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   Posted 3/21/2008 9:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey there girlfriend!
I just want to let you know that you are still on my heart!
We are here for you, if you feel that you want to share anything with us.
Hope things are starting to come to some type of order for you. (((BIG HUGS)))

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 3/21/2008 5:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Sukay, Yes, I am adjusting to the knowledge that she is leaving now. Plans are being made what we will do and handle things which has made me feel better as well. Lastly, while the idea of finding a new therapist for me was overwhelming given I would have to start from scratch and explain everything - and go know who would believe me not knowing all the players - I told my son's therapist who DOES know us all and the situation what was happening with our nanny leaving and gaining his advise on it for the kids and explained that I was having a hard time of it as well...and why....and how my therapist who I use to go to said he couldn't see me anymore because he felt more focused on my H now, he offered to allow me to come to him. I started sobbing on the spot and he was so sweet and compassionate. When I asked wouldn't that be a conflict of interest....he said not for him. He works with us as a family with our son, and seeing me individually was in line with that for him. I said I didn't understand why our therapist that both my H and I had seen didn't feel that way, leaving to feel quite abandoned, and he didn't know, and did understand my feelings of abandonment from that situation. SO....with that in place now, knowing he already knows so much about what is going on...I feel a sense of safely having him available to me. Therefore, I am in a much better place about it all.

We won't be telling the kids until 2 weeks before, and I have offered to throw her a going away party with all her friends and us so people will have a chance to see her for the last time. She was very touched.

Now....if work and finances could straighten out...I would REALLY be in an even BETTER place!!!!!!!!! I know we are not the only ones struggling, but doing taxes brought to our attention that once again....we spent out of pocket - 41K for medical last year, and that is WITH the top Blue Cross PPO insurance!!!!!!!!!! Augh!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for caring and being here with kind words...LFW

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   Posted 3/21/2008 7:40 PM (GMT -7)   

Oh Darlin,

I'm am so estacic that your son's therapist has offered to take your case on separetly! You so deserve it!!!  yeah  You don't know how wonderful this  makes me feel. Well, how silly of me, of coarse you do because YOU for YOURSELF are also feeling so relieved about it!!!! (((Big Hug)))

 I too couldn't understand your other therapist's decision, and I can totally understand how you felt abandoned.

I will be switching Insurance Co due to my hubby's new job and was recently informed that my mental health coverage may no longer be covered by the doctor's & facilities that I currently use. I told my therapist, if that were to happen I could never see anyone else! So I totally understand your abandonment issue. For all the years that I have seen her, I would have felt that a part of me had been removed from  my life! I told her I would never see anyone else. (Although she did inform me that I would have to because I have a serious mental illness), but I was NOT accepting that at this time.

It is very nice of you to throw her a going away party with all of her friends. I'm sure this is very difficult for her as well and it speaks to her I'm sure in more ways that you could realize.

I hope things will work out better for you financially wise. OMG!...that is a lot of out of pocket expense!

I'm so glad that you touched based with us! You don't know how much your reply post has relieved me, knowing that FINALLY you have someone there for YOURSELF! We are here too! But this YOU needed and is LONG OVERDUE!

You will continue to be on my heart!


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   Posted 3/22/2008 5:33 AM (GMT -7)   


I read your post about your nanny leaving a bit ago, so I'm glad to hear an update.  Sukay is wonderful to always be thinking of everyone :-) .  Anyway, I wanted to reply to your post that day--but I ended up doing things around the house, and then school has been nuts!  UGH!

I am sorry that your nanny is leaving.  That is sad.  But I think that you are handling the situation very well.  I am glad you posted and reached out to HW when you learned of her departure.  We are all here for you.  I'm glad your counselling has been sorted out.  I also think your plan for telling your children is great. 

I cannot imagine the amount of money you spent last year on medical.  I count my blessings all the time for living where I do. 

You are in my thoughts LFW, and I hope that your stresses ease up ASAP.  Try to really enjoy yourself with the party.  I know it will be sad to say goodbye, but from what I know of you--it will be a great party (food etc...)! 

Many hugs,


Bipolar II, Anxiety/Panic Disorder
Clonazepam .5mg as needed, Trazodone 50mg/day & Lamictal 100 mg/day

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   Posted 3/22/2008 11:00 PM (GMT -7)   
I am glad for the update.  I think of you off and on as I know from that last post, that her leaving really threw you for a loop.  I think it is wonderful that your son's therapist has agreed to see you...I think that will help you immensely.  I have no doubt that hings will all turn out for you in the end, so keep your head up.

"Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending" ~ Maria Robinson

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   Posted 3/23/2008 12:13 PM (GMT -7)   

You are handling this all so positively, even if maybe it doesn't feel that way to you. Finding a counselor is a feat, good work, and while I'm not sure why, my therapist once said that seeing my H and I would be a conflict of interest. I guess because she's paid to see things from my point of view and that includes and complaining I may have to do about DH. Whatever. You've got a good choice.

Throwing a party is a sweet gesture. Everything will work out okay in the end.
More hugs.

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Date Joined Mar 2008
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   Posted 3/26/2008 8:04 AM (GMT -7)   
mad  41 K???????
HAve you tried Social Rehabiliation Services?? (SRS)
even with Insurance at work, i still could not afford my medications or therapy.
So, my case manager suggested I try SRS..
ALL my medications just cost me $3 a piece.
Good luck

loving frustrated wife
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   Posted 3/26/2008 9:54 AM (GMT -7)   
I know that number is shocking...isn't it! But that is what it is costing us. TOTAL insanity. While I would love those service programs, I don't think we would qualify. It is just a very hard situation. Let's pray this year will be better, because this is breaking us financially.
Thanks for the suggestions and support all! LFW
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