Bunny, you absolutely have a CHOICE regardless of circumstances about
how YOU want to handle things. It is ALWAYS your choice. You may not have a choice as to things, beyond your control, happening too you...like BP or Crohns, those are things that just are what they are...BUT...it is ALWAYS your choice how to feel about
it, handle it, and view it, or how much control over your life you are willing to allow it. When a person is feeling like a victim about
it...believe it or not, that is a choice too. They are choosing not to see that they are allowing themselves to hold it that way, respond to it that way...and by claiming no control over it...thereby in many ways justifying not being responsible about
it or how their lives are turning out based on how much power they are giving it over them. When you choose to accept what is, but NOT let it control you...then you become responsible to your own life. You can choose to be happy in spite of your troubles. You can choose to take care of yourself, and set goals for yourself, and move beyond the issues your contending with. Look at all the amazing stories out there of people overcoming adversity, illness, trauma....they CHOSE to rise above, move beyond, embrace the situation and in some way make friends with it and got on with life in spite of it. Does all that make sense? Lance Armstrong is a great example...read his book...it is great. We ALWAYS have a choice in life regardless of the circumstances we each deal with about
who and what we will be in the face of it, and how much we will let it win. YOU my dear, as hard as it seems CAN overcome and rise above ANY adversity you want. It ALL starts with a conscious choice on your part.
17 months ago, I woke up with my left leg paralyzed from a spinal surgery. I walked into the hospital that day, and woke up with a dead leg. My son's Bar Mitzvah was 10 weeks away....I was terrified. It took me a few weeks to gain my barrings about
what I was facing...BUT...once I did, I made a conscious choice that I was not going to live my life without my leg working...I made a conscious choice and commitment to myself that I was going to walk again - NO MATTER WHAT. I didn't care what anyone said to me, I decided this would not beat me. I lived in a rehab center for a bit, started to learn how to move my leg again, the nerves slowly started coming back and talking to the muscles...and inch by inch...I got there. I now walk. I don't use assistive devices or any braces. I have been in outpatient rehab since getting out of the rehab hospital, and am just finishing with it next week. I also said it wasn't going to strip me of my life....so, I got on with living too. I worked, I've taken care of my kids...but I ask for help when I need it, I rest when I need it. BTW, I also have very BAD fibromyalgia, psoriasis, severe vitamin D deficiency, hypothyroid, endometriosis, borderline diabetes, and DDD that I have to stay vigilant about
...etc. Plus, I am married to a BP, and have a teenage son with BP.
I don't know if knowing any of that about
me helps...but I thought I'd share it so you get that I understand physical adversity. It is totally up to us how much of who we are, and how much of our lives we give away to those things. It doesn't change having them....but how we give away our lives and joy....that IS our choice. Just stuff to think about
. Let me know if that method works for you with your next migraine....it does for me. HUGS...LFW
Post Edited (loving frustrated wife) : 2/22/2008 9:41:50 AM (GMT-7)