I was a very healthy person until my mid 30's about 24 years ago. In the early years I felt like I had the flu and the aching was excruciating. These spells got closer together until I was having them weekly. The first time I fell due to a joint giving way was also mid 30's. My rheumatoid arthritis first diagnosed in my mid 40's. This diag confirmed when I had to have both knees replaced due to severe damage. ( should have replaced about 3 years sooner.) I also have osteoarthritis. Confirmed in spine MRI's. Have degenerate spine disease - lumbar disk rupture with removal of some disk and bone - cervical disk ruptured and replaced. I also have fibromyalgia. Lumbar surgery is a partial failure. I am no longer able to work for past 2 years. However, due to exercise, meds, and high pain threshold, I have a wonderful life. Good days are always followed by 2 to 5 really bad days. On good days I do as much of things I want to do as possible. It is worth a couple of bad days to dance at my sons wedding, or now years later play with my grandchildren, or go down a few water slides, or walk my walker all over a festival ( taking a lot of food breaks LOL). if you are going on a cruise take a scooter :). Out of 7 days I only spent 1 1/2 day in bed. I have been taking same meds for years: methotrexate, prednisone, cyclobenzaprine, lyrica, percoset plus tummy meds and sleeping pill prn., and supplements like calcium with d, potassium, folic acid, etc. One of my secrets is spreading meds over 24 hours; the other is my soaking bath tub and a good book while soaking. I have a rheumatologist, and a spine Dr. / pain clinic for over ten years. I live a happy life in spite my disabilities. Hobbies, maintaining rehab exercise, and a wonderful marriage are my secrets. If you feel so bad u need to go to bed - do it, BUT only for one to three days. Longer and you will lose this battle. I am also a Christian, and this is my biggest secret for rebounding after surgeries and a few bad bouts with all of this. I wish all of you great mental ability, love, and happy lives. I am proof that it is possible. I hated retiring, but have learned to measure my success on a daily basis. Cooking a great meal is a victory.