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   Posted 5/23/2008 6:05 AM (GMT -7)   
All, its been a while so I figured I'd update my situation and thank everyone for their help again


We have been NC since early April and she cut of any kind of contact from me (myspace, facebook, AIM, mutual friends etc....) so I took this as a clue to leave her alone. Right after we BU she was depressed for a couple of weeks, but then started telling our mutual friends (before she went NC with them) that we wouldn't have worked out due to <insert trivial fixable reason> and started heavily going bar hopping/clubbing then. My cousin has spoken to her a few times to let her know all her old friends are there for her, and she is very chipper and has a "everything is fantastic" attitude. I took this as a clue that she has no intentions to get back with me, and to move on.

Lately, I've been focusing on myself alot and going out and meeting alot of new people. Yes, the pain is still there and it still hurts quite a bit, but I guess I am on the right track. I am focusing on me. I miss her alot, but this is the way it had to be.

I still second guess myself and wonder if I did/am doing the right thing by leaving her alone, but she doesn't seem to want any kind of contact.

Thanks everyone for their help in the previous thread and take care.

Post Edited (Brian712) : 5/23/2008 7:17:27 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 5/23/2008 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Brian,

I think you absolutely did the right thing. You could have clung on waiting for her to make a decision, but that would have just fueled the fire and you probably would have ended up with the same result. Much better to accept the situation and move on with your life. I'm really glad to hear you're getting out and meeting people and doing some new things -- focusing on yourself. That is the best you can do right now. Good for you. I'm sorry about the pain, but it will fade more with time. Ultimately, you will probably see this as a blessing in disguise.

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   Posted 5/23/2008 6:12 PM (GMT -7)   
Believe it or not, one day, you will feel lucky that you are not locked into that situation anymore. She gave you a gift. One day, you will see that. I feel bad for your pain, but you will move through that eventually and have a wonderful life if you keep doing the work on you. Best of luck, LFW
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