Workplace (not so) fun day - your advice needed!

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   Posted 9/30/2008 2:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello good people!

I am awaiting a visit to a new rheumy; in the meantime I am working in a high stress job and in a lot of pain. I'm using up to 20 advil and tylenol a day but still really hurting. I also have IBD and all the good and fun stuff that go with that. Opiates are the only thing that help and well, ya know, they just don't like you coming in buzzed.

I just made a major error at work today which is bad enough but melted down when spoken to about it. I admit it's been a rough few months (my mom in a nursing home, hubby lost job and has health issues on top of this). SO...not only did I make a horrendous error but blubbered as well.

My boss has a vague idea of my health issues but as you all know, it's not always obvious how bad off we are. I also don't want to come off as making excuses. I work really hard and seem to do well, but had this and some other stuff the last couple of weeks.

What's the best course now? I never want to seem like a wimp or an excuse maker. How do I recover from this and keep a decent reputation? I am also wondering if I should see about work at home a day a week. I'd love to hear from you good people.

Also, do any of you find that having fun kind of goes off your "to do" list when you are ill? I find that just "doing my dailies" consumes all my energy and I just don't do anything fun.
If you been here, would love to hear from you!

the Coffeefiend

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   Posted 10/1/2008 4:25 PM (GMT -7)   
hey there coffeefiend.. welcome to the forum.. your story sounds oh so familiar to myself, and I'm sure a lot of others on here.. day to day life can be such a chore with this disease.. when is your appt with your rheumy? You are taking a lot of advil and tylenol daily.. how is your stomach holding up with all that? hang in tehre and let us know how you are doing..
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   Posted 10/1/2008 5:03 PM (GMT -7)   
I sometimes let the dailies go to have time for the fun stuff and sometimes the other way around.
As for your error at work-just don't make the same mistake again and make sure you pull your weight the best you can and you will be fine. I would avoid asking for work from home until you have proven your worth big time unless work from home is standard in your office.
One of my jobs is to train people who function in something like a project manager role-I train them on how to interact with the upper management. The first thing I tell them is when you make an error (or an error occurs on your project) the first thing you mention to management is that error. But you do it like this. This is what happened, this is what I think was the mistake or should have happened, this is what I have done and plan to do to correct it. Do you have any suggestions or advice?
Once you own an error no one can really call you on it or point out you are to blame-yup I did it and am already moving on fixing it.

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   Posted 10/21/2008 9:47 AM (GMT -7)   

Oh my goodness but that sounds VERY familiar.  I left one job and went to another right in the middle of my worst arthritis time(s).  I remember once at the old job where we had to dress nicely (for no good reason either - no clients ever saw us) I just HAD to wear comfortable shoes because I could barely walk on my feet, much less go to effing word, so I wore black sneakers one day.  Almost immediatly the boss said something.  It was very hard at that job and the next job to convey the problems when pretty much I looked ok and healthy.  I left the old job because I started getting the label as "lazy" and such.  The new job was very high stress so I just had to leave after a few months.  It took a while and was very difficult for me and my family, but I started my own business, so that way I could wear what I wanted and rest when I needed to.

Do you have any hobbies or interests that you could possibly turn into your own business?  Can you get a lower stress job somewhere?

Keep fighting!

Arthritis (poss. RA) - Doc scripts: Enbrel 50 autoinjector, Methotrexate 5 pills/week, Folic acid. 

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