Mogs, I am proud of you for being honest about
this with yourself. I am proud of you for getting to the point where you realize that you deserve those things back. I am proud of you for realizing that a successful relationship - FOR YOU - would have to have that ability to communicate, for you to be heard, for you to be compassionately dealt with, and for you to be lovingly supported, sometimes that support would be helping you to move forward even during painful times...but with that love and understanding in place - and someone who strives to learn all he can about
what his loved one is going through so he can be helpful and supportive...not critical and judgemental.
The truth is Mogs, you strive to be
open and responsible for your BP. THAT IS SUCH A BLESSING! ANY partner worth his salt will recognize how lucky his is that you are this way. To accept ANYTHING less back...is not acceptable for such a special woman. And you ARE a very special woman Mogs.
I know the thought of this reality must be very painful, and no one says you have to change anything until you are ready...but the fact that you are facing this now vs. later....BRAVO to you girl. Your brave soul is shinning through again. You will find this all less painful telling the truth to yourself and YOU taking the actions you feel are best for yourself in the long run based on what you need and want in your life...vs. waiting for him to control the outcome here...you go after what you want, and if HE can't fulfill that...it is HIS problem and you move forward and YOU control your own destiny. Many HUGE HUGS to you Mogs...LFW
Post Edited (loving frustrated wife) : 5/14/2008 10:06:29 PM (GMT-6)