I was recently engaged to a girl for about a year and have dated her for 1.5 years (I am 26, she is 25). She is a very nice, smart girl who has a MBA from a very well known school. Throughout our relationship, she has always acted very impulsively. She would change her mind about what job she wanted/where she wanted to live every couple of weeks. Shes had about 5 jobs in the last year. We had our share of minor fights, but nothing that couldn't be made up over a nice little talk. All in all, we got along very well and she had just recently booked the place for our wedding, got her dress and was making the arrangements.
Last summer, she began to see a counselor (PhD) because she was feeling depressed. She would talk about how life didn't have much meaning, would have random angry outbursts, and would frequently cry for no reason. The counselor put her on some mild antidepressants (which she was taken off of a few months later) and my ex seemed to stabilize for the most part. Additionally, she has always been the type of person who could sleep 12-15 hours a day if given the chance. One day of the week, she would have a decent amount of energy, and the next day she would be lethargic. She'd come home @7, and sleep from 8pm ->8am (She worked in an averagely hectic office type setting).
She has always been the type of person who is scared of guns, violence etc... Which is fine. However, a few months ago out of the blue she sat me down and told me how she needed direction in her life and decided that she wanted to stay with me, but she wanted to join the Marines (she had spoken to numerous recruiters etc...). Obviously, I did not know what to make of this because the marines are obviously NOT the type of place for someone who likes to sleep in, is scared of guns and all kinds of violence. After a few days, i talked her out of this. This obviously made little sense to me though.
Over the last couple of months, she has been facing and increased amount of external stress in her life which were beginning to affect her. We'd have 1-2 hour talks on a daily basis regarding them. Despite these stresses, I feel as though we'd drawn even closer together as a couple. Finally, a few weeks ago she began to talk about how she wanted to move to Oregon (We live in the Carolinas). She had passingly mentioned it from time to time in the past, but nothing really serious. She begged me to move with her, but I have a very good job here with no known prospects in Oregon and obviously packing up ones life and moving across the country in a week is not usually a good choice to make. To make a long story short, in about a week we had gone from living together, having a place reserved for our wedding, sharing the same medical coverage, cell phone plan etc... to her canceling all of that, getting her own health care in Oregon, applying for jobs there, and packing up her stuff to move out of the house. The night she left to stay with a friend before the trip, we both cried and she told me she knew there was something wrong with her. She said that she'd come find me once she got better. I could tell that she was scared, and she repeatedly told me how much she loved me and asked that I always promise to be there for her if she needed me.
That night she went to a friend's house, and she apparently had somewhat of a breakdown and made an emergency trip to see her counselor (PhD) (who I know additionally referred her to more of a medically oriented Dr.) and her counselor was "very concerned." She sent me a letter + left me a voice mail telling me how none of what she was going through had to do with us, how she decided not to move, and how much she loved me and how I could never know how much I meant to her. She has since told her friends that she loves me, but needs to get her life in order first. Her counselor felt it was "very important" that she remain on good terms with me.
In the last few weeks, I've spoken with her 2-3 times and she seems distant to me every time, treating me almost like a business acquittance. I've asked her to get together for a walk or something and she replies "I can't because of my feelings for you" or that she "needs to worry about getting her life in order first." I asked her if she still had feelings for me and she fairly angrily replied "I don't want to even get into that right now" and went on to describe how she first needed to find a new place to live in the area etc.... She acts fairly normal to her friends, but to me, she acts very cold.
Sorry for the long story, but does this sound like BP II at all? I know a few people in her family have it. Additionally, can anyone give me any insight as to what a BP person (If she has it) would be going through now and any recommendations for me? It has been a month now and I am still confused/heartbroken.