I hope your hubby gets to feeling better soon. Regarding your question, I need for my hubby to do all the things that you are doing for your hubby right now. So I would definately say you are on the right track.
I need for my husband to understand how I am feeling and that when I go through things it affects me much more differently than it does other people. It is not something that is cut and dry. That things take longer for me. Handeling stress affects me way more differently than it does other people, etc., etc.
I just need to hear from him and to understand that I am having a harder time at the moment for whatever the reason is and to believe and accept that from me. Then he will usually ask, "What do you need from me?" I would then tell him....I just need to be alone and quite right now, I need to not deal with making dinner tonight, it would help if you ran the errands today, or maybe it's, could you find some time to just sit and talk w/me or just be near me?
If things start getting too noisy around the house, he would say, "Hey guys, your mother isn't feeling well today, could you keep it down?" or if friends or family called to make plans to get together, my hubby would say, "Well, maybe another time, Sukay isn't feeling too well today.
I just need for him to acknowledge that regardless of how I got at this point, the point is...is that I am not feeling well or having a hard time and I need for him to understand that and trust that it is not as easy to get out of it as it is for others.
So basically, for me...it just an understanding thing, that I have bipolar, I am on meds, things are different for me and I need to deal with things in a different way than most do. And to trust me, that I know what I need to do for myself when certain issues come up. (I am at that place right now where I can "see" things for myself) and not have to be TOLD what I am expected to do. Does that make sense?
When I am down, sometimes my hubby gives excellent advise like, "Why don't we go for a little walk, the fresh air my help you." or "why don't you let me finish up things and go lay down for awhile"...but he know not to push me on what he thinks I should be doing...like....you need to do this or that. Suggestions are good...but not too many, if I tell you what I need, please accept that.
Hope this helps. I think you are doing fine.