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   Posted 2/4/2008 8:58 AM (GMT -7)   
I am freaking out as my bp husband is cheating /flirting with women online and he is making all excuses to justify his behavior when i catch him,i feel insulted and heart broken ,i blame his disorder but not him but more i take him back more he is pushing my limits.i am freaking out as his behavior is very erratic and irritable with me and he doesnt want to communicate with me and starts fighting and cant talk abt the issue .gosh i feel sad and taken for granted by a man who i loved so much and he walks all over me.On top of it he;s not treating me well and with love.What should i do?where should i seek help?i dont believe in walking out to make him realize what he lost as both ppl lose much in relationship but looks like he doesnt need me or love me as he doesnt know how hurt i feel?

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   Posted 2/4/2008 9:52 AM (GMT -7)   

Is your husband taking his medications as prescribed? Is he seeing his psychiatrist regularly (every 6 weeks maximum)? It does sound, from your posts, like his mania is getting out of hand, and that would suggest he needs his medication adjusted. But how does he react when you try to talk about the disorder with him?

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It is a melancholy of mine own, compounded of many simples, extracted from many objects, and indeed the sundry contemplation of my travels, in which my often rumination wraps me in a most humorous sadness. -- William Shakespeare

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   Posted 2/4/2008 10:19 AM (GMT -7)   
Katy, This is where you have to decide what you DO and DON"T want in your life, and what you WILL and WON"T put up with. Yes, you husband may be ill with BP, but he is still accountable for his choices. It is time for you to get strong for yourself and do what you must to take care of you. Regardless of what that takes. Clearly at this time, he won't if you don't....who will? Good luck, and make your choices well for YOURSELF. LFW

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   Posted 2/4/2008 2:52 PM (GMT -7)   
Well first I would want to know if he is taking his meds, seeing a therapist.  If not then there is something that needs to be addressed.  If he is...then maybe go with him to his next therapy/doc/pdoc appointment and voice your concerns.  Part of being married to one with bipolar is to also be an eyes and ears for when something seems off. 
If in the end he is refusing to see what he is doing is wrong and needs to be addressed.  Then you need to make a decision in yourself if you are going to put up with it.  Part of living with bipolar (your husband) is taking responsibility and accountability for his choices and actions.  He still knows what is right and what is wrong...and maybe he needs adjustments med wise or therapy wise to deal with the issues

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   Posted 2/4/2008 11:55 PM (GMT -7)   


I am just going to "Ditto" my response from your previous post titled CAN BP SPOUSE MAKE U BP TOO. 


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