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Posted By : Lvg123 - 10/1/2017 12:56 PM
I got a text from my mom today saying "I want to commit suicide". I don't think she's on the right meds and she's not responding to my texts now. Should I call 911 and have them take her to inpatient? She has enough medications where she could easily commit suicide. Any suggestions are greatly needed.

Posted By : Myself 09 - 10/1/2017 1:00 PM
Yes--now.
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Posted By : BnotAfraid - 10/1/2017 1:01 PM
YES!

If you life close enough driver over there also..

When someone does this, AT BEST, they are crying for help!

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Posted By : Lvg123 - 10/1/2017 1:33 PM
Well I just called her and she's sleeping right now. I want to call 911 and let them know she told me she wanted to commit suicide. She told me because I've dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts so she knows I understand. I don't know what to do now.
Not sure when I was infected with Lyme Disease, but I started to get very sick in June 2015 (6 months after giving birth). I progressively got worse and worse and could no longer do my job and was fired in March 2016. I went to many doctors and no-one could diagnose me. Finally I got an Igenex test and I was IGG was positive for Lyme (not IGM). I started treatment in December 2016.

Posted By : Lvg123 - 10/1/2017 1:35 PM
I can't drive there. I'm sick with Lyme disease and can't drive at the moment.
Not sure when I was infected with Lyme Disease, but I started to get very sick in June 2015 (6 months after giving birth). I progressively got worse and worse and could no longer do my job and was fired in March 2016. I went to many doctors and no-one could diagnose me. Finally I got an Igenex test and I was IGG was positive for Lyme (not IGM). I started treatment in December 2016.

Posted By : Tim Tam - 10/1/2017 6:11 PM
You said,

"Well I just called her and she's sleeping right now. I want to call 911 and let them know she told me she wanted to commit suicide."

How far does she live from you? Can you call a cab and have them drive you over there.

She really needs someone to talk to right now.

If not that, can you call 911 and tell them the situation? See what they say?

Tell them you can't get over there, but can they go over to her house? She may very well respond to talk.

Also, is there anybody else she trusts who can drive over there and talk to her?

Please let us know what 911 said.

You are right to reach out for help.

Please let us know what is going on.

Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 10/1/2017 6:17:48 PM (GMT-6)


Posted By : Lvg123 - 10/1/2017 8:31 PM
Hello Tim Tam,
I’m 3 hours from her so I can’t get there. She lives with my dad so she isn’t all alone. I did not call 911. My sister reached out to her and she said she’s depressed and just wanted to sleep. I also called her and she said she’s trying to sleep. She’s been depressed for several months now. She told my sister that she got in a fight with my dad. I’m very well versed with suicidal ideation and have dealt with it myself. She and my dad have a very rocky relationship and when they get in fights she goes off the deep end. I do think she needs inpatient and intensive care though.
Not sure when I was infected with Lyme Disease, but I started to get very sick in June 2015 (6 months after giving birth). I progressively got worse and worse and could no longer do my job and was fired in March 2016. I went to many doctors and no-one could diagnose me. Finally I got an Igenex test and I was IGG was positive for Lyme (not IGM). I started treatment in December 2016.

Posted By : Tim Tam - 10/1/2017 9:06 PM
I'm glad you let us know what's going on.

You said: "My sister reached out to her and she said she’s depressed and just wanted to sleep. I also called her and she said she’s trying to sleep."

That's very good that two of you got to talk to her, and that she is concerned most about getting to sleep.

You said, "I don't think she's on the right meds" and later noted "She’s been depressed for several months now."

Put those two together and you've got someone who's depressed for 3 months whose not on the right medicine.

I remember many years ago when I was depressed, I went to a psychiatrist and he put me on an anti-depressant, and probably an hour or two after I took the first pill, I could tell it was helping me.

I've been taking anti-depressants ever since then, and I haven't been depressed a day. Like you said, she's not on the right medicine. Is she taking an anti-depressant? Any other such meds?

Also, you said she and her husband are not getting along. My wife and I didn't get along at all, but after one of our heated arguments, I didn't think about killing myself. I just thought I was in a really bad marriage.

Seems like if she was on the right anti-depressants, she wouldn't be thinking like that. I'm just basing that on my experiences with depression and anti-depressants.

I was treated for depression only, but I was really manic-depressed, which so many doctors miss cause they see the patient when they are depressed, and don't bother to ask if they have racing thoughts.

You don't think your mother is bi-polar?

The marriage does sound very rough. Mine was, too. Any chance of that improving? Could your mother make it on her own, or would she only be worse?

You said, "I do think she needs inpatient and intensive care though."

Is she diagnosed as depressed? What do you think of her psychiatrist? Do you think she should change?

This sounds like it's been going on a long time and will be going on for a lot more time. Again, I know what a bad marriage is like. I know staying in it is very rough, but one might think one doesn't have the strength or money to leave.

My wife died 8 years ago of cancer from smoking. I had chess pain for probably the 30 years that the marriage was really bad. After she passed away, my chest pain disappeared.

I never knew what it was from until then. Stress from the bad marriage. Can she get out from that? Why do they stay together?

Let us know how this is going.

Again, you were right to reach out for help.

Posted By : BnotAfraid - 10/2/2017 11:35 AM
CALL 911. she needs help!
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Posted By : F27 - 10/2/2017 5:13 PM
Hey Lvg123, I'm a little late to the party, but here's my 2 cents.

I have direct experience with this. Same scenario entirely, except my mom lives alone. Suffice to say it's a scary thing to hear, but it's also a very UNFAIR thing to hear. That kind of stuff may be a cry for help, but it's also an extremely effective way to manipulate people. Regardless of how this plays out in the future, remember that the only person in this world you're ultimately accountable to is you. As much as someone else wants to make you part of their drama, your first priority is to take care of yourself.

Posted By : kellyinCali - 10/2/2017 5:45 PM
What is the status with your Mother? Has she said this in the past? Has she ever attempted "S?" Is she a "histrionic personality" type? I don't think any of this matters as much as being on the safe side and calling 911. She said "I want to commit suicide." She needs help. I think it is a misnomer that people who talk about it do not do it. Everyone is different. Let the professionals hospitalize and help her.

Posted By : theHTreturns... - 10/4/2017 3:54 AM
the police can do a welfare check and determine her situation. police are usually the ones that can initially commit a person for at least a seventy two hour observation and evaluation. i am sure it is the same or similar from where you are from, i am in australia, however been around the forum awhile.
and yes, not all cries for help are this. the subject is off limits, however it is more than an annual road toll per yr in australia. sending many healing thoughts.

Posted By : wearyRAsufferer - 10/9/2017 8:26 PM
My mom pulled the suicide card while she was in a rehab after a hospital stay for a fall.
She was just being dramatic and wanting attention. When the consequences were she had to have someone by her side 24 hrs a day for suicide watch she said- oh I was just frustrated at being here when I want to be home. Had to tell her...it's ok to have those thoughts in your mind but once you voice them aloud; legally people have to cover their butts.
It's not fair that people put others in the position where they don't know if 911 should be called or not.

Posted By : theHTreturns... - 10/15/2017 1:00 AM
sometimes a cat team or the alike are best in some situations. because they can evaluate and or hospitalise a person if required...and or they can offer immediate crisis help and desculate the situation and arrange further supports. in some cities in australia we have crisis assessment treatment teams that are on call 24/7. not sure about other countries though. sometimes getting the person on the ph to mental health triage is a good step, but if it a more at risk situation, call police. obviously i am indicating this to the original poster per se, it is harder when peeps live alone and we are miles and miles apart.

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