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Posted By : Kennedy Pellerito - 7/28/2013 10:24 PM
I am 18 years old, my boyfriend has cf. I have been dating him for 2 years and the fact that he has cf doesn't bother me. He lives a pretty normal life. We have talked about our future together a lot, we both want to get married and have kids. But I know that because of the cf we might not be able to have kids or he might not be able to live a full life. I know that we're both very young and maybe this stuff doesn't matter right now. The problem is that I love him so much and I really feel like he is my soulmate, as foolish as that may sound. I don't know if Im making a mistake by staying with him, because I am so young and I could end up very hurt if something happens to him. I know that sounds selfish but I wonder if I'm putting my life in jeopardy by being with him. Im in such a hard position I really don't know what to do :/

Posted By : RiverSanchez - 8/22/2013 5:18 PM
Hi Kennedy,

You poor thing, try not to get yourself in a panic. I can relate as my BF has CF also. He is 29 and still going strong, keeps himself healthy through sports etc. So it is not all doom and gloom. However, you are very young so you need to be aware and how intense this will be for you at times - hospital visits, times when he could be really ill. but these are the times that'll bring you closer together as a couple. You just need to talk it out with him and see if you guys are on the same page for the future and go from there.

All the best,
River

Posted By : Wiley Coyote - 2/3/2015 5:49 PM
If he feels like your soulmate, go for it. My husband and I started dating when I was 17 and he was 15. We dated 3.5 years, then took a break for some of college and grad school. We both dated around, then got back together and were married within a year. That was 20 years ago. We have two amazing daughters and life is sweet. I dont think either of us regrets a thing. Yes, my health has deteriorated significantly since he met me and we've struggled with that, but he has also gone through difficult times where I have supported him unconditionally. I think part of the reason we work so well together is while we were "seperated" he got Lymes and was paralyzed and very ill for months. I think that really helped him truly understand where I was coming from with regards to my health. If you can have a great give-take relationship that is even, thats wonderful. Be wary of "mothering him" though, that will backfire in the long run.
CF DDf508 w/ CFRD (dignosed 3 months) 43 years old, 2 kiddos

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