TL, when I came to HW about
a year ago, I sounded much like you. Somewhat of a burned out spouse seeking a place I could
open up, ask my questions, learn from those who have come before me, and a place I could fully say what I mean and not have to edit myself - as I must do a lot here at home. I am the wife and mother to BP II's, both RR. My S is also ADHD. My H and I also have a total of 3 kids, and we have been married 16.5 years. It has not be an easy road, but like you, I love my spouse. Since being on HW, I am doing better with my coping skills due to the honest nature of what those with BP have shared with me. It has helped a lot. I also stopped feeling so alone. You may want to go back for some "light reading" - LOL, and look up some of my posts. They are filled with similar issues you bring up (so you will see what you are going through is in many ways universal for us spouses), and will be filled with lots of wonderful information from others.
It sounds like you are on the right track to figure things out and help calm your environment down. I totally get the "hold your tongue" and "egg shells" life...so just hang in there. You are not alone!!! LFW
Post Edited (loving frustrated wife) : 5/31/2008 4:59:11 PM (GMT-6)