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Posted By : Alice22 - 4/28/2017 8:54 PM
My mother, who is almost 93, has been refusing to shower for months. She thinks soap is bad for her skin and dries it out. One way or another we've managed to get her in every 7 or 8 days but it is a huge struggle and always involves a big fight. We give her those disposable wipes to clean herself but that is only good to a point. Does anyone have any suggestions? She is starting to smell now, though she insists she's clean.
Diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in 2005 and rheumatoid arthritis in 1998. On Remicade since 2005 for both diseases. For UC tried sulfasalazine, Lialda, colazal and others which made me ill. Use peppermint oil capsules and Bentyl which help during a flare and with IBS symptoms.

Posted By : Steve n Dallas - 4/30/2017 4:55 AM
Here is one of many articles on this common subject:

Tips to Reduce Bathing and Showering Challenges—A Therapist's Role
/www.crisisprevention.com/Blog/October-2010/Tips-To-Reduce-Bathing-and-Showering-Challenges-A

Posted By : Alice22 - 4/30/2017 10:52 AM
Steve,

Thank you - I read it and will send it to other family members. Some of the comments at the end were interesting too.
Diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in 2005 and rheumatoid arthritis in 1998. On Remicade since 2005 for both diseases. For UC tried sulfasalazine, Lialda, colazal and others which made me ill. Use peppermint oil capsules and Bentyl which help during a flare and with IBS symptoms.

Posted By : UserANONYMOUS - 5/1/2017 6:37 AM
Hi Alice,

You post caught my attention so I can across.

I think that if her sense of smell is decreasing, this can also contribute to her not wanting to shower and saying that she is clean.

Maybe trying a bath instead of a shower (if there is a bath tub where she is) can help? Just a suggestion. It might be relaxing for her if she is able to sit in it. She may also enjoy it.

Also, you guys can try compromising with her. Maybe tell her she needs to take a shower in order to watch TV or something that she likes.

I hope you and your family members gets her to shower.

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Posted By : Alice22 - 5/1/2017 10:52 AM
Thank you for the suggestion! My sister in law, who my mother is living with now, had the same thought and of course I thought, "Why didn't I think of that before??" When she had her own apartment there was no tub but there is one now in my brother's house. I hope it works.
Diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in 2005 and rheumatoid arthritis in 1998. On Remicade since 2005 for both diseases. For UC tried sulfasalazine, Lialda, colazal and others which made me ill. Use peppermint oil capsules and Bentyl which help during a flare and with IBS symptoms, and turmeric and krill oil daily.

Posted By : Tim Tam - 5/1/2017 12:59 PM
Surprisingly enough, I don't take a bath, either.

A year or two ago, I had to quit taking baths, because my back had gone out, and I could no long get in and out of the tub like I used to do.

so, I started taking showers. But I have a health condition that doesn't tolerate that.

So, I started using a c. one gallon bowl to put water in and use a soapy washcloth to bath with standing in the tube. It works very well.

It takes a long time, and I don't like it. So what do I do? I don't take a bath, like your mother.

Instead, I just stand by the sink and wash a few places, with soap.

I once asked an old timer, like I am now, if you didn't have running water back in those days, how did you take a bath every night?

He said something like "We would just use a bowl to wash what sticked or smelled," or something like that.

Which is what I do now. Once a week, I might do the bowl in the tub thing, but I don't like it. I just wash what sticks or smells the rest of the time.

I would ease up on that.

Posted By : Alice22 - 5/1/2017 9:16 PM
Hi Tim Tam,

Your post made me chuckle. Reminds me of my late father - he thought it was neurotic to shower every day. When my mother does take a shower she feels good afterwards and doesn't remember what a fuss she made about taking one! I know sometimes it's hard, for one reason or another, like in your case, to shower or take a bath. Your system sounds pretty good too. If my mother would do that I suppose that would be ok. Thanks for sharing your perspective!
Diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in 2005 and rheumatoid arthritis in 1998. On Remicade since 2005 for both diseases. For UC tried sulfasalazine, Lialda, colazal and others which made me ill. Use peppermint oil capsules and Bentyl which help during a flare and with IBS symptoms, and turmeric and krill oil daily.

Posted By : ctcurl - 5/5/2017 5:10 AM
As we age, we may become more sensitive to extremes in temperature-- hot or cold. My mother (94 w/ dementia) is extremely sensitive to being cold. (also has a thyroid def. which does the same thing) If you can get the bathroom really warm-- maybe run the shower a while first, it may be easier. Sometimes even turning the heat on a while. Also, you can get towel warmers (although we haven't done that yet) She's in a Memory Care Unit & I'm not sure they're allowed. But we're doing OK just getting her environment warm first before the shower. That may help.

Posted By : Alice22 - 5/5/2017 7:58 AM
Ctcurl,


Thanks for that suggestion. When my mother lived down here by me I tried that. It worked if she was open to taking a shower but other times she was adamant that she didn't want to take one. But I'll pass this on to my sister-in-law, it wouldn't hurt to try again. Thanks.
Diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in 2005 and rheumatoid arthritis in 1998. On Remicade since 2005 for both diseases. For UC tried sulfasalazine, Lialda, colazal and others which made me ill. Use peppermint oil capsules and Bentyl which help during a flare and with IBS symptoms, and turmeric and krill oil daily.

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