Very sorry you are having trouble finding a doctor to work with. I have been disabled since age 31 with migraines and now RA and have had a lot of difficulties with doctors - and I am one myself! I do know from practicing medicine that dealing with chronic pain is something not well addressed in medical training, plus many MD's are poor communicators. Add to that the downhill spiral (in my opinion) of current medical care, it is often a nightmare to be a patient.
I just had to switch to a new RA doctor myself as my last doctor's clinic turned into a complete nightmare. I am not very happy with my new doctor because she is not very accessible and doesn't seem to like her job or me, for that matter. She also communicates poorly.
Plus often when I ask a question or venture a comment, I get the comeback, "You know, doctors make the worst patients!" So generally I shut up and do as I'm told.
I think it is a very good idea to educate yourself as much as possible, as you are doing on this forum. I'm unclear what you mean by doctors being afraid of the government, although I suspect you refer to chronic narcotic use? Few doctors today will prescribe in such a manner and probably are concerned about government scrutiny in this issue. They will want to steer you toward other methods of pain control that will address the joint inflammation (which narcotics will not) and help slow disease progression. Plus you will eventually be accustomed to your narcotic dose and it will have to be increased over time to levels where you don't want to go. It's a bummer because these pain pills help you feel better instantly but RA is a BUMMER all around. So is any chronic pain.
Best of luck to you.