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   Posted 5/19/2008 6:02 AM (GMT -7)   
I had a talk with my husband and told him what most people said about him here in a different post. He was not very happy at me but,I thought I had better say something, just in case he started to read some of the things I say. He said he doe's understand what is going, But he was raised different so when I say I can't handle something or when I just want to die. Its hard for him to handle it. But there are so many times I wonder about him. He has been disabled for 16 years, and there are so many times he stays in bed all day, I have to tell him to shower, and little things but, in his eyes hes not depressed. It makes me feel even more confused, But I don't have the strength of mind to fight with him. I wish I could reach into his mind and let him see what its like to be me, and feel what I feel. He use to be in the Air Force and he did some sike test the psychiatrist told him he should be a alcoholic but I was his bottle. He's my best friend and I can't talk to him about this. It makes it so hard on me, I just can never find the words that are right, so I keep it to my self, in turn it drives me crazy. How can I make him understand??? If you can't walk a mile in our shoes. He tries to say he knows, but I'm not sure, if its me or him.

Ne Ne
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Dx June 07 Crohn's take asacol 2x3 a day , entcort 1x2 day ,lotrel for HBP , omeprezole for stomach , potassium , one a day crohn's & colitis therapy , calcium & Vit D , lomotil for lose stools , tramadol for pain , started humira in Feb 08
Dx Bipolar May 08

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   Posted 5/19/2008 8:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Sounds like he's in a rough place himself, denying his own emotions. If he admits that you're having mental issues, then he has to acknowledge his own, and clearly he doesn't want to do that. Talking to him about your bipolar is going to be like pulling teeth. He's going to be angry. I'm sorry, because that's going to be very hard on you. He's right, he probably was raised differently and taught not to dwell on problems, but clearly he's not facing his own either.

You absolutely do need to talk about your situation, though. That's why I'm such a fan of therapists. Would you consider getting one. It's like coming to the board, but you're talking to a professional who knows what you're going through.

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   Posted 5/20/2008 10:08 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree with serafena. But now that you have mentioned it to him, maybe he will begin to think about it in a different way. Let's hope anyway. Let us know how thing are going.
I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute of it!

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