Thanks for this thread, Yalinda, been reading what you have all been
writing, and it's helping me alot more than you know. I'm trying to cope with all of the changes myself, not sure how to do that some days, let alone try and get across to the family why it's not "business as usual" around here, and that I could use a little extra help. my hubby has been phenonemal, he always seems to be at his best in a crisis, but I'm afraid that as time goes on, he'll get a little tired of it all. As I've said before, we've been together a long time, and our kids are older, so things are a little different for us. I think I'm having a harder time accepting that I can't do the things I used to do....have always been a sun-up to sun-down hard working, keep busy person. Kids, house, yard, cooking, you name it. I broke down crying like a baby in a Chick-filet parking lot because I couldn't open a ketsup packet for heaven's sake. Felt so incredibly stupid!!! Crying over ketsup!!
I think what I am learning so far, is that the same people I could count on in the past are the same people who are here for me now. Certain members of my family are the concerned, caring type, others just aren't. If I need an extra boost, those aren't the ones I call. Just don't think some people are wired to be conpassionate, they are too caught up in their own lives, which is ok, it's just who they are. My support system is really the same as it's always been, except now I have all of you, too.
Teenagers...boy they are fun, aren't they. I couldn't get much help out of them even under "normal" circumstances...I think it's really hard to get through to them at all Yalinda..and yes, we must be incredibly grateful for what ever crumbs they happen to throw our way. Frustrating little buggers, sometimes..but mine did become human again at some point.
Anyway, like I said, I think right now I'm most frustrated with myself..for me that's been the hardest part up to now. Wish I Knew how to get past that.
Take care everybody!