Can the grief of loosing a loved one cause a flare up?

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   Posted 4/6/2010 12:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone. Last week my gradfather passed away who I was very close to. He had been ill for a long time with cancer and I am thankful he is no longer sufferin. However Im very upset and have a teary moment every so often as anyone would Im sure. The thing is- since the day after his funeral (fri) I hav been getting increasing pain EVERYWHERE! Not necessarily in my joint although my hands are very painful but every muscle in my body is aching  that its so hard to even get up! Is this normal? Its from head toe especially my back and legs. I don't want to complain to my doctor or rheumatologist but its hurting so bad! I don't know if it RA or not.

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   Posted 4/6/2010 2:32 PM (GMT -7)   
I am kinda new to all the processes of RA, but I do know that they say STRESS can lead to a flare up. I am sure losing someone close to you like your grandfather would certainly be a 'stress' and possibly cause a flare for you.  Please watch the posts as I am sure someone with more experience will tell you what thier knowledge and experience is.
I am sorry for your loss and hope your flare dies down soon.

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   Posted 4/6/2010 2:50 PM (GMT -7)   
So sorry you lost your grandpop Lynny- I remember you saying he was near death. Stress can certainly cause a flare. Please tell your doctor. The last thing you need is to feel physically bad when you have so much emotional stuff going on. Hope your grief stricken heart is soon replaced with happier memories of your grandpop.

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   Posted 4/6/2010 6:49 PM (GMT -7)   
sorry to hear of your loss... thinkin of u.

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   Posted 4/6/2010 7:02 PM (GMT -7)   

Im sorry about your loss too Lynny.

I believe stress does strange things to our mind and bodies, so I would'nt be surprised if it has set off a flare for you.

Try and look after yourself during this sad time (I know thats easier said than done).

Take care Lynny


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   Posted 4/7/2010 3:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Good morning Lynn - I hope you are feeling better. Stress, especially stress because of the loss of a loved one, can certainly cause you body to react this way. However, keep in mind that fibromyalgia sometimes goes hand in hand with RA. Also, PMR is another illness that involves the muscles, but I don't think you are old enough for that to be your problem. Most likely, its just the RA that is acting up. I hope with time you start feeling better.


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   Posted 4/7/2010 4:24 AM (GMT -7)   

Most definately stress can cause flare ups.    I lost my Dad in 2005 just eight days before Christmas, then five months later my brother passed away and a year after that my Mom.     After Dad passed I took care of my Mom till her passing and remember crying myself to sleep many nights because of the pain in my joints, as well as my aching heart.    Just three days before this Christmas my nephew's wife was killed in a terrible car accident and that set me back again.    The doctor has put me on an antidepresant, even though I do not feel depressed.  I mostly feel a lot of anxiety at times.     Our bodies respond to stress even though we don't always feel it.    I know, for me, my whole body tightens up when I'm under a lot of stress and I'm sure that adds to the joint pain.      If you continue to feel really sad or stressed it might not hurt to ask your primary for something to help till you can get through the mourning.         I miss my loved ones every day and life will certainly never be the same without them but I can now cling to some wonderful memories and my faith sustains me.     I hope your heart heals soon and you too will be able to dwell on the good times.     I'm sure your grandfather is watching over you.

all the best,


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   Posted 4/7/2010 8:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for all your kind words! I really appreciate them! I am feeling slightly better today- my temperature is down thank goodness as it was very high last night. I am still having alot of pain especially in my back and legs but I'm trying to take it easy. I think I was just very frustrated yesterday because I was going through the grief of loosing my grandfather and my body falls apart on me! I  hate this disease so much it always seems to flare / attack when I least need it and it frustrates me. Thank you again for all your thoughts and advice- its so nice to know that other people understand and can give advice!

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   Posted 4/8/2010 1:15 PM (GMT -7)   
I would say yes. My RA started when I lost my dear Mum 10 years ago and I still miss her. However, my RA is well managed, touch wood.
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