I've been reading posts because many of your situations are similar, if not identical to mine. I am 26 years old and would like to consider myself a well educated woman and a good judge of character. However, there is so much that is eating me alive. I am in love with a man who has always had self destructive tendancies, but underneath all of that, he really and truely is wonderful. He comes from a very dysfunctional upbringing and like many of you, I could write a book on what we have been through together. He has finally been diagnosed as being bipolar. He did not inform me what type. I am really just not well informed on the illness and wanted to know if this type of behavior sounded familar to any of you...I would not say he has ever been "hyper" about anything, other than being a perfectionist and a work-a-holic. However, he has a temper on him, he will have "temper tantrums" and actually make an embarrasing scene in public, he goes through times where he will just totally push me out of his life and say the most evil things ever, he has bad anxiety, often will turn the tables around on me and sometimes I actually feel like I am the one who is nuts. It's like he is very happy with our home life and having me as a motherly figure and lover, but when he goes through these other phases, it is me who is being controlling for caring too much or whatever. If you could please share your thoughts or experiences with me, it would be greatly appreciated!