and on here Sherry and it is no wonder you are starting to have panic attacks IMHO......
Do you have any Special Services ppl you could get some help from or Respite care for your GMA...take her to a place for the day to play bingo or whatever or even for a wknd ...caring for our loved ones is very hard work and yes the rewards are great but again it does cause us to run down and especially if already sick with a chronic illness and as I am the sole caregiver for Dad and was for mom til she passed........do know the wear it takes on us
I do empathathize with you and KNOW what you are going thru with a few things ........

Have you talked to your doc about something for these attacks there are short acting short term meds out there that will help along with self help techniques such as breathing and relaxation ...as well as CBT ........There is a free online one if you are interested.........

I know you are no the type to take time for you BUT I really think it is needed at this point befoore you break and then you wont be able to help anyone hun ..........not being rude.....worried ........

Email me if you would like please........
My heart thoughts and prayers are most definitely with you and yours

Luvs
LYN


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/2/2007 1:08:48 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 12/2/2007 3:16 PM (GMT -7)   

Sherry,

Welcome to our world and I am so glad you felt comfortable getting that all out. :)

I experienced much the same as Lyn and I would just stay home.  If I went to town to a store I would go down a different aisle to avoid being cornered by someone I knew.

Officially, a panic attack is described as an intense feeling of impending disaster which comes on suddenly. With this feeling you also can have lots of nasty physical reactions such as; not feeling you can breath, chest pains, sweating, the shakes, hot and/or cold flushes etc.

Often, people don't think of their problems as being anything to do with worrying but they usually are. Also usually the first panic attack happens following some major stress in peoples' lives, such as someone loved dying or something simple like moving house. This is not set in stone and you really don't need to figure out why it started but rather how to survive the attacks and control them.

As Lyn mentioned some of the most effective forms of therapy for this problem include Cognitive-behavioural Therapy, behavioural Therapy, and various techniques such as Relaxation. Various drugs can also be used.

Moodgym is a free self help program to teach cognitive behaviour therapy skills to people vulnerable to depression and anxiety.

http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/

I hope this helps you and please keep posting.  We have lots of members that have great advice.

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Kitt



 
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Howlyncat
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   Posted 12/2/2007 3:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks lil sis for posting the link for the CBT........

I have it somewhere here.......now I have it over puter ......

Luvs
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Red_34
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   Posted 12/3/2007 4:56 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Lyn and Kitt. So the cognitive therapy really does work? I don't want to take any medications if I can help it (I already take 15 a day and I'm sooooo sick of medicine lol!) - so if I can find a good way to help me cope, that would be even better.
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   Posted 12/3/2007 11:34 AM (GMT -7)   

Sherry,

As Lyn would say it help with the stinkin thinkin. :)

CBT is great as you may have read here in the forum we have many people  who have had excellent results using this method.

Gentle Hugs to you,

Kitt


 
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   Posted 12/3/2007 4:31 PM (GMT -7)   
YES for me it has done wonders

I was the BIGGEST skeptic ever .....but gave it a shot as I too am sooo sick of all the meds with the CD and PG and a/p ......lol..............and the " stinking thinking"

It helped me to basically retrain my brain in thought patterns and how I felt about me and others as well as so much more
Give it a shot sis

I hope it works well for you as it does for me ........
PPL pay big bucks for therapists specialing in CBT .........this is free and is indepth as well
YOU can do it at your own pace and have a workbook as well .........

Keep us posted and please do keep coming back to yak to us ....I know where you are coming from ......

Luvs
LYN


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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 12/3/2007 7:14:15 PM (GMT-7)


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   Posted 12/3/2007 4:50 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey I'm on the CBT bandwagon too! I've been studying it at Uni and it's one of my favourite styles of counselling.  Because it is scientifically based the results are quantifiable. That aside it really helps with the "stinkin thinkin!" and catch those negative thoughts quickly.

Thanks for posting here Sherry.  It sounds to me (and I'm no expert - just been living with PA for too many years!!) that you may have a form of re-active anxiety brought about by stress and depression.  It sounds like you have a huge amount of responsibility and I agree with Lyn that a bit of time out might be in order.  Sometimes we get so caught up in caring for other people that our bodies have to remind us to take care of us.  Sometimes they do it by jumping up and screaming and giving us a panic attack.  Thanks body!!

Be as kind to yourself as you are to everyone else and take some time for you if that's at all possible.  I hope I'm not stepping on toes by saying this.  I just know how wonderful and big-hearted you forum mods are!!


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   Posted 12/3/2007 7:17 PM (GMT -7)   
VERY well said my Meg.............yes Sherry does Give and Give

Thanks for your post sweetie

Luvs ya

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Red_34
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   Posted 12/4/2007 5:08 AM (GMT -7)   
Awww Meg, what a nice thing to say! :)

Ok, I will give it a go and see how it helps. Many thanks Kitt for the link!
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   Posted 12/4/2007 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   

Sherry,

You are very welcome and I hope it helps you.  I have been working through it myself.

I am a firm believer in "if it helps, go for it".  You do give and give to HW and you are much appreciated by all.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 
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   Posted 12/4/2007 4:28 PM (GMT -7)   

I really hope it is useful for you sherry.  You can never have enough tricks up your sleeve (or brains in the bag) to beat anxiety and depression and the million other things life insists on hurling our way!

Also, Thanks for the kind words, it makes me just glow to think I can help anyone at all.

 


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