Brenda - I most definitely agree with you......I had the pain first. I was happy as a clam prior the issues. In fact, I went MONTHS trying to stay positive even when I had all these so-called specialists telling me I needed to see a therapist and not them. It was getting harder and harder to stay positive and still not get any relief for the pain. Then, when the doc wanted to try prednisone.....forget it, I went crazy, immediately started gaining weight, was thrown in to a deep depression...and thus began the insanity - and it only took 2 weeks of steroids to do it to me. I must have been a time bomb and it was only a matter of time. The steroids just helped it along in a quicker manner.
Patsy - Welcome! There are quire a few here on HW who are taking Enbrel. If the Enbrel is not helping, you need to get him either on something else, or have some additional meds to help with the pain until the Enbrel takes effect. Many of us have to take multiple medications.
I figured I was "better off dead" for quite some time too (before I started the anti-depressants - which I've been off of for some time) my pain was so debilitating, this was in my mid-20's. HOw long has he had this? I know adjusting to the fact you have something like this that is out of your control is very hard to adjust to. That can't be helping.....but I strongly suggest you get him some help to manage his pain, wheather it is a therapist, a support group, or even medication. You can't help but get depressed or angry at constant pain that bad. I learned that the hard way. Good luck.***