My best advise is to wait and let him contact you when he is ready. He sent an email and you returned an answer so sit back and see what happens.
I am sure he has others he talks with online. Remember it was a fun date and let fate take its course.
I wish you peace and happiness but most of all I wish you love.
After your date did you tell him you enjoyed his company and had a very nice time?
Your right, he may not be ready to settle on a one to one relationship right now. I would move forward with my life and if someone else shows up that you want to go out with, just go.
If you hear from the first guy and still want to see him then do it. If you never hear from him consider it a nice time and keep it as a memory.
Ahhhh..the waiting game. Be kind to yourself and don't obsess, you deserve much better. The ball IS in his court and if he doesn't serve, you are right, it is his loss!
Stay busy, stay positive and have a lovely holiday
Good for venting. Now, just be in the moment. Remember to relax a bit and that includes your picture of the perfect scenario. Be sure to leave leeway for the other person to be human too.
This guy could have a whole set of his own issues he is working on. To live life to the fullest you take risks. You take chances and yet you still grab that brass ring if it feels like the right thing to do.
Try to go slow with this new man and don't analyze your every moment with him. Perhaps that is just his demeanor and he is not "closed off" or maybe he is just nervous too.
My wish for you is peace and happiness but most of all I wish You love.
Yes you are healthy. He talked to you and was not just a no show. That shows you he is decent.
Get the movie and keep up the good attitude. You are a great person !
Thanks all. You guys are the greatest! :) We email each other practically every day, but I haven't seen him since our second date last month. Things are going well, I think, but it's kinda hard to tell, since I haven't heard from him in a few days. My internet connection wasn't working properly, so I built up enough courage and left him a message on his voice mail. But, now I finally got my computer to work and it turns out that he hasn't been trying to contact me. So, I'm a bit bummed, but not overly so. I mean I first thought "Oh my god, he's gonna think I'm a freak and need to hear from him everyday! Or that he's found someone better and doesn't want anything to do with me!" But, the rational side finally kicked in and said "He's probably out doing something fun, since the weather here is beautiful today! And I'm sure that I'll hear from him when he's ready. See, your guy's early advice has seeped in! :)
On a separate note, I bumped into one of my former bosses the other day. Boy, was that weird. The work environment was the worst I've ever been in, very controlling and demeaning. At one point, I was relaying something that had happened to me to my brother over the phone and he pointedly said "Ya know, abuse doesn't have to be physical." Seeing my former boss seemed to bring up all that crap again and I just couldn't stop spewing about it to my co-workers afterwards. They had no idea the place was that bad. But, now they understand why they have such a high turn-over rate. Plus, it took me at least the first year in my current position, just to get over some of the insecurities that I had been driven into me, since I was constantly being told that I was more of a liability than an asset to the organization. I mean, I never got a compliment, nor encouragement. Everything I wrote was rewritten, so much so that it didn't resemble anything that I had written. And now, with the group I work with now, they can't stop gushing about me. Everything from my work ethic, to my capabilities, to my initiative, to my ability to work well with others. And not once did was I told that I did anything well at that last place. At my last review at my last place I was told that I was doing "fine," that I had a lot to learn, and a long way to go. But, I was asked if I had a problem with taking directions from people in positions of authority. I said no and some other bull. But, the reality is I had a problem taking directives from him, since I was constantly undervalued, put-down and belittled.
I am fresh back from vacation so I am ready to jump in and lend an ear, shoulder or whatever. :)As for the online friend, I would not dwell on him to much. He is either very shy and then he needs to work on the problem or he is just not ready to be involved and that is ok too.Keep your options open as you are a winner and the man for you just has not come along yet. He will and when he does, you will know.
Wow, I am glad you left your old job. Most people work best with positive reinforcement and even when you receive constructive critism if should be delivered in a safe way so as not to put you down but to help you learn.
My best advice from past experience is to be the best that you can be and relaize some days are better than others. Don't take your job home with you, unless you have to work from home of course.
Try not to make your job your whole life, it is not who you are, it is what you do. I am sure your company is lucky to have you.
Bless you and gentle hugs.