Welcome to Healing Well. Your story touched my heart, you see I lost my mother to RA also. Although she was a few years older than your dad when she died, I really lost her several years before. She was diagnosed in her late 40's and went downhill from there. She tried all the available meds, but nothing seemed to help. My poor mother spent the last 20 years of her life confined to a wheelchair, unable to perform even the smallest of tasks. She could not even feed her self, her hands were so gnarled. Eventually RA killed her. She died of Rheumatoid Lung.
There are a several members here on Enbrel, and I am sure will be of help to you. Most of us have other health issues as well, and are on several different meds. Thus we are passed from doctor to doctor. For the most part most of our members have been/or are going through what you are with your RA. It is a thief. It steals our quality of life.
But there is light at the end of the tunnel now. They have come out with these new drugs that are giving some of us our life back to some extent. Like you, we are now able to have some quality of life. We are finding we are able to do more and more everyday. Some of us are even out riding bikes. LOL
I think if you believe that God wants to give you another child, you should follow your heart. Only you know what is best for you.
Again welcome and hope you continue to post with us. We have some terrific members that will be along to welcome you. We love to share our experiences, our highs and our lows. We are a loving community and I hope you enjoy it here as much as I have.
Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and hope your remission continues,
Don't walk in front of me....I may not follow
Don't walk behind me....I may not lead
Walk beside me..and be my friend...
and Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
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