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Date Joined May 2008
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   Posted 6/27/2008 6:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi all.  Sorry I haven't posted in a while.  So much has been going on.  As you know, I started the Tegretol back two and a half weeks ago and started feeling much better.  Actually, a lot better, Yeah!!  But then I went for a walk in the park with my mom and daughter.  It was a nice day, sunny and I always feel good after exercise and sunshine.  Anyway, I started having contractions.  To the doctor I go and found out that my cervix is thinning (effacing) in preparation for labor and delivery.  I am only 24 weeks!!!!  Of course, I instantly got upset.  My baby would not survive being born this soon, he is too little and his lungs aren't completely formed enough.  So I am on bed rest.  I can't do anything.  The doctor told me that I haven't dilated any yet which is good and hopefully, by resting, staying off of my feet, we can control that.  I went back to see him Tuesday and everything is the same, thank goodness.  I have a 10 1/2 month old though and he said that I could take care of her but try to stay off my feet and not lift her very much.  Other than that, I can't do anything else.  Not even go grocery shopping.  I will do whatever it takes to get my son here alright.  But it is discouraging and worrysome.  Just when I was feeling better and enjoying life again, this happens.  I know that God would not give me more than I can bear but...I am scared.  I hope that I don't get depressed and down about not being able to do things.  My husband works and now he has to do household stuff too.  My mom is here helping some too which is a blessing.  And I can't help but wonder if all the bad upsets from my bipolar and hormones that I was going through didn't cause this somehow.  The doctor said that I didn't cause this, that it just happens sometimes.  But I still wonder.  I am trying not to worry and get upset but I can't help but be concerned.  I just hope everything turns out alright.  I don't want to lose my baby; I definitely could not cope with that!!!
Just wanted to let you guys know what is going on with me.  I come and read and respond but I haven't posted in a while.  It was hard to put words to it.
Have a good day all.
"I'm not crazy; I'm just a little unwell."  Matchbox Twenty

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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 6/27/2008 6:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm so glad to hear that you're feeling better, Missflip. You really needed some relief. I haven't heard someone so desperate in a while. I'm so sorry to hear about the bed rest. That's going to be really hard. My mom was on bed rest with me and she said it was really boring and hard to sit still when there was so much that needed doing. The key is to change your expectations, I'd bet. The house isn't going to be as clean as it was. You're not going to be able to control things now, so try to relax and go with the flow a little bit. Your husband and mother will do what they can to help, and you just do your best to accept that help (I sense you're the kind of person who has trouble accepting help) and let it be enough.

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Date Joined Feb 2003
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   Posted 6/27/2008 7:06 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Missflip,

Oh dear, please don't feel guilty in any way. Of coarse you did not cause any of this to happen. But being a parent I know how we always try to pin the guilt on ourselves.

Honey, do what you have to do to obey the doctor's orders. Certainly your husband understands and doesn't mind helping out. I'm sure he is thankful that he is able to help in some way. And what a blessing to have your mom helping out too. Take advantage of all the help. Everyone loves you and the baby and wants to help out in any way that they can.

I know it is frustrating, but try to remember that stress isn't going to help you. Try to accept that you need to be giving yourself as much rest as possible. I too had to go on complete bed rest when I was pregnant with my daughter. We do what we have to do.

My thoughts will be with you. Please keep the strength and remember that you are doing a good thing by letting those around you help you and you getting your rest.


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