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|Posted By : Ju1ieDee - 7/14/2017 9:30 AM|
|i'm just needing some support from those who might understand. plz excuse typos and abbreviations, i am one-handed. on 6/11 i fell and severed 3 tendons in my hand, also did huge damage to nerves and muscle. how it happened: i was barefooted on tile after swimming; time to eat...had a plate of food in right hand and glass in left; slipped on a wet spot, rt foot slid to the right (about did the splits!) which threw all my weight forward onto left hand holding glass. off to ER where i got 19 stitches in underside of arm and i dont know how many in palm of hand. it was a VERY deep cut. life has not been good for me since that day. i had surgery 9 days later, 2-1/2 hours under gen anesthesia. i live alone and i'm struggling, to say the least. i had help from my daughter the first night and have been pretty much alone since then with this pain and my thoughts, apart from help from my daughter, occasional visits from friends, and my son made it by once. i am way too independent and find it hard to reach out and ask for help - or just some company. i'm on medical leave from my job in downtown dallas, and i get the sense that my office cannot understand why a cut on my hand and resulting surgery would keep me out of work so long. |
so that's my sob story. now on to the pain. i have a new appreciation for those with chronic pain. i had my 2nd physical therapy session yesterday, my first experience with her manipulating/bending my fingers. my pain level is back to where it was 2 wks ago. i am beside myself, wondering if i will ever get better. i know i just have to "hang in there", but it is hard...and lonely in this never-ending excruciating pain.
anyone out there with experience with hand/tendon/nerve repair who can relate?? i'm sorry for all the whining. it's not my usual style...
|Posted By : straydog - 7/14/2017 10:46 AM|
|Hello & welcome to the forum. Ha, so you are in Dallas, I am in FW. We have a few Texans here. I am, so sorry to read about the injury. That sounds like a pretty extensive surgery & certainly not just a cut on the hand by any means. When you have tendons that are severed & then nerve issues going on, that is a far cry from a few stitches because of a cut. That is a huge game changer. And you are barely a month out from surgery which is not long at all. Still too soon to have big expectations.|
Please try to not get so discouraged. I know easy for me to say because its not me that is having the problem. Your physical therapy is vital for you to have the very best outcome. It is to be expected to have some pain with PT at first, however, if you ever feel the therapist is too aggressive let this person know immediately. By chance do you have any medication to take because of the pain? If so, what is the medication. Are you on any meds for the nerve pain too? Can you alternate moist heat & ice for the pain?
Yes, we have had various members come through here that had surgeries involving nerve issues. It is painful & can take quite some time to get the nerves to calm down too. Nerve pain is totally different to treat & not without pain issues.
I am sorry that you are pretty much on your own. To me that sort of magnifies everything going on. Its not about wanting someone to feel sorry for us either. Its about having someone to say how how are you doing, do you need anything or is there anything I can do to help. Just basic stuff. When you don't have that it makes us feel isolated. You now have some new friends here, so feel free to come here & talk or vent if you feel up to it. We do understand.
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|Posted By : Ju1ieDee - 7/15/2017 6:43 AM|
|Thank you so much for your reply, Susie. It means a lot to know someone understands ! You are so right on several points, especially about not wanting people to feel sorry for me. Not it at all. In fact that's one way to really infuriate an independent person - ha! |
I had a horrible day yesterday, and I will be on high alert now for the days after PT. I plan also to tell my therapist about my level of pain. She may not be surprised or change anything but maybe she did get too aggressive for just the 2nd session...
The pain is bad again this morning so I am waiting for the pain pill to kick in before getting up, getting dressed, and doing some household stuff. Yes, I'm only on pain meds and nothing specifically for nerves. I will ask my doctor about that. Nerve pain is a whole new thing for me and hard to even describe. It's bad though. Really bad.
Thanks again for your kind words. They helped. So you're in Ft Worth huh? This has been the craziest summer with all these thunderstorms Wettest I can remember in a while. Much better than drought conditions but sure does make it steamy.
My coworker is picking me up to go to lunch today so that's something to look forward to. Days on end of isolation can wear on a soul. Take care.
|Posted By : pitmom - 7/15/2017 3:43 PM|
|Hi Julie. Welcome to the forum. Sorry to hear of your experiences.|
I've had 3 surgeries on the right wrist, 1 surgery on the left wrist and 1 surgery on the left elbow after 'dislocating' the ulnar nerve. Nerve pain is the worst.
The signals are messed up for you at this point and the nerves are trying to 'straighten themselves out'.
I found that keeping the swelling down was the best thing for lessening the irritation of the nerve. Ice became my best friend. I actually think taking Benadryl helped too. Not only did it work on the histamine part of swelling, but it made me a bit sleepy, too.
I totally get the independent part. Shirts with no buttons or snaps, elastic waist pants, slip on shoes, sports bras, anything to help lessen how much I used the affected limb. I have a kitchen gizmo that helps me open jars and lids. Looks sort of like padded pliers or a padded nutcracker.
I had my hair cut short before surgery...so much easier to manage. I had to buy new cookware as my old stuff was just too heavy for me now. Lots of simple meals, sandwiches, soups, etc. Nothing that required too much manual dexterity.
Let us know how things are progressing. Hope things improve quickly.
multiple surgeries for rotator cuff both shoulders with residual chronic impingement syndrome, ulnar nerve transposition, carpal tunnel release, wrist ganglionectomies/denervectomies/tenolysis, multiple herniated discs, tarlov cyst, whiplash, bursitis of hips, tendonitis, torus, 3rd degree shoulder separation, torn labrum, ovarian cysts, fibroid tumors of the uterus
|Posted By : kellyinCali - 7/15/2017 9:18 PM|
|JulieDee, Just know that you got this. Being an independent woman, you are going to feel more than just pain in your hand/arm. Accept yourself where you are at and try to accept help. You are blessed if it is available to you. Long story short, I shattered both bones in my forearm. I have 2 plates and 12 screws in my arm. Being one in a million...a plate broke. I was casted (right arm) for 5 1/2 months before going in to do a bone graft from my right (same side) hip. I lived alone and upstairs through it all (surgeries were 1 year apart). For the life of me, I don't know how I did it but I got through it and now my arm is fine. You can do it too. I'm glad you have also gained more compassion for those of us with chronic pain. it's impossible to understand until you've experienced it and as an independent woman myself, much shame surrounds my constantly having to limit life due to "chronic pain." |
I wish you the very best in your recovery.
|Posted By : Ju1ieDee - 7/16/2017 7:07 AM|
|Thank you all again for the nice replies. It really is helping my spirits to know others understand and take the time to post here. I'm taking all your suggestions to heart as well. I bought two more ice gel packs and they are becoming my constant companions. And the Benadryl suggestion is interesting for nerve pain. I will try that… |
I realize many have much more severe conditions that cause pain. And I keep trying to remind myself "this too shall pass" and not allow my stinkin thinkin (!) to get a foothold. Hope you all have a blessed Sunday. Julie