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   Posted 7/23/2008 1:49 PM (GMT -7)   
I have been a member of healingwell since 2005, but for myself on fibro chronic pain and depression.
I am now looking for y'all's sage advice for recently diagnosed bipolar hubby.
It seems so obvious now, after 16 years of marriage....the walking on eggshells, wondering what will set him off this time, the irritation and disgust in his voice, the spending, the criticism the..well, y'all know where I'm coming from.
     Here is my new problem. Pat has always been manic, I have NEVER seen the down side (except for the occasional blues day everyone has). My daughter and I came back from vacation last week and find out thru him and some friends that he has been sleeping 16-20 hours per day. This is every day for 3 weeks. He was diagnosed in 12/06 with very aggressive prostate cancer and after prostatectomy and radiation, they say they can "probably get 5 years " out of him.
      He saw his primary yesterday who prescribed welbutrin, which seems an entirely rational step. BUT, the suddenness and degree of sleep has me worried. Have any of you experienced such a rapid turnaround on symtoms Please advise. I am worried about cancer has come back w/ vengeance. He had 6 months left when they caught it.
      Thank you for your time and advice-this site has kept me from just bashing my head against the wall so many times-LOL!!
       Hope it is a good day mags

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   Posted 7/23/2008 3:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello bayoyb2,
I'm so very sorry to hear this news about your husband.
I would get your hubby to the doctor asap!
What does he have to say to you? Is he hurting, is he just fatigued or is he feeling depressed?
In any case, please make an appointment for him asap to find out what is going on. Nothing should be making him sleep this much and they need to find the root of it.
My heart goes out to you, your husband and family.
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   Posted 7/23/2008 5:29 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi bayoub2,

Welcome to the bipolar forum. I hope we can offer you some advice and community.

It's not uncomnmon for someone with bipolar to have a mood change that quickly but this is new to him, so I would definitely call his psych. Either he's started a major depressive episode or something else is wrong, which you'd want to know about anyway. Make sure to tell the doc the whole story. He can't continue on like that and needs treatment.

Good luck,
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   Posted 7/24/2008 5:34 AM (GMT -7)   
thanks sersfena-primary put him on welbutrin but onset is so sudden and severe, inlight of his cancer that we are contacting urologist for oncology referal this am-let u know thanks

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   Posted 7/24/2008 9:58 AM (GMT -7)   

bayoub2, welcome. All the descriptive things you wrote are what my house is like quite a bit, and mine IS regulated on meds (so while ALL they symptoms still exist...I suppose they are milder than they normally would be which would make it totally unlivable...) so you have my deepest empathy as a spouse as well because BP is simply hard for ALL parties to the sleeping that much ABSOLUTELY get him to the doctor ASAP... do not pass go. Demand his oncologist sees him TODAY. THAT is your first priority. Additionally, contact the pdoc and give him a heads up what is going on with the symptoms. Your first and foremost MUST rule out that it is not the cancer returning and fatiguing him to this level before you can definitively go to the pdoc with that ruled out. If it is the cancer again, as you have learned...time is of the essence...if it is not...then you KNOW definitively it is the BP and then the pdoc can help.

Your family has been through much, I am so sorry. Do hang in there and take the steps needed. We're here for you. LFW

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   Posted 7/24/2008 11:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear LFW
BINGO!!!! That is what I'm thinking-anti depressants can take up to 6 weeks to kick in and I don't think we have that luxury(altho I hope it is just some doozy bluesies).
I'm calling his uro (his uro onc. left town) right now....thanks for giving voice to my thoughts-sometimes I know all of us tend to rush to the worst case scenario, but, sometimes it IS the worst case scenario.
Thanks to all for time-going for my own epidural spine shots today so will try to post tomorrow.


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   Posted 7/24/2008 11:02 PM (GMT -7)   
bayoub2, You are not RUSHING to the worst case are being responsible to rule it out (if possible). And THAT is based on his history, NOT your histrionics. I get it. You just go do the right thing. I will think good thought for you both. I hope your epidural goes well too! LFW

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   Posted 7/26/2008 8:27 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Bay

I am a member of the y-chromosome minority here, so...

I was originally diagnosed with ADD. Wellbutrin XL was perscribed, I don't remember the dose. Within in days my behavior changed drastically. At the time I had a job in which I had to travel. I called in sick for the whole week when I had travelled to Little Rock. I stayed in the hotel room with the lights off and curtains drawn. I only ate a 1/2 of a small bag of Cheetos and 1 honey bun the entire week. Didn't shower, shave, brush teeth. I didn't answer the phone when my wife called. She called my boss and he just said, "he's not feeling well." When I returned home, the uncontrollable weeping began. My wife rushed me to the ER and I was admitted. They loaded me up with remeron, and it took about 4 days for the wellbutrin to wear off.

I always struggled much more with the mania's that the depressives. That occassion was the only time I had a depressive crash. I have been admitted many, many times for my mania's.

So in conclusion, I am not very impressed with wellbutrin.
I want "I wish I had one more day to spend at the office" on my tombstone.

I used to be crazy, but now I have enough money to be called eccentric.

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   Posted 7/26/2008 8:43 AM (GMT -7)   
I'm confused- is he on a mood stabilizer? Wellbutrin is not fda approved for treatment of bipolar and can trigger mania- if he's not on a stablilizer, wellbutrin could send him flying, and not in a positive way. I know his cancer treatment is top priority, but from what i've learned, the wellbutrin could do more harm than good. i would contact your treating psych asap.

Hang in.

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   Posted 7/26/2008 5:05 PM (GMT -7)   
He takes effexor and lamictal, and welbutrin as well.Sees his psych on Tues, and primary ordered sleep study and labs and did ekg right in office.
Doc gave him a B12 shot which helped for a day. Had an appt w/ urologist who first dxed PC, but doc had an emergency, blah, blah blah.
Since Katrina, the medical care has taken a nosedive and t5he few guys left are burnt out and exhausted. I take epidural shots in spine for chronic pain and my doc is so overbooked I have had procedures at midnight before.
And all of us chronically ill people know to "avoid stress". LOLOL!!!!
Anyway, thanks from all for ideas and feedback and reassuring me.
Will let you know. mags
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