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   Posted 1/30/2008 10:07 PM (GMT -7)   
So, I recently had a physical with a new doctor. I moved to a different part of town and didn't want to drive 25 miles back to the old doctor. I got a new job and changed companies. I work for a health care company and chose not to go to the clinic associated with company for increased privacy. I went online and looked at MD's and from reading their profile chose the one that seemed best. The one I chose said her interestests included "healhty lifestyle, women's health, and mental health."

Let's just say that some of the things she said made me feel uncomfortable. The focus of most of the conversation was about bipolar. She asked me how long since my major episode. I told her I had not had anything in 5 years. She replied with "Well that doesn't mean it still can't happen in the future." Then she went on a big lecture about how important it is to take my meds. She even said that people need a sign in there house saying "take your meds." This made me mad because I do take my medication and have no plans of stopping. I certainly don't need a sign in my house saying "take your meds."

Then she was encouraging me to get the Gaurdisil vaccine since I am still in the age range. I thought this was a good suggestion. Then she told me about how people with bipolar disorder are particularly vulnerable. She said that I could have a manic episode, and sleep with someone simply because I was manic. Well I never got promiscous when I was manic. I am x years old and still a virgin(okay that was probably to much info). It's not like I am impulsive in that way. It seemed like she was making a lot of assumptions.

I wish there was someway that I could write a letter and complain. Although, it doesn't seem like anyone would listen.

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   Posted 1/31/2008 6:16 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Jade,

Yuck! What a terrible disappointment. I would definately pick a new doctor from the list.  I wouldn't like listening to all of her comments and assumptions about classifiying bipolar for a patient that she just met for the first time either! That was rude.

I'm sure there is a way for you to comment on her bedside manner. Does she belong to a group of doctors or is it a private practice? Oh and what kind of doctor is she? Maybe you need to stick with a psychiatrist to treat your bipolar, I hope she wasn't one?

Anyway, I'm sure other's will be around soon to give you more advise on your question about how to voice your concern about this doctor.

Good Luck.

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   Posted 1/31/2008 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
No, she was not a psychiatrist. She was a Family practice doctor, and I was there for a yearly physical. This is why I thought it was odd that she made such an emphasis on me having bipolar disorder. Granted I don't have any other medical problems that she could focus on. She does belong to a group of doctors in a large clinic. I don't think I want to see her again.

The trouble is that I just used up my yearly physical on her. It is kind of hard to choose a different primary doctor if I have no reason to see them. I am almost tempted to go to another clinic system and just not tell them I have bipolar disorder. It seems like there is too much stigma even among the medical world.

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   Posted 1/31/2008 8:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry you had an experience like that Jade.  I would definately look for a different gen. MD.  I think it is wrong for a doctor to make assumptions...almost like stereotyping.  People with BP are not carbon copies of eachother.  She should have used to time to actually hear from you what your issues are as far as BP...but to also give you more of a medical physical.

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" ~ Maria Robinson

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   Posted 1/31/2008 10:27 AM (GMT -7)   

(((hugs)))  i'm so sorry that you found a jerk instead of a dr.  it happens to all of us, if that's any consolation (no?  i didn't think so, but i had to try).  i had a shrink who was like, if you can believe it!

i have always found that just walking away is usually the best thing to do.  i know that after such an experience you want to kick somebody (ok, as long as it's not me), but let it go. 

why is it necessary to have a physical exam from a dr to have that dr treat you for other conditions?  i've always had the dr send a copy of his/her notes to my new dr.  just asking.

there was a thread in this forum several months ago about sexual proiscuity and bp.  something that i didn't know was that promiscuity is a common side-effect of this illness.  (why can't i get lucky?)  that could well be the reason for the dr's harping on the subject.  i'm not trying to excuse bad behavior, just suggisting a framework what it may fit into.

one thing i would like for you to have engrained on your heart and inculcated into your memory.  ALWAYS tell ALL drs what meds you are taking.  nteractions between drugs can often be lifethreatening.  at the least, they often cancel each otheer out.  in addition, i assume that you, like most of the rest of us, are taking meds for bp.  the names of these meds would be a dead giveaway that you have bp disorder.  mark twain once saia, "always tell the truth.  it will confound the many and please the few."
the best of luck to you in your quest for a new dr.  and congratulations in going so long without an episode.  count your blessings.  :-)
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   Posted 1/31/2008 11:32 AM (GMT -7)   
There is a website that you use to complain about a doctor.  It's at   You can rate the doctor anonymously with your comments on how you felt you were treated. 

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   Posted 1/31/2008 12:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm so sorry to hear about that Jade, it sounds dreadful. I've had doctors who don't listen before, but yours takes the cake. I think next time you need a check up, you go through the process of finding a new doc, because you're not going to be happy with her. Clearly she didn't understand that bp is a very complex and varied disorder and that many people experience it very differently. A little knowledge can be dangerous.
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